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No name on envelope bad etiquette?

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Cookhouse1 Wed 20-Apr-22 16:25:00

Who would be offended if they received a birthday card from a family member through the post with no name on the envelope? for a grand daughter? my partner did this but I’m concerned her daughter won’t be happy about it my partner doesn’t feel it matters as it will still get delivered! Thoughts please

Elizabeth27 Wed 20-Apr-22 16:31:22

It is probably obvious it is a birthday card, therefore they will know who it is for.

It may be bad etiquette but doesn't really affect anyone. Pick your battles.

BlueBelle Wed 20-Apr-22 16:52:57

Well I wouldn’t feel offended but it’s unusual so I d wonder if they’d accidentally left it off or if they d forgotten the name or something but no I wouldn’t take offence

Hithere Wed 20-Apr-22 17:31:07

I don't see the issue at all

Callistemon21 Wed 20-Apr-22 17:32:41

Elizabeth27

It is probably obvious it is a birthday card, therefore they will know who it is for.

It may be bad etiquette but doesn't really affect anyone. Pick your battles.

Not necessarily Elizabeth, the whole family might have birthdays on the same day
😂

Davida1968 Wed 20-Apr-22 17:37:53

It's thoughtless, IMO. If done purposely it gives the message: "I can't be bothered".

mokryna Wed 20-Apr-22 17:37:57

A slip of memory to check spelling and unfortunately posted before filling it in. Names have so many different spellings these days eg Antony Anthony.

BlueBelle Wed 20-Apr-22 18:21:41

I make my own cards and started making one for my friend I put it in the envelope so it wouldn’t get dirty a couple of days later thought I must post that card, quickly bunged the address and stamp on and the next day after it had gone thought ‘oh my goodness did I finish making it’ I haven’t asked her, so can only hope I had, fingers crossed

Baggs Wed 20-Apr-22 18:28:18

I wouldn't be offended but I would wonder why and think it a bit odd. Didn't your partner know the name? Or was it just a lapse?

Germanshepherdsmum Wed 20-Apr-22 18:31:53

Perhaps they were going to check Master/Miss whatever and forgot? Hardly something to get het up over and start a thread about. I expect the card reached the recipient and was appreciated.

ElaineI Wed 20-Apr-22 18:51:05

Sounds like a mistake. Wouldn't get offended. No one is deliberately doing that to offend with the price of post now. Unless they also left off the stamp!

Blossoming Wed 20-Apr-22 18:56:01

I’d think they were becoming forgetful and had forgotten to write the name on.

MissAdventure Wed 20-Apr-22 19:07:42

They probably forgot.
Why are you concerned they won't be happy?
It won't kill them to feel a bit miffed.

sodapop Wed 20-Apr-22 19:09:37

I'm not sure what you are saying here Cookhouse1 was it just an oversight or did your partner deliberately leave the name off for some reason.

timetogo2016 Wed 20-Apr-22 19:14:32

Well it could be worse,they could have written to the youngest resident.

MawtheMerrier Wed 20-Apr-22 19:20:00

Like others I imagine this was an oversight. To refer to it as a matter of “etiquette” makes it sound more like something out of Downton Abbey than everyday life in 2022.

Serendipity22 Wed 20-Apr-22 19:21:42

I seriously wouldnt give it a 2nd thought. Its wouldnt be difficult to deduce that it was indeed a birthday card. I have, twice in the past, received a birthday card with absolutely nothing written in it, I laughed about it, I saw a lighthearted side to it opposed to a negative 1.

smile

62Granny Wed 20-Apr-22 20:09:05

I have a family member who does this with every card , just gives you a blank envelope, I think he thinks I may want to re-use the envelope but what you would use it for these days is beyond me ! It has always seemed lazy to me.

lixy Wed 20-Apr-22 20:18:36

More confusing than rude I'd have thought. I wouldn't worry about it if it happened to me.

GS1 writes to my mum fairly often and always addresses it to Great-Grandma on the envelope. The postman has been amused by this for a while but knocked on the door to deliver by hand the letter addressed to GGT. GS claims he was saving ink!

Callistemon21 Wed 20-Apr-22 20:19:51

Serendipity22

I seriously wouldnt give it a 2nd thought. Its wouldnt be difficult to deduce that it was indeed a birthday card. I have, twice in the past, received a birthday card with absolutely nothing written in it, I laughed about it, I saw a lighthearted side to it opposed to a negative 1.

smile

We've had a couple of blank Christmas cards and didn't recognise the writing on the envelope

boheminan Wed 20-Apr-22 21:26:17

Cheer up - it could be worse.

If the stamp was put on upside down it could once have been considered treason, now it may only bring life imprisonment!

Marydoll Wed 20-Apr-22 21:29:24

We have a neighbour, a friend, who forgets to sign Christmas cards.
We all know who it is from and it has become a standing joke among us.

I wouldn't be offended. probably an oversight.

MissAdventure Wed 20-Apr-22 22:06:36

My mum sent me one that was "for a lovely couple" smile

Shelflife Thu 21-Apr-22 07:58:18

No name on envelope - no big deal!
What does really annoy me is when a close family member sends me a birthday card addressed to -
Mrs A ........... My first name begins with E. I have used my DH surname for a very long time and have no desire to take on his first name! It drives me 😡😡😡! Know it's traditional but really in 2022!?
I often wish I had kept my own surname - it was much nicer !!! Haven't expressed my dislike of this to my relative - she is related to my DH. Perhaps I am over sensitive?

Franbern Thu 21-Apr-22 08:37:15

The youngest of my g.children was born on her Mum's birthday - which was already a shared one (with her twin sister).

I do admit to saving a little bit of money, I put the card for my daughter (all written and put in an envelope), and the one for my g.daughter (also written and put in an envelope), but then both these envelopes are placed in another one and sent in one posting.

Pressie sent for g.daughter separately, and then my sent card is placed with this for them to open on their birthdays.

Once my gchildren reach their teens I stop sending them presents and send them money.