Hairdresser - a bit of a rant!

In the past I’ve found good hairdressers then they have suddenly upped & left the salon, of course they never tell you where they have gone (I don’t think they are supposed to) so you end up booking in with someone else who is probably not as good and doesn’t know your hair. I find even good hairdressers can get a bit complacent when you have been going a while so a change is good. I would love to have the confidence to walk into a salon and say do what you think and have complete faith I’d come out looking good, I usually chicken out and ask for ‘just a trim’ Anyone remember The Salon that used to be on Chanel 4 early evening, I enjoyed watching that, wish they’d bring it back.

I am just about to change my hairdresser, apart from the fact I find her irritating, she cut my hair far too short again last time in spite of me asking for only a bit of a tidy up! Grrrr!!

I have been with the same hairdresser for 30 years. I count him as a friend now! But in that time my hair, face, skin tone etc has ,inevitably, changed. What worked even a couple of year ago is not right now as my hair is not as thick or curly as it was. So maybe trying to go back to a previously successful style has not worked because hair texture, thickness etc has changed?
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I truly sympathise, every time we move house I end up travelling to my old hairdresser for about a year until I pluck up the courage to try a new one. There’s been plenty of disasters. I’ve just had 1 cut with a new local one and I’m already thinking of going back (2 hour drive) to my old one, as it’s not quite right , as you say can’t put my finger on it but it’s just not keeping to style as it grows. It just not such a good quality cut I think. I have a long bob with layers (as it’s massively thick it needs a bit of thinning out) . If you find a good HD who gets you what you need hang on to them for as long as possible.

Farzannah, I'm another with fine straight hair with a will of its own, I have had a fringe all my life, not from choice but because my hair will always fall forward over my face, no matter what I do.

I go to an expensive hairdresser who cuts really well, but anything else and I look like a bag lady.

You could cut some people’s hair with a pair of nail scissors and they would still look good.
With fine straight hair every cut shows ?

I had my hair cut into a pixie a couple of years ago. Tried growing it but no matter the length or style I asked for I always got a bloody pixie cut again! Atm she's on maternity leave & I've let grow so fingers crossed ?? a different stylist at the salon will cut it into a nice bob for me.
Re not rubbing your hair my daughter told me (& I asked a stylist if it was true) you shouldn't rub your wet hair with a towel you should use a tshirt ??

Thanks holly. Will have a look.

Farzanah here you are, there are different lengths and I cut mine myself as don’t want them too long. I paid £8.99!
I spray them with dry shampoo to take the shiny look off and then they look more natural, The fine wire goes over the top of your head and is unnoticeable when you pull your hair over.
I also pop a couple of clips in for security.

madeleine45, you reminded me of the Lebanese bloke I used to go to. I had long, fine hair, pretty much straight, but maybe because of the hot climate it started to go wavy, so a much shorter cut was called for.

I left it to him - while saying that I couldn’t cope with anything that needed clever blow drying.
Once done he said, ‘You just shake your head and it’ll go..’
And it did - I didn’t even need to dry it. Brilliant, since I was in pool and sea quite a bit.

When I collected little dd2 (then maybe 2.5) from playgroup after that first short cut, she said, ‘You look nice, Mummy - like a lady!’ ?

Follow Dominique Sachse on Instagram. She gives great hairstyling tips for 50+ women that are achievable!

hollysteers what’s a halo extension please?

Nothing worse than a bad haircut, if your hair isn’t right, nothing is!

The thing with hair is that it grows so you are not stuck with how it is forever. I think you should ask friends where they have their hair cut and if they reccomend them.

In our ‘mature’ years, we usually know what suits us, having been through various styles. I’m back to longish, highlighted hair, no fringe, similar to Jane MacDonald. During lockdown, I tried a DIY colour, really dark as in my youth and it put years on me.
I agree re dislike of going to the HD, I hate being fussed and my present HD doesn’t take much notice of me, which I like! HD have always made me feel self conscious, but not this one (15 miles away). The salon is friendly and fast. If I could leave my head behind I would…
My hair is thinner now and I often use a halo extension, no damage to my hair and gives it body. Excellent match too.
Ah, hairdressing abroad, best cut and blow dry was in a hotel in Madeira. She must have just looked at my face and knew right away what would suit. Came out with lovely bouncy hair.
My MIL (a character) would pop into the men’s barbers in the village years ago and had a fantastic 20/30s style from her youth with the back shingled. She couldn’t be faffed with a ladies salon.

