I am curious about people's behaviour.

welbeck

Growing0ldDisgracefully

I wouldn't go out in my nightwear, as I don't wear anything to bed, and it would need ironing first.

is that some kind of SMBD practice ?
ironing a naked person ?

I could do with ironing my neck!

The other day I saw a young woman walking through town in her pyjamas and dressing gown. I just wondered where her pride was, or was she a patient from a hospital?

My daughter had MS and was confined to a wheelchair. It was such a struggle for her to get dressed that she spent most of her time in her jammies. The MS nurses wanted her to make the effort to dress in the morning to inject some "normality" into her life but she continued to resist them. When she died and we were asked what she should be dressed in, there was no hesitation, her favourite jammies.

I’m a dog owner and I’m curious about people who go to the trouble of picking up their dogs poo only to hang it on a tree or leave it on somebody’s wall instead of taking it home with them and put it in their own bin . It’s not like they arnt going there anyway ?

I was at the local M5 services meeting my daughter a few weeks ago, and a family of 6 (from baby in arm's to 30s) were travelling wearing matching onesies and slippers...

My daughter suggested that they wouldn't reach home till bedtime so we're travelling prepared

I have never seen anyone out shopping in pyjamas. Personally I get dressed as soon as I get up, and don't put nightclothes on until I am about to get into bed. I can’t understand people who wear them outside the house, though loungewear is a different matter.

I think pyjamas, rollers and (now I believe slippers) is actually 'up to the minute' fashion for ladies of a certain age group. I look back on old photo of myself and say 'did I actually wear that?! and wonder why some of my (very critical) family members didn't say anything. I was very fashionable at the time - huge platform shoes, micro mini skirts, twiggy lashes and various hair styles and from this I went to being a hippee!

I've seen people wearing all manner of clothes outdoors and never given it a thought other than to imagine why it might be - and there are tons of possible reasons. I can't recall going out myself in my nightwear but if I did there would be a very good reason which would be my business and nobody else's.

I am constantly amazed at this obsession that everyone must shower daily. There are lots of reasons why it isn't necessary and may even be harmful for some people. It certainly isn't good for the environment or helping people struggling to make ends meet to pay their current rising heating bills.

Shawlands2000

My daughter had MS and was confined to a wheelchair. It was such a struggle for her to get dressed that she spent most of her time in her jammies. The MS nurses wanted her to make the effort to dress in the morning to inject some "normality" into her life but she continued to resist them. When she died and we were asked what she should be dressed in, there was no hesitation, her favourite jammies.

Oh Shawlands, I'm so sorry to hear that you have lost a daughter, I can empathise on every level as I lost a grown up daughter too, also wheelchair bound, following a head injury. I do hope the pain is manageable.

Riggi
Did it cross your mind for one second that the woman you saw in the petrol station might have had mental health problems ?
I think the answer is probably no, am I right?

The women being described on here and the one you saw are worlds apart.

I look back on old photo of myself and say 'did I actually wear that?!

Newatthis me too ??? None of them were PJs, but it may have been better if they had been ?

Let's start a new trend -when we go out it's full make up plus coiffeur ,evening dress ,gloves with rings on top and a tiara !

I can remember being told that it was not appropriate to
to wear a denim dress to afternoon tea .

I was shocked to see a cousin dressed in bright canary yellow shrieking with laughter at a relative's funeral .
It looked so disrespectful .
About to have a quick shop - having dozed off after lunch (my father is in hospital )I'm dressed very casually .

Talking to a friend today about going out to lunch I was visualising a dress .

This reminds me - at the start of lockdown, I got some lovely comfy velvet trousers from Monsoon to wear around the house. I also have velvet pyjamas in nearly the same colour.

Guess which ones I put on my bottom half when I went to get my eyebrows done without realising?

I’ve never really understood the need for pyjamas and have never worn them apart from overnight visits to friends. I’ve always taken a pair on holiday with me, in case of a fire but I’ve never needed them, luckily! Strangely though, OH and I have had covid for the last 5 days and have resorted to separate beds and I have worn my pyjamas each night. I have still changed out of them and showered every morning though, even though we can’t go anywhere.

posset

Thank you for your kind words. So sad we walk in the same shoes. I lost my daughter 5 years ago when she was 37. To lose a child is unbearable whatever age they are but I guess like me you learn to live with the pain.

I couldn't even answer the door in nightwear let alone go out in it. I have always worn a nightie since childhood, not pyjamas, and just feel totally undressed. I would feel the same wearing pyjamas. I can never understand the people who say they like to have a 'duvet day' or spend Christmas day wearing pyjamas.

You could if you really weren't well.

@ JaneJudge, yes showering makes sense after you’ve just had your hair done? Personally I’ve never found a shower cap that’s any good for that purpose!! ?

It seems a very good idea to me to leave your pyjamas on for a home hairdressing appointment. I go to the salon properly dressed to have mine, then have to strip off, shower and change clothes to get rid of all those prickly bits of cut hair that find their way down your neck. It makes sense not to shower and dress until it's done!

My husband unexpectedly and very suddenly left me with two very young children and I was devastated, beside myself with shock and grief. But I still had to get my kids across the park to school every morning.

My depression was so complete that I often made the journey in my PJs and didn't care a stuff what others thought. Some very kind Mums would sometimes offer to take the girls from me and see them to school, and I just retreated home and crawled in to bed again, hoping the world would go away.

Of course I got over that in time, and now wonder how I ever had the nerve to do such a thing. I expect people judged me at that time - well, sod them! They had no idea what was going on in my life, the same as we don't have any idea of what is going on in the lives of those we don't know.

If it's not impacting on your life - leave be.

I understand that level of despair.
I was the same when my girl died.

I won’t even answer the door in my night clothes. Even if I’m dressed, if I haven’t got my makeup on then I just peek round the door to see who it is. No one wants to see me like that ?

Our postman used to come a lot earlier in lockdown, I don't know why, so I'd often be answering the door to him in my dressing gown. The first time I did so fully dressed he made the classic comment about not recognising me with my clothes on.

I have really enjoyed reading the responses as I said I am just curious. I remember as a child shopping with my mum who could be rather vain and liked to dress smart. She wouldn't hide her look of distaste and point out someone in rollers was as common as muck. I wonder what she would say if she saw the pyjama clad women shopping in Liverpool now.

It’s definitely a Liverpool thing, Redhead!