Ukrainian refugee and host running off together

The bad things stick in my head. A family here in the Midlands took in a young homeless man a few years ago and treated him with 'utmost kindness and generosity' according to the judge at his trial after he murdered the woman and her son.
Yes I know it's rare and very unlikely but it makes me wary.

Yet it's the woman who gets the blame ?

It’s a bit like sex tourism isn’t it?
Only more convenient

Galaxy

Oh I have just had a little google. How strange he found the government matching service too cumbersome so arranged the match himself through social media.

god you couldn't mke it up

Oh I have just had a little google. How strange he found the government matching service too cumbersome so arranged the match himself through social media.

Daisend1

How must Ukranians laying down their lives for their country feel should this sort of news concerning one of their country womans conduct with a UK host, reach their ears?

I would hope that they've seen and heard enough about the treatment of women to sympathise.

Has this lady made a complaint.?

How must Ukranians laying down their lives for their country feel should this sort of news concerning one of their country womans conduct with a UK host, reach their ears?

she IS the victim
she is 22
a refugee
she has been sent here and into their home for SAFETY
and has been sexually preyed upon whilst an older man, her host, whilst in need and trauma
there is no discussion to be had

Galaxy

Sorry but I think he is particularly unpleasant. This is a relatively young woman, we have no idea of what atrocities she has seen or trauma she has been through. Alone in a strange country not knowing when she will return home or what is happening there. Its possible she seduced him but the more likely scenario is she was very vulnerable to that approach.
I know a women from Ukraine, she has lived in England for 20 years so not a refugee. She looks permanently traumatised every time I see her.

Yes, he a special piece of shit isn't he? preying on a vulnerable young woman he took into his own home fgs

And how exactly do we know that the young woman wasn't pressurized or threatened into running away with the man?

Or that the man and his wife were happily married?

He may be faithless as you say, and the young woman may be naive, but she could, just could, be the victim here, just as much as the betrayed wife.

This man may have used a vulnerable girl using the oldest line in the world; "My wife doesn't understand me.!

I don’t think that some families taking in Ukrainian people have thought the implication through thoroughly and are being ruled by their heart. These people have seen and experienced really dreadful things and will be traumatised. Apart from wife/ husband “ stealing “ there is a strong chance of fear, upset, breakdowns and very difficult situations to be managed by the hosts. It won’t al be compatible, making meals together and children integrating but may be some very distressing outpouring of past experience to deal with. I hope the British families taking in Ukrainians will be well supported but what if not ? Who can they turn to ?

I have many times in the past taken strangers into my home from all over the world BUT I wouldn’t do it now I m older much too set in my ways and like my independent space

The best Christmas I ever hosted included an Iranian man a chines lady a Malay man and an Ethiopian guy my kids all grown and left home called in and we had a ball we sang we danced we went for a freezing cold walk They were all lovely and I can truly say it was the best Christmas ever

I think it’s hideous the way people talk about Ukrainians being ‘like us’ what a load of tripe Skin colour and clothes make not a jot if difference

It could be argued that the "wronged" woman might (eventually) be glad that her rat-fink partner has done this. At least she knows now just what he's like. Hopefully she can move on (and perhaps in the future find a decent guy), before she wasted any more years with this slime-ball....

Kandinsky I think it is rather cynical implying a lot of people taking in Ukrainians are doing it for the wrong reasons.

FannyCornforth your Stanley Johnson story made me feel quite sick. What a slimy creep.

It should come as a suprise but sadly it doesn`t.

What a shallow man. Two weeks with a pretty face and he leaves his wife of ten years.
I just hope the young woman will be alright. She must be vulnerable and this man has taken advantage of her. Typical sleazeball.

Humans being humans, it was bound to happen. Shrug. I do feel sorry for the wife.

But as others have pointed out, all the successful refugee placements that haven't caused any trouble will outnumber the 'blips' by several orders of magnitude. I think it's worth bearing that in mind.

This sums up why so many ‘ordinary people’. signed up to take in Ukrainian refugees.
Ukrainians are, on the whole, nice looking. They look like us. ( or better in many cases )
The whole, ordinary people opening up their homes to Ukrainians, has made me a bit sceptical from the start.
Would these people take in Somalians or Afghan refugees - very much doubt it.

Sorry but I think he is particularly unpleasant. This is a relatively young woman, we have no idea of what atrocities she has seen or trauma she has been through. Alone in a strange country not knowing when she will return home or what is happening there. Its possible she seduced him but the more likely scenario is she was very vulnerable to that approach.
I know a women from Ukraine, she has lived in England for 20 years so not a refugee. She looks permanently traumatised every time I see her.

So he is proud of what he did then? Horrible.

I have a story to sell the papers ... yesterday I chatted with 2 Ukranian families and their host family. The latter had been due to go on holiday this month but the refugees arrived earlier than expected in April, so they cancelled their trip. A selfless and generous decision. The teenage children have all been given places at a prestigious independent school, along with free music lessons and additional extras. The two mothers have secured part time cleaning jobs.
But of course the papers don't want the feel good stories with positive outcomes.

By the look of it Joseanne, I’m pretty sure that it was him.
He looks very pleased with himself.
Twisting the knife.
I’ve just look at The Sun ‘exclusive’ and it was him.
It doesn’t bode well, does it.
Nasty sod

Who sold the story to the paper, the wife or the husband? I haven't read it yet.

What a betrayal of trust both sides. Sounds like instant lust not love, hope the partner gets to keep the house until she doesn't need it.
I agree with Kate also.