Hairdresser - a bit of a rant!

It has such a negative effect on how you feel doesn’t it. My hairdresser has made a mess of my hair this time and every time I look in the mirror it’s OH!

She’s usually ok, not brilliant.Very hard to find someone who knows what their doing here, and when I do they don’t stay in the area for long. I sympathise.

The trouble with photos, certainly with shorter styles, is they don’t show the detail of how your hair sits. Mine is short, and layered, but in photos, sometimes it can look like one long length.

I would have thought she’d have known this though. Maybe that’s what the questions were all about. It’ll soon grow out, and you never know, you might like it. I’m getting mine cut this afternoon. Never really like it the first few days.

Perhaps a new hairdresser is the answer ?

Oh Witzend, I do sympathise. I have just come back from having my hair cut. I go every 6 weeks and last time I did ask for it to be slightly shorter. This was fine, and today she has cut more than the usual half inch. I'm hoping it will look OK after a wash, but that will have to wait, as the car is covered in Sahara sand and also needs a wash and brush up.

Do you have any friends who may point you in the right direction as to good HDers ?
I keep my hair long now have done for years, so I only need bother with a straight trim across the bottom and my fringe trimmed its still amazing how many stylists can't even do that properly.

Years ago I had shorter layered hair and cuts were always hit and miss, as was styling. So glad I grew it long again. Easy to cut and no faffing about. I will never ever have it short again.

My young hairdresser is usually ok I ve only had her the last couple of years as my hairdresser (who always got it right) died very tragically and suddenly
I cannot really see what is wrong but somehow each cut seems to get a tiny tad away from what I want but I can’t put my finger on what is wrong
It just doesn’t have the same look I m wanting, but I can’t see what could put it right or even what’s actually different my daughter says looks the same to her ??‍♂️

I think a really good photo should show enough detail. I've often found that one hairdresser might be very good at cutting and another better at styling but not always both.

It's probably worth the effort of going elsewhere OP, maybe somewhere that's a bit trendy. It might be more expensive but worth it if you get what you want.

I go to a young woman just around the corner and have no complaints.
For example, when I started with shingles in my left ear I impulsively chopped all the hair off on that side. To cool it down. Eventually when it was a bit better I went to her and asked her to tidy it up and make both sides the same. She managed to make it into a neat bob.
I think covid has had a bad effect on hairdressers' business, male and female, and she's lucky to be still there, she still has to pay rates etc and hasn't put her prices up.

I am glad I have had my one for going on 50 years now and although in her 70s herself she still comes to my home to do it, apart from when she goes on holiday. I get my granddaughters friend in then to wash and blow dry it.
I am a very lucky lady to be able to do this.

I think some hairdressers will try and convince their customers to have layers put in again as they know that if hair is highly styled, there's more upkeep and trips to the hairdressers to keep it looking neat , which in turn means more £££s for them.
I have some friends who grew their hair longer and one length during the lockdowns and they looked fabulous, but now they're nearly all sporting short, rigid layered bobs again.
They've obviously been talked into it by their hairdressers. Which is a shame as I think their longer hair t had movement and took years off them.
I think hairdressers hated the trend for long lockdown hair as it meant their regular customers weren't turning up every six weeks like previously.
Cynical I know.

I used to go PP (pre pandemic) for a regular trim with layers. During the last two years it has grown and is now almost nipple length. I wear it up most days and have learnt, thanks to youtube, how to do a French twist. I can do my own fringe and my sister has taken a bit off the length to tidy it up. I had long hair until I was about 30 and used to have lots if split ends, strange thing is I have no split ends at all now. Maybe shampoo and conditioner are better these days.

The problem with taking a photo and saying I want this, is it is a totally unrealistic expectation. It all depends on what type of hair you have in comparison to the model. Is yours thicker, thinner, coarser, finer, curlier etc. My hair is thin on top but double thickness at back. Your hairdresser should have explained all this to you and you could have decided what was achievable and acceptable. I’d rather go to the dentist than the hairdressers.

It was a photo of me, Honeysuckleberries, taken just a very few years ago - maybe that wasn’t clear - with my hair in a style the same HD had cut.

I sympathise with you. My hairdresser left during lockdown and now I have another supposedly London trained. Not bad cuts until last time ,DH said it did not look right.
I went yesterday and came home to be told I looked like a mad monk without the tonsure.This morning it looked like a mop.
O.K. I have very thick extremely straight hair which I am allowing to go grey but this was the sixth time it had been cut by this person surely they know by now how quickly my hair looses its blow dry, it's texture and how it lies.
I have rooted out an old set of heated rollers and thinned the fringe out myself put styling cream and hard setting spray on it now looks like a helmet.
DD on FaceTime this morning said just give in and go back to a bob but that will take at least a year it is so short at the back.
I could scream but I am almost sure I am going to take her advice.
Big question though do I find a new hairdresser or let the one I have ,battle on with it?
Or as a worst resort go to the village lady for the obligatory frizzy perm with short back and sides? All her clients look the same including herself though hers is blonde.

So sorry W, missed that bit. It makes me more certain hairdressers are worse than dentists.

I don't see anything wrong with asking questions to clarify what you want done. If they actually listen and do it!

I go to a senior stylist in a good hairdressers and I have never been totally happy. I don't expect to like it for a least a week. I've never found a perfect hairdresser. But I'm OK with that. I feel comfortable and she does it pretty well.

I can’t explain to them how to do it, though - that’s the trouble. I’d have thought they’d know - or ought to - isn’t that their job? Especially if they’ve been cutting your hair for 15 years!

The only really brilliant hairdresser I ever had was a Lebanese bloke in a hotel in Oman. He just knew what would really suit you, and just did it. Oh, to find another like him…

Think I’m very lucky with my hairdresser, he’s amazing and I always come out of the salon feeling fabulous. He’s not cheap but to me it’s worth it, thankfully he’s only 42 so expect to have him for a lot longer.

This is why my hair is shoulder length - I trim it myself and wear it up or down as the mood takes me. This way I do not have to rely on hairdressers, pay a fortune and then come out feeling really fed up with it.

I went yesterday and no, again I'm not happy! But she is better than other hairdressers round here.
She's lovely but she said mine wouldn't look like the style in the photo because I don't have streaks.

Longer hair doesn't suit me or suit my unruly hair Luckygirl so it's a short bob but not like the one in the picture!
She managed it the first time I had it cut after lockdown so why not this time?

to be told I looked like a mad monk without the tonsure
???

Apparently mine's a haystack!!

A word of praise for one I once tried, though, years ago and near MiL’s so sadly a one-off, since we were usually an 8 hour flight away.

At the time I had long hair, very fine, but an awful lot of it.
He took one look and said to the girl who was going to wash it, ‘Don’t rub it - that sort of hair will go into a million knots.’

Exactly what I’d always said to anyone washing it - which they invariably ignored, and afterwards would proceed to try to untangle it by tearing it out by the roots.
I would often have to take the comb and do it myself.

If a hairdresser does not cut my hair to my satisfaction, I just find myself a new hairdreser.

I do sympathise. I used to go to what is considered the best hairdresser in town but I became aware that actually they just had the most upmarket shop fittings. I now go to a young girl in a small salon who has no trouble cutting a straightforward bob with fringe which I have gone back to since lockdown.