Pamper parties for children

Hithere

Exactly, the bday person picks the theme

It is very hypocritical for kids to see something adults do but they can't because of their age - drink alcohol, drive, get married is not included here

How confusing for a child trying to emulate their elders but they are told not to because they are not "old enough" - what kind of reason is that?
Just like "I said so"
How do we expect kids to learn to make their own decisions if adults make them for them and without being explained why?

Grandparents, if you want your gc to be safe from pedophiles (insert eye roll here), stop the behaviours you think they entice them - no nail polish for you, no makeup, etc.

Because some things are age appropriate. We don't let children stay up as late as adults, wear expensive jewellery, drink espressos, all kinds of things that you wait until you're grown up to do.

What is age appropriate is very subjective, as we can see on this thread

Absolutely ridiculous.....

What's wrong with a decaf espresso? Assuming the child is interested in coffee?

Soda has more caffeine and chemicals than that

Putting mum's lipstick on and a bit of sparkly nail polish is one thing.
But these pamper parties give the message to girls that they will only look nice if they spend lots of money 'enhancing' themselves.

I think you know what I meant Hithere.

Snowerryz

Isn't that what adults do, especially women, enhance themselves?

Why tell kids it is wrong to do that when it is the message they see everywhere?

"Dont so what I do, do as I say"

So you think little girls should wear foundation and lipstick and mascara Hithere, because their mum or granny or auntie does?

It’s not a matter of telling children that it’s wrong to wear makeup, which of course it isn’t, it’s telling them that it’s something older girls often do if they want to. There are so many things that it’s fine for adults to do but which are not appropriate for children. Wearing makeup is one of them.

'The bday person picks the theme' - eh no, not in this house. If I'm organising and paying for the party, I'll be picking the theme, thank you very much - although I would be picking something that I know the child likes and is interested in (but not a pamper party!)

I've been following this thread with interest and realise I have mixed feelings about the issue of young children and pamper parties, make up etc.
I actually think there's a kind of class issue (duck behind sofa!). Can you imagine seeing any of the royal children with nail polish, make up or with pierced ears?

I agree Blondiescot and Farmor. I said up thread that I think nail polish and makeup on very young girls looks common and am surprised that a few bricks haven’t been thrown at me, but that’s how I see it.

Vintage

It is very clear in my comments that I highly object to the beauty standard for women today

Apologies but I'm finding your comments a bit unclear.
But apologies if I took you up wrong.
I thought you were endorsing make up etc for young children

I don't mind young girls wearing nail polish or a bit of lip gloss or sparkles for fun.

It isn't full make up.

Moderation and context matter.

Farmor15

I've been following this thread with interest and realise I have mixed feelings about the issue of young children and pamper parties, make up etc.
I actually think there's a kind of class issue (duck behind sofa!). Can you imagine seeing any of the royal children with nail polish, make up or with pierced ears?

I'll duck for cover with you.
I agree.
There are some lovely photos of Princess Chaelotte this morning. She looks so fit, natural and healthy.. She looks just how a child should look.
Like a child.

Nobody I know would have the kind of money for pamper days, so I suggest it might be a more "middle class" thing.

MissAdventure, I disagree - and think of it as a 'lower class' thing - or vulgar, quite frankly. The women around here who haunt the beauty parlours, hairdressers, nail bars etc. (those with the funny cartoon eyebrows and pouty lips) are certainly not middle class.

What kind of role models are they? There's a huge difference between looking your best and looking like a clown!

Ah, so the people who think it's fine on this thread are lower class then?
I seem to have moved up to middle class.
That's nice for me.

Blimey there are some judgemental people/comments on this thread.

We are discussing a children's birthday party, surely if that is how a child wants to celebrate their special day (and a birthday is a special day however old you are) we should just let them be happy play acting for a couple of hours.

Having a pamper party does not mean that they will from that day wear nail varnish, make-up and start a life long journey of face fillers, large eyebrows, false nails and forever be common

But what you are play acting at surely matters? Would you be happy for a child to want to have a pretend 'drinks party' for her birthday, like mummy did? And invite her little friends over for mocktails and nosecco and shampagne?

I wouldn't and I wouldn't be happy for my child to get invited to such a party.

Having a pamper party does not mean that they will from that day wear nail varnish, make-up and start a life long journey of face fillers, large eyebrows, false nails and forever be common

^But it won't just be one pamper party they attend. All the friends who attend will probably also want a pamper party.
And if it becomes the norm then it^ could very well lead to some of these girls eventually becoming young women who spend ££€£ on treatments, because they've been conditioned to think that their natural selves aren't good enough^.

So We will have to agree to disagree.

I’m with you Vintage and Snowberry. Tacky.

Hetty58

MissAdventure, I disagree - and think of it as a 'lower class' thing - or vulgar, quite frankly. The women around here who haunt the beauty parlours, hairdressers, nail bars etc. (those with the funny cartoon eyebrows and pouty lips) are certainly not middle class.

What kind of role models are they? There's a huge difference between looking your best and looking like a clown!

So judgemental ?

No, a perfectly valid point of view.