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Mothers going to Hen parties!

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harrigran Sat 12-Mar-22 20:28:36

I went to the meal for DD's hen night but left them to it when they went clubbing. DiL had a family meal which I attended but was not invited to the hen night.
I was only 46 when DD got married and I thought I should leave the younger generation to it.
I certainly wouldn't attend if I was in my 70s.

Marydoll Sat 12-Mar-22 19:46:12

I was at my DIL's hen do a few weeks ago with my daughter. I was delighted to be asked.
We rented a large house, complete with swimming pool and hot tub and I had an absolute ball, getting to know her family and a few close friends. The rest of the party would not allow me to do anything, as MOG and spoiled me rotten, insisting on daily lateral flow tests, as I was CEV. I was a bit overwhelmed that they were so concerned about keeping me safe.

I hadn't been able to meet them, due to shielding for the last two years, so it was a great way to get to know them all before the wedding.

No drunken orgies, just lots of fun and good food, including a murder mystery night. So much fun was had, that at the wedding a few weeks ago, we decided we are going to have non hen do in the future.

Casdon Sat 12-Mar-22 19:01:43

It depends entirely on who you know Germanshepherdsmum. Hens aren’t by any means all drunken, crude raucous affairs you know.

Germanshepherdsmum Sat 12-Mar-22 18:57:11

I didn’t have a hen party either and have never been to one. I don’t feel in the least deprived after some things I’ve heard.

Casdon Sat 12-Mar-22 18:56:17

I went to all my nieces hens, and my daughter had a hen weekend last year, I had a brilliant time, as did everybody else. In fact it was so good we are planning a ‘no hen’ in the autumn, as they are all married now.

Oopsadaisy1 Sat 12-Mar-22 18:54:03

zoejory probably because we had other things to spend our money on, although back in 1971 I had never heard of Hen Parties.

Zoejory Sat 12-Mar-22 18:48:13

I didn't have a hen party for any of my marriages

Oddly, my daughters didn't have one either. Son didn't have a stag do.

Not sure why!

Oopsadaisy1 Sat 12-Mar-22 18:45:38

Sister in Law went to all of her daughters hen parties and took her mother too, apparently they all had a great time.

GagaJo Sat 12-Mar-22 18:41:37

I went to a hen do of a friend about 15 years ago, where the mother & MiL of the bride were both present. The MiL got so drunk that she started using a 'decorative' whip on a young guy she met and fancied in the nightclub. It was mortifying!

Callistemon21 Sat 12-Mar-22 18:37:36

I went to DD's hen party and so did her future MIL;
the oldies went home after a lovely civilised dinner and some fun then the younger ones carried on celebrating in the city.

ninathenana Sat 12-Mar-22 18:26:55

I was at my daughters hen night as it was held at our house. Mixed ages for the Ann Summers party with buffet
Then daughter and her friends went off to a club and left us oldies to drink and chat.

J52 Sat 12-Mar-22 18:20:00

I’ve been to the hen parties and week ends of good friend’s daughters and have always had a great time. I love mixing with those younger than me, but I’m always careful not to overstep the mark!

Blossoming Sat 12-Mar-22 18:17:58

It’s quite common here.

Luckygirl3 Sat 12-Mar-22 18:17:19

I didn't go to any of them! Never expected to.

GrannyGravy13 Sat 12-Mar-22 18:16:10

I have been to all my DiL’s hen parties, my mum came with us to two of them, she was in her late 70’s and had an absolute ball. At the one in an exclusive club in Covent Garden we lost her for a while only to find her sitting outside with the DJ (a famous Radio 1 one at that).

dragonfly46 Sat 12-Mar-22 17:59:26

I went to both my daughter’s and my DiL’s hen dos.

Kate1949 Sat 12-Mar-22 17:46:32

In fact I can't think of anyone I know who didn't go to their daughter's hen night.

Beechnut Sat 12-Mar-22 17:44:47

I was invited to my daughters hen weekend and I had a lovely time. I don’t think mil to be was invited. I would not have been offended if she hadn’t invited me.

Kate1949 Sat 12-Mar-22 17:42:40

I went to our daughter's hen night as did her mother-in-law to be, and my sisters. This was 20 years ago. Hen dos weren't the elaborate affairs they are now. We just went into town in a limo and had a meal.
DD's friend got married about 3 years ago and had three elaborate hen dos.
A weekend away, a meal and a party.

Grandmabatty Sat 12-Mar-22 17:40:54

I was at my daughter's hen do. She had two : one for friends and the other for family and older friends. Both me and her mum in law to be were invited and grandmothers on both sides. We had afternoon tea then went for drinks. We all had fun and felt very wanted. Each to their own, I suppose.

foxie48 Sat 12-Mar-22 17:35:32

Someone I know is spending the weekend on her daughter's hen party. My younger daughter is unmarried but at an age when a lot of her friends are getting married and she's certainly been to quite a few hen parties but they've been for friends of the bride to be, certainly no mothers or other older relatives have been there. I'd be most surprised if she invited me to hen party, should she ever have one, and tbh I wouldn't want to go. The last family wedding I went to had a very pleasant meal the night before but this was for relatives and certainly not a hen party. What do others think?