Father’s Day and adult children

Our daughter, son in law, and granddaughter have been today with gifts.
Maw

No I wouldn't remind them . I remember their birthdays and their husbands and children. DH very rarely contacts them, parcels arrived earlier in the week and I had to remind him to thank them. They have both facetimed him today I think he is very lucky as I am the one who keeps in touch with everyone and sends cards and presents.
He has even got me in trouble with his late mother,he said I shouldn't sign her mothers day card[which I had bought] as I was not her daughter.
I did nothing and neither did he, she even phoned her local flower shop to see where the flowers were only to be told they had not been ordered. Guess who got the tirade on the phone ,she soon quitened down when I explained.

My two always remember,i wouldn`t dream of reminding them anyway,they are adults.

Our two always remember!

Paw used to pooh pooh Fathers Day as a commercial invention by the greetings card companies, but even so, I know I am not alone in feeling more than a few pangs that he is no longer here to enjoy his children and grandchildren

to all who are in the same situation.

There was Mother's day when we were kids - but Father's day (along with Halloween) was seen as 'some silly commercial American thing' and ignored. My kids would bring me breakfast in bed and maybe chocolates (no flowers, as I'm allergic). It's never been a big deal, though.

Son and daughter never forget they bring a gift before the day or on the day if possible.

My three sons have never remembered Father’s Day. DH and I had heard of it in our youth, am sure it is a commercial invention. We lived in many countries when the children were growing up and it was not observed as far as we knew.

Mother’s Day was Mothering Sunday the day in the past when those in service were allowed the day off to visit their church and take flowers for their mother. At my Sunday School we were given a small posy for our Mums.

My two always used to remember Father's Day and Mother's Day. Actually I imagine DD remembers and gives DS a kick.

Our adult children are better than me.

lixy

Both our AC have children of their own. We met up with them, at their request, for Father's Day last weekend so the GChn can make a fuss of their Dads this weekend. No gifts, but taking the opportunity for a genuine mark of appreciation.

midgey I think Mother's Day is also a manufactured event; it has just been around for rather longer than Father's Day.

UK Mother’s Day is linked to the church and Easter.
Mothering Sunday centuries ago, children in service or other work. were allowed to go back to their Mother Church, where they had been Christened.
They knew they would see their mothers and would pick flowers on the way to give to them.
When I was small my church gave the children flowers to give to their mothers.
Then commercial side took over.

Both our AC have children of their own. We met up with them, at their request, for Father's Day last weekend so the GChn can make a fuss of their Dads this weekend. No gifts, but taking the opportunity for a genuine mark of appreciation.

midgey I think Mother's Day is also a manufactured event; it has just been around for rather longer than Father's Day.

I've always reminded my sons about fathers day and these days all they do is send him a text. They used to try and meet up for a meal and a catch-up but their Dad makes no effort. He always insisted on bringing his Girlfriend and her Daughter and the conversation always revolved around her and what she was doing. They have nothing against her but He's their Dad not hers. He asked me one day what the problem was, so I told him thinking he'd take steps to change things but no he didn't and because they know I told him that's why it's now text only and no mention or suggestion of anything else. It's his loss but he's a grown up and it's not my role any more to sort his life out. He's missing out but that' his problem.

I wouldn’t remind them, its not kept a secret, shops,social media and tv advertise it so they would have been aware but choose to ignore it. They could also set a reminder on their phones that would alert them every year.

It is the thought that counts and there isn’t any.

I always tell my DDs when it’s their fathers birthday but never Father’s Day. That’s up to them, I don’t think he deserves them moreover he hardly ever lives in their countries and as you know different countries have different days.

Three sons always remember. Unfortunately one is abroad on holiday one is at ascot and the other at work but all will text phone and have already sent presents and cards. Also have visited earlier in the week. I know my husband appreciates this.

We have two sons - 55 and 53. They both adore their father and have visited him today bringing cards and gifts for tomorrow, I have never had to remind them about Father’s Day. Our older son will spend tomorrow with his own three children and our younger son is working but they will both send messages tomorrow. I agree it is manufactured and we always tell our sons that gifts aren’t necessary but it is an opportunity for them to express their feelings for their father and he loves to read the messages in their cards.

I wouldn't

I have never reminded mine and they have, without fail, remembered their father.

But Father’s Day is completely manufactured, unlike Mother’s Day.

My ex and father of my children is incredibly tight fisted and thinks Mothers Day/ Fathers Day etc are just money making affairs. Means his daughters don't have to buy cards or gifts.

I too have daughters who remind their brother!

We have daughters who remind the sons!

We see our children a lot and thats much more important than a Father day gift ,in fact mine were warned not to spend money on presents though our Daughter promptly ignored it and things started arriving for her Dad on Thursday and still were at 6pm tonight! It is his brthday too so maybe we'll let her away with it .Son just popped in with a card and a bottle for his Dads whiskey collection ..apparently from GD no2 as athanks for collecting er from school 3 times a week for 9 years ...lol

Remind them, in plenty of time too

Not everyone is good at remembering these things and that doesn't mean the love isn't there

Why let them or their Dad feel bad when a quick text can fix it?