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Would you "come back' as a man?

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MissAdventure Tue 03-May-22 08:27:01

Assuming the option was available?

snowberryZ Thu 05-May-22 13:27:50

He is now a woman.
Correction. He's now a Transwoman.

Sorry to hear about your sister. Must have been tough on her.

TwinLolly Thu 05-May-22 09:30:07

I wouldn't, but I am a bit of a tomboy still at my age. But that is a practical and useful side of me.

However in my previous (married) life... my brother in law wanted to become a woman - he had felt in the wrong body. Needless to say, it destroyed his marriage, my sister was devastated (tipped her over the iceberg of a lot of other culminated problems and ....sadly, RIP). He is now a woman.

I can't judge. I've not walked in that person's shoes. I've had to forgive in order to make peace with myself and move on from my sister's death.

MissAdventure Thu 05-May-22 08:54:10

Ah, I'm not sure whether to hope she got her wish or not!

Newquay Thu 05-May-22 08:50:06

My Mum-poor, had a tough life-said she’d come back as a brush! Used once a day then left in peace in a cupboard ?

MissAdventure Thu 05-May-22 08:39:44

So, putting our dangly bits to one side (pardon my pun!) we have enough would-be men for a get together.

snowberryZ Thu 05-May-22 08:21:57

Oh just realised you meant WE are obsessed with dangly bits.shock

I expect its because 'the dangly bits' are one of the main differences between being a Man or a woman
Men have dangly bits
Women don't.
So can't really have a discussion about whether we'd like to come back as a man without mentioning that intrinsically male part of a man's anatomy.

snowberryZ Thu 05-May-22 08:10:22

Obsessed

snowberryZ Thu 05-May-22 08:10:12

FannyCornforth

I find the fixation with genitals extremely odd

Yes, men are weirdly obssed with their dangly bits!

GreenGran78 Thu 05-May-22 02:33:01

Froglady. A friend of mine had 3 boys, a stillborn daughter, then 2 more boys. I wonder if there's any truth in the 'old wives' tale' that some people can only give birth to one sex of child.
I have mixed feelings about coming back as a man. It would be interesting to find out what it is like. On the whole, however, I prefer being female.

Jaxjacky Wed 04-May-22 21:04:49

An interesting perspective, thank you Neilspurgeon0.
It’s an interesting question OP and I don’t know my answer, my best friends are male and I’ve always got on better with men than women, maybe because I’m female.

Allsorts Wed 04-May-22 20:21:37

Definitely not. I love being a woman.

jerseygirl Wed 04-May-22 20:16:06

no because i couldn't be a mum

mokryna Wed 04-May-22 20:08:22

Which six months would you chose out of all the years you have lived Audi10?

hollysteers Wed 04-May-22 20:06:05

Yes, if it means reincarnation, one lifetime is too short, even a long life.
Put me down as coming back extremely handsome, happy comfortably off family, talented and born in Paris.

Audi10 Wed 04-May-22 19:36:52

Yeh for six months, ??

Iam64 Wed 04-May-22 19:30:41

Good heavens disco dancer. Really, you believe white men the most discriminated against. Who makes up most senior managers, MP’s. Head teachers , etc etc. White men.

GagaJo Wed 04-May-22 19:20:47

That isn't discrimination though. As I said, it's a social and cultural thing. Not valuing education. It certainly isn't a lack of ability. Some of the bottom set boys I've taught have been sharp as tacks. But they and their families, mostly, don't regard education as being for them. To change that, it isn't just educational reform that is needed, it is a whole shift in cultural attitudes.

No, not working class boys in those institutions. They're still run by white men though.

Rosie51 Wed 04-May-22 19:09:29

GagaJo

FannyCornforth

Oh my word Jo
I can see that you don’t teach working class / under class white boys

Oh I've taught many. Despite social deprivation, they're still the least discriminated group.

Hard to break social and cultural norms and values though.

www.headteacher-update.com/best-practice-article/supporting-the-education-of-white-working-class-boys-schools-poverty-disadvantage-pupil-premium-1/233316/

Educationally they're bottom of the heap.

Not too many working class boys get far in
Governments
Business
Banking
Medicine

Saggi Wed 04-May-22 19:01:10

Yes…..

GagaJo Wed 04-May-22 18:59:35

If white men are the most discriminated against, how do they run the world?

Governments
Business
Banking
Medicine

Mollygo Wed 04-May-22 18:15:35

No. I’d far rather be a woman. Besides, if I came back I could say I was a man on the days I felt like it.

Lizzie44 Wed 04-May-22 17:50:02

Born in the 1940s and married in the 1960s I disliked my role as a housewife. So, yes, at that time I would have liked to have come back as a man. Nowadays I don't want to come back as anything except perhaps a well-looked-after dog.
There's an old joke about God distributing the "bits and pieces" between Adam and Eve. Adam is eager to be "the one who can pee standing up" and quickly bags it. Then God says "Well, Eve, that leaves you with the multiple orgasm". Be careful what you wish for.

Grannyeggs Wed 04-May-22 17:43:00

No wish to be a man Love being a woman. Interestingly a few years ago , my gs’s teacher decided to do a gender reversal in the play they were putting on and asked the girls to play the boys parts and the boys the girls. There was huge resistance, not from the children but from the parents. No way did they want that so he had to change his mind. My GS however said he wanted to do it and so came on in the undersea scene as an exquisite mermaid, really beautiful and got a standing ovation and a prize from the headmaster. He was never teased about it by his friends, he’s always been a popular child and happy in his own skin, and now at 13 seems to have no wish to repeat the performance, but he was great.

AreWeThereYet Wed 04-May-22 17:20:07

Why would I? I've had so much fun being a woman and intend to carry on. I've always done 'boy' things if I wanted anyway.

activerelaxer Wed 04-May-22 17:19:15

If we come back I’d like the chance to do something different, so yes.
Not having periods would be wonderful too. I’d probably get a vasectomy asap and avoid having children if I could, for the full self-centred experience.