Vanity thy name is woman (yes I know it’s a misquote)

Grandmabatty

Fanny your comment seems rather flippant towards the OP, considering her sad news. I may have got it wrong, of course, as tone is difficult to ascertain.

It’s because she said that she was crying.
I was offering her a metaphorical tissue, just as I would pass her one in real life.
I also gave her ‘a massive, massive hug’ up thread.
I’ve ‘known’ Lucca for a good while.
I have sent her an email this morning.
I’m not happy at all about having to reply like this on Lucca’s thread, (sorry Lucca) but I really needed to clarify things.

Grandmabatty

Fanny your comment seems rather flippant towards the OP, considering her sad news. I may have got it wrong, of course, as tone is difficult to ascertain.

We are all different of course but sometimes a bit of lightheartedness is a welcome relief in these situations. And from my experience of Fanny’s posts, she is concerned and caring. And from my experience of Lucca, she has a sense of humour

Grandmabatty

Fanny your comment seems rather flippant towards the OP, considering her sad news. I may have got it wrong, of course, as tone is difficult to ascertain.

I think you might have.

What polly said.

Grandmabatty

Fanny your comment seems rather flippant towards the OP, considering her sad news. I may have got it wrong, of course, as tone is difficult to ascertain.

I think in response to me saying you’d all made cry !

I didn’t take it as flippant don’t worry

Grandmabatty

Fanny your comment seems rather flippant towards the OP, considering her sad news. I may have got it wrong, of course, as tone is difficult to ascertain.

Can't speak for Lucca, of course, but that kind of remark wouldn't bother me.

What I couldn't stand was people who put their heads on one side, gave a little smile and said, in a faux-sympathetic voice, "And how are you?"

Then I am happy to be wrong. As I say, sometimes tone is difficult to ascertain.

Lucca, I've always liked your style but even more so now. I already knew of your diagnosis from previous mail. I'm so pleased and excited at your faith in your oncologist. Wonderful. Such positivity is a joy to behold. ?

Lucca so sorry to hear your diagnosis. It's a tough call. Vanity, does anyone really care? Treat yourself to an array of wigs, scarves, headbands, whatever takes your fancy. Rabbit on all you like - the trusty Gransnet team will support you all the way. Take good care

Grandmabatty

Then I am happy to be wrong. As I say, sometimes tone is difficult to ascertain.

Yes, true.
It's difficult to judge online without tone and expression.

for Lucca one strong lady

Lucca
Just ? for you

Just a big hug Lucca hair or no hair you’re a queen xx

So sorry to hear your news Lucca you are one brave lady and I know you will meet whatever the future brings with good humour and fortitude.
God bless ?

sodapop

So sorry to hear your news Lucca you are one brave lady and I know you will meet whatever the future brings with good humour and fortitude.
God bless ?

Fortitude…
That reminds me. You know when you say “these things are sent to try us” ?
An old guy I worked with once said the rest of that saying is..
“.. we must bear them with Christian fortitude and strength”. Love that,
I’m a non believer but I’ll give the F and S my best shot

And, we are here behind you lucca.

And, no doubt will continue to disagree with you on other threads. IYSWIM

Lucca, I am so sorry to hear your news. It sounds like you are chin up and taking it with as much positivity as possible.

And as to vanity, I think we are all in some small way. Carry on with the wig if it is comfortable, and put some lipstick on if it cheers you up. Big supportive hug from me.

kittylester

And, we are here behind you lucca.

And, no doubt will continue to disagree with you on other threads. IYSWIM

How very dare you !

I’m so sorry to hear your news Lucca, I think of you listening to Perfect Symphony, keep on enjoying the good things.

So sorry to hear about your diagnosis lucca I have been a member of a cancer support group for around 10 years. many of the members undergo a stem cell transplant which is a pretty awful ordeal for most of them, but the thing that really seems to terrify most of the women is the thought of losing their hair. The man not so much, my husband hardly seemed to notice his had gone. I wouldn't call it vain, it's just that people pretty much comment on our hair from the time we are in the cradle and it becomes part of our personality. Here's hoping you and your wig are going to be around for a long time yet.

Un forte abbraccio, Lucca X

Lucca, I’m sorry to hear the sad news. Yes, please accept all treatments offered and I do hope that something will work and you will have extra, good years ahead.
Did you read yesterday about Nikki Chapman (from TV) ? She was diagnosed with a brain tumour. They operated but couldn’t remove it all. A ‘slither’ was left behind. But, at the last scan, the ‘slither’ had completely disappeared. So miracles do happen. I’m not being flippant or religious. Just saying.
All the best Lucca - keep fighting

Hair loss is massive. Not as massive as cancer obviously. Rolling Stone Ronnie Wood refused chemotherapy for cancer because he didn't want to lose his hair.

Casdon

I’m so sorry to hear your news Lucca, I think of you listening to Perfect Symphony, keep on enjoying the good things.

Oh yes .
This. www.youtube.com/watch?v=eiDiKwbGfIY

Oh, buggers Lucca. I am deeply saddened to read your news and I always enjoy your very reasoned posts.

Vanity, or whatever you like to call it is important as we all like to feel we look our best. I would go the whole hog and treat myself to anything to lift my spirits.
Nothing compared to what you are experiencing but I am currently recovering from a fractured hip. Everyday clothes are too uncomfortable to faff about with and I have just taken delivery of a gown and matching palazzo type trousers from 100:stars to wear around the house and every morning I hobble to the kitchen table on my zimmer where I have set up a ‘slap’ area to apply a more presentable face to the day. Works for me and yes, to music which has got me through tough times to lift my mood to a better place.

Sending you the strongest vibes to continue enjoying life.
Much love. x