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Hildagard Mon 22-Aug-22 13:50:05

Does this qualify me as a grumpy old woman! Have just been into a local Marks and Spencer.
A non service dog in the food hall! , a little boy on a scooter in mens wear, and hardly any tills open!
Is it you early for a G and T!

Skydancer Mon 22-Aug-22 13:55:28

You are right but these days people are afraid to say anything as everyone thinks they have “rights”.

Georgesgran Mon 22-Aug-22 14:05:48

I’m sure it’s ‘gin time’ somewhere in the World Hilda!

Ilovecheese Mon 22-Aug-22 14:06:23

You are lucky to have any tills, our local M & Sonly has self service.

Chestnut Mon 22-Aug-22 14:36:56

You are lucky to have an M&S at all. Ours has gone altogether.

Calendargirl Mon 22-Aug-22 14:53:48

I agree about the dog.

Can’t people go anywhere nowadays without the dog going also?

Yammy Mon 22-Aug-22 15:08:27

We only have a small M&S food and I don't like dogs in unless they are guide dogs. They sniff at you and lick and who knows what they do on the shelves ,the poor assistants seem too intimidated to ask them to leave.
The worst incident that I encountered last week, taking GD into a country cafe for a well-earned snack. We were pushed out of the way by 4 women bikers with their bikes to the counter.
Luckily GD piped up "Why have they got their dirty bikes in here gran there are stands outside." They shame-faced about turned and the owner gave GD a big grin of thanks.

Grandmadinosaur Mon 22-Aug-22 15:15:40

Chestnut

You are lucky to have an M&S at all. Ours has gone altogether.

Same here. Only got a couple of Simply food stores.

Was on holiday last week in North Wales where the store there has moved into a swanky new building. Well laid out and a pleasure to shop in. The only downside was in the cafe. To order it was a self serve touch screen offering. Goodness me is there no end to services going this way. Not impressed.

Chestnut Mon 22-Aug-22 15:58:47

It seems they will have to put signs up everywhere because people have no respect or common sense. No dogs, no scooters, no bicycles, what else I wonder?

The only way to do it is to have RULES and then the staff will not feel bad about asking people to leave. It's like the incident of a woman breast feeding in the swimming pool. Just have a rule 'no eating or drinking in the pool area' then no-one can argue back.

It seems that rules are the only way to stop these selfish inconsiderate people from annoying everyone else.

JenniferEccles Mon 22-Aug-22 16:27:17

Dogs in a food hall?
How on earth can that’s be allowed?
Talking of supermarkets, I really hate to see small (and not always that small) children sitting in the main part of a trolley.
Virtually every supermarket has a variety of different child seat configuration so there’s no excuse for a child, with dirtying shoes from outside, to be sitting where people put food.

I have mentioned it to staff on occasion and the answer is always that they ‘don’t want to upset people’

BlueBelle Mon 22-Aug-22 16:30:08

No different to dogs in restaurants or cafes a huge retrograde step
LEAVE YOUR LOVELY POOCHES AT HOME

AGAA4 Mon 22-Aug-22 16:54:49

Seems to be more inconsiderate behaviour these days.
I don't remember dogs in shops and restaurants years ago or children allowed to ride their bikes and scooters anywhere they wanted.
Were we brought up to be more thoughtful of others or am I just getting to be a grump.

PollyDolly Mon 22-Aug-22 17:00:29

It seems that there is a huge sense of entitlement amongst a lot of people, adults and children alike. There's no respect for property or personal space either. Challenge 'the entitled individuals' at your peril; you either get a mouth full of abuse. or worse still, physically attacked.
I don't like random dogs jumping at me and voiced my concern some time ago when a dog on an extending lead - another pet hate of mine - jumped up me with very dirty paws almost knocking me over and soiling my clothes. I asked the owner to control the dog and retract the lead to which she replied "shut your f******g mouth, its a support dog and I can do what I f*****g like"!
As I said, challenge at your peril.

BlueBelle Mon 22-Aug-22 17:03:07

Support dogs my foot

Chestnut Mon 22-Aug-22 17:25:19

It seems that there is a huge sense of entitlement amongst a lot of people, adults and children alike.
That is the core of the problem. It's all about ME and what I want. If I want to do that then I can, and I will. It's normal behaviour to be utterly selfish and have no respect for others. I think we are from a different world, where people were taught to be polite and have consideration for others.

FarNorth Mon 22-Aug-22 17:31:23

I do remember dogs being taken into shops, many years ago

Chestnut Mon 22-Aug-22 17:45:06

Well, irresponsible dog owners are a breed apart! Nothing new, they have always been around.

biglouis Mon 22-Aug-22 17:53:05

I have a school nearby with many young boys and girls whose parents would not approve of their mixing or smoking etc. They used to gather in the gaps between the houses (which I had no objection to) but leave a lot of litter. If you spoke to them about being on your property you got a mouthful of abuse.

However once I got prominent cctv cameras and a warning notice they quickly went elsewhere. No doubt they dont wish to be on camera in case the evidence is sent to the school and their parents get to find out.

Witzend Mon 22-Aug-22 17:54:12

I’m a fully paid-up grumpy old bag, but I don’t mind dogs anywhere, and actively prefer a pub that welcomes them.

Children on scooters, bashing into you in the supermarket, are however another matter. ?

HeavenLeigh Mon 22-Aug-22 17:54:29

We went shopping yesterday in a well known supermarket beginning with T and a small toddler in the middle area of the shopping trolley with his blanket and on his knee was a dog resembling a shitzu on his lap

Skydancer Mon 22-Aug-22 18:24:35

Totally agree!

sodapop Mon 22-Aug-22 18:30:42

Had my first G & T at 4pm Hildagard when we had a very chatty visitor.smile

I agree with most of the things posters have mentioned but not sure what the breastfeeding problem was Chestnut

NotSpaghetti Mon 22-Aug-22 19:26:00

I think I'm a grumpy old woman when driven off the pavement into the road by rude/entitled mobility scooter riders!

It happens fairly often I feel - though not as often as when I did more in-person shopping.

I really do get fed up with bikes on pavements too if they constantly expect you to jump aside.

BigBertha1 Mon 22-Aug-22 22:15:56

I hate seeing people feed their dogs from the table in cafes and restaurants. I saw one woman get out a little pot and spoon feed the dog on her lap!

Hellogirl1 Mon 22-Aug-22 22:52:28

I`m a grumpy old woman when I see perfectly fit young men climb on my wall to reach another wall surrounding the next door estate, rather than walk round, thereby dislodging top bits of my wall.