Strange attitude towards single people

I fell heavily in love with P when I was 19 and in those days marriage was the only possible option if we wanted to be together. I never regretted that decision but realise that I was very lucky; we were very different so never competed, but agreed about the really important things - what kind of lifestyle we aimed at, how we brought out children up, and our approach to money.

If I was that age now and the same situation arose we could just live together - though I do think that being married supported us through the inevitable rough patches. My attraction to tall red heads is undiminished, though!

M0nica that is very interesting because my friend got with her present partner while she was still married and living with her ex husband, her present partner is still married to his ex wife, not sure how this is linked to her believing that some are single by choice but I think it could be

Whatever you choose, it’s the luck of the draw how your life turns out, but we must be open to new things.
My mother was pressuring me into marriage in my early twenties, spinsterhood was seen as a terrifying spectre and I was lucky enough to meet the right man. He was nearly forty and I wasn’t mad on the thought of marriage, witnessing my parents. So we remained independent in many ways. My suggestion of living together was not for him.
My daughter would love to meet the right man, there have been relationships and even a long term partner living together, but I know it upsets her.
My mother used to say “Single for a reason”. I think she meant it as an unkind criticism??

Pressurising

DD had decided by the time she was 20 that she preferred to remain single and childless. Her decision was made long before the thought of marrying could possibly arrive. She may be unusual, she is not gay, but she knows herself and knew that she was not capable of making the compromises necessary for a good relationship, so she preferred to stay single.

As I said she may be unusual, but she is not unique, other men and women have made similar decisions and lived very happy lives.