Why report so much ?

And hypocrisy which I have met in PM’s when the poster is oh so sweetness and light on the threads.
That is my “three’pennorth” on this subject and this thread.

What sort of thing annsixty?

MaizieD

'Ganging up' isn't always 'disagreeing with other posters, Lucca, sometimes it is exactly like a gaggle of school children targeting a particular person. I have reported it on occasion and I make no apology for doing it. We're supposed to be mature adults, not playground bullies.

If people don't like a poster follow Calendargirl's example and pass them by.

Apart from that, I have no idea which 'longstanding members' have been 'lost' because I don't stray far from one forum...

Yes I have reported posters who are obviously ganging up. It's nasty and childish and people on here should know better.

I have also reported a particular poster who can be really spiteful or hurtful to anyone who challenges them. People like that ruin forums like this one.

A lot does go on behind the scenes,that is very true.
I won’t say anymore it would get me banned but it has been going on for a very long time.

Elizabeth27

I have now noticed who is missing from this thread, for some unknown reason she took an instant dislike to SD and was negative and downright rude when he commented on anything.

I assume she has gathered her coven and they have been banned, I do hope it is for good this time, she keeps being allowed back yet cannot control herself.

Whatever the rights and wrongs of it all, there is no need to be unpleasant. She has gathered her coven is quite offensive in my book.
I won't report it, as a personal attack on someone, who may not be able to respond, because I want others to see how unpleasant this thread has become.

Just remember, a lot goes on behind the scenes, which many of us are not privy to. We never really get to know the whole story and there are always two sides.

Baggytrazzas

Hi I've just joined gn today and this is my first post. I feel as though I've joined a Primary School playground at its absolute worst. Where is the sharing of wisdom and wit that is stated in the gn joining blurb? Or are all of the previous comments on here meant to be read as being wise and witty and I've misread the tone?

Welcome! You have joined the wrong thread if you want words of wisdom. This one has descended into chaos. It happens sometimes. Start with a more gentle thread, there are plenty of them.

I'm not surprised Baggytrzzas is confused.
She's right

I have now noticed who is missing from this thread, for some unknown reason she took an instant dislike to SD and was negative and downright rude when he commented on anything.

I assume she has gathered her coven and they have been banned, I do hope it is for good this time, she keeps being allowed back yet cannot control herself.

Hi I've just joined gn today and this is my first post. I feel as though I've joined a Primary School playground at its absolute worst. Where is the sharing of wisdom and wit that is stated in the gn joining blurb? Or are all of the previous comments on here meant to be read as being wise and witty and I've misread the tone?

I've seen actual GN bullying where a few people make apparently nonsensical posts which are intended to ridicule someone.
In my opinion, people who do that are nastier than 'sneaks' who report.

Agree FarNorth. I also think it's incredibly childish for an adult group. Surely we're too old for that?

I did not suggest you are a bully.

I consider that deeming the reporting of impropriety to be sneaking is the language of the bully.

If someone is acting improperly and that activity is reported to the proper authority then that is not sneaking, it is a right and proper action.

Yet the allegation should not be deemed correct by the proper authority simply because it has been made. It is inportant to investigate and hear both sides before making any conclusion.

*directed AT me...

Bullying goes on, on here. I haven't seen any for quite a while now, because I'm not on here much these days.

But I've seen members hounded off the site. I've also had it directed off me, although I've got thick skin and am not fazed by it. I think some members are more invested in being 'in' the in crowd, because they have more time, or maybe during covid, had little interaction with other people due to lockdowns.

I'd report if someone was exhibiting hate speech (racism, sexism, bigotry etc). But I'd also challenge them on their hate speech.

I have never reported anyone. I love the phrase "what's occurring" Doodledog. Are you really Nessa? I agree with you people soon let themselves down.

StarDreamer

kittylester

Stardreamer, did you suggest I am a bully. Please reply!

I will certainly to try to reply.

Could you say which post or posts to which you refer please?

A page number and a timestamp would be helpful please.

As my post has now been quoted I will try to reply.

You're right.
I'm out.

I really think enough is enough re this thread! fg sake.

It's all incredibly juvenile. Sneaks, snitches, cowards, and so on.

A bit of victim blaming going on here.
Nobody has to inform anybody else of anything.

Its also pathetic to decide "who dunnit" without an inkling of a clue, and I suppose, could be seen as bullying. Shock! Horror!!!

There's was an unpleasant post some time ago, it was rather sexually explicit and was soon taken down. Such posts and those that are blatantly advertising should be reported surely? Perhaps the OP on this thread could be more specific?

StarDreamer

kittylester

Stardreamer or say so on the thread - don't sneak.

No, deeming the reporting of impropriety to be sneaking is the language of the bully. They call it grassing. But reporting improper conduct is not grassing nor sneaky.

Here stardreamer

There is a GN rule against having a thread about a thread and posters here seem to be testing out what they can get away with, in that respect.

I have no idea what most on here are talking about .
What some call bullying, on GN, is just a number of posters making similar points.

I've seen actual GN bullying where a few people make apparently nonsensical posts which are intended to ridicule someone.
In my opinion, people who do that are nastier than 'sneaks' who report.

Usually, I think it's best to let nasty posts stand, so the posters can be seen for what they are.

How people report is up to them, it is really juvenile to call people sneaks. I very very rarely report threads as we are adults, but if I do I will not be told how to do it. Agree with stardreamer and *MissA you report how you wish and feel comfortable with.

I didn't read it, not my cup of tea at all.
If others enjoy it, all well and good.

I think it was nothing whatsoever to do with that thread, though.
What gets people banned is their own inability to stick to the rules.

I have been reported for comments I've made before, so I had to behave myself. I didn't like it; I didn't agree with it, but I'm grown up enough to accept it.

MissAdventure

Nothing the slightest bit wrong with the humour in the cruise thread.

I think people are barking up the wrong tree if they are thinking that was the problem.

I don't read every thread.

You needn't say specifically what it is, but do you know what got people banned?

Maximillian

I don’t have the time for all that StarDreamer, I have work to do. I have read the words quoted and saw that you wrote them. I was pretty shocked, but I do not wish to get into an argument with you or anyone else so will say no more.

It is not an argument with me. I am just asking you to point out the original of what I wrote and I am happy to discuss what I wrote.

I am entitled to my opinons.

I did not get people banned. That claim was incorrect.

If someone makes an accusation and includes a quotation, the proper thing to do is to examine the quoted words in the context that they were made.