Only one hairdresser has cut my fringe properly in years and years. She worked at Disneyland Paris and it looked really lovely
Sadly won't be going there again and no longer have a fringe

Snowberry, hairdressers were shut for the entire lockdown, so there weren’t any cuts going on for months. Layers help shape hair to the head, quite important for shorter styles, and easier to maintain for customers.

Oh, please post something everyday. You have my sense of humor and I laughed out loud all through your post. I apologize if it seems like I'm laughing at your expense. I really am not. I am laughing at your language visuals. I know what you mean. I have had a couple of haircuts that made me look like a defrocked nun. I would maybe have the sides trimmed up a bit more and have the top scissored well. Then use lots of styling goop to give yourself a bit of a spiky hairdo. If not too extreme, and dyed purple, this look is good on ladies well into their older years. Obviously, I don't know your age. I'm just saying. Is there anything else you might wish to complain about? I could always use a good laugh. Good luck!

I've got quite a young hairdresser and have been using her for about 7yrs, since before she was properly qualified.
She always does a good job and isn't very expensive either.
I went to see her yesterday and said I wanted something a bit different, gave her the name of a TV personality who is about 10yrs older than me but whose hair makes her look considerably younger. My hairdresser knew straight away what I was looking for, said she thought it would look great but the style had layers (which mine didn't) and I said great, go for it. I walked out of the salon 30mins later, absolutely beaming, it looks great and is easier to manage than it was before I went in.
I love my hairdresser.

I went to a stylist - highly recommended on our local Facebook page. I showed her photos and said I wanted to keep the curliness and didn’t want a full heavy fringe, well, she took the hairdryer and shaped my fringe into a thick sausage shape obviously she hadn’t listened to me. Nobody could tell I’d had a cut because it didn’t look shorter and it was exactly the same as before - except for the thick sausage fringe. She was very pleasant and chatty but hadn’t got cutting skills

Skydancer I have bought a few hair claws and clips from a brilliant site called Tegen - no connection to me. They have videos on their site on how to use their hair accessories to put hair up and try different styles, which Ive found very helpful.

I thought that it was just me,
Farzanah.

Each time I have tried a new hairdresser, the first cut is fantastic, outstanding but at each subsequent visit I am less and less pleased.

The hairdressers seem to listen less, talk more and the original cut just disappears.

Why?!

In my experience hairdressers who can cut short hair well are rare, outside of the big-name salons. Many hairdressers are good at styling longer hair and are not interested in shorter styles, so finding a good short-style person is imperative. I had been going to the same place for years but the person who did a good job left and her successor made such a hash of cutting my hair I knew I had to move on. A friend had a good short cut and she recommended the person who did it, a young man who is now running his own business and still cutting my hair nearly a decade later. Try to get a recommendation and if you find a good one, hang on!

Madeleine45 I also used to go Vidal Sassoons as a model in my long distant youth. It gave me an understanding of what a good cut should be and I think I’ve got an expectation of the same standard but have rarely found it since.

I posted on here last week about my frustration at not being able to get a good cut with my thick wavy curly hair
I’ve feel like I’ve been on a helterskelter journey through endless hairdressers and endless disappointment, I’ve had razor cuts pixie cuts bobs, mullets, wedges, asymmetrical cuts (accidentally) my hair has been straightened, thinned, layered, permed etc

I was advised on here to look for a Vidal Sassoon trained stylist - it turns out there’s one up the road from me who I’ve not been to before. - so I’m going to go and talk to him about my hair to try and get an idea of him. My friend swears by her stylist and her hair always looks really good but it’s a 100 mile round trip for me.

In the meantime I’ve got a plan - I’ve been studying my hair shape and growth etc and looking through old photos to see what suited me and what didn’t - there’s endless short overly layered cuts and short choppy fringes! I’m growing out the layers as much as I can and am going to try trimming it as the layers grow down. I’m also clipping my fringe off my face to grow it out.
Once it gets a bit better I’ll decide what to d and whether to try out one of these hairdressers or keep going with my plan

I have a theory that the reason most women don't do a great cut on other females, is that subconsciously they don't want them to look better than they do, lol. Seriously though, I have only ever found one female hairdresser in my whole lifetime who did such a good job that I walked out to the salon feeling 10 years younger. Unfortunately, I couldn't afford to go to her regularly, and when I eventually could, she had gone. Other than her, the only times I've walked out of a salon happy with my hair is when a man had cut it - again, my theory, is that men actually like you to look great!