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How to get visitors to leave?

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Hiraeth Sun 06-Feb-22 10:59:12

My late husband used to say „ so I’ve talked and listened enough today I’m now going to bed !“ and nobody was offended ?

Zoejory Sun 06-Feb-22 10:58:55

I've heard going upstairs and returning with your pyjamas on is a good way.

Grandmabatty Sun 06-Feb-22 10:56:32

Don't invite them again!!! We are cursed with politeness sometimes, aren't we? "Well this was nice, wasn't it?" And go and get their coat. But whatever you say, avoid, "we must do it again sometime." ?

tanith Sun 06-Feb-22 10:52:58

Some people just can’t take a hint, next time be brave stand up and say well it was nice to chat but we’re both having an early night and walk to the door.

Namsnanny Sun 06-Feb-22 10:50:04

Did you stay friends with her Oldwoman70?
If do have you ever laughed about it with her?

Standing up is the best way of signaling without saying much, I think.

Aveline Sun 06-Feb-22 10:49:26

He was here by invitation for 'a drink'.

EllanVannin Sun 06-Feb-22 10:47:25

Put your coat on before you know they're arriving grin

glammanana Sun 06-Feb-22 10:47:07

Its only happened a couple of times over the years,the last time it was " sorry my eyes are closing time for bed" that got them moving towards the door.

Aveline Sun 06-Feb-22 10:46:53

Gosh. How bold. I was mentally trying these out during the last two and a half hours of his monologue but chickened out. Poor DH was looking so tired and fed up but our visitor was completely impervious.

Oldwoman70 Sun 06-Feb-22 10:45:51

No ideas I'm afraid but your post does remind me about someone who dropped in one afternoon for a "quick" coffee, it was a hot day and we sat in the garden and DH, being a very hospitable person, opened a bottle of wine. After several hours (and another bottle of wine) she was still there. I was undergoing chemotherapy and several times mentioned how tired I was - eventually I went off to bed. She still didn't take the hint and ended up having to spend the night as she was not fit to drive home!

aggie Sun 06-Feb-22 10:45:29

My Dad used to get up , still chatting , and wind the clock on the mantelpiece ! Then he remained standing , so everyone else got to their feet lol
My dear departed BIL never said a word but slid out of the room and disappeared to bed , the visitors would suddenly realise he wasn’t coming back and we would all get up and leave .

MerylStreep Sun 06-Feb-22 10:43:29

I’ve embarrassed my OH for years with this problem.
I just stand up and say ok peeps, time to go because I want to go to bed

Gagagran Sun 06-Feb-22 10:42:51

My Dad's standard signal was to get up and put the milk bottles out ready for the next day delivery. It made it clear that the evening was over!

Aveline Sun 06-Feb-22 10:37:32

That's all really. How do you subtly convey that they've been here long enough and it's time to go. This only happened to us for the first ever time last night and I suspect our visitor's monologue could be going on still! He was only asked in for a drink...
Any subtle ideas?