Preferably not much fuss at all. I will always get a card and a token sort of present from dds and dh, and now she’s old enough, a card made by Gdd1, but I really don’t want them - especially dds - to spend a lot of money, and I certainly don’t want any more ‘stuff’.
Last recent birthday we were invited to a dd’s for dinner, and she had made a cake, decorated by little Gdcs. That was lovely, I wouldn’t want anything more.
Having said that, a lot more was made of my Big birthday a few years ago. Despite my having said ‘No fuss!’ dds and dh had booked a large house for a weekend, so that more distant family members could come.
Although I had wanted no such thing, I did really enjoy it anyway.