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Would you be so cheeky

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Nanawind Tue 23-Aug-22 17:54:47

Mil died recently and was only buried last week.
She didn't have a good relationship with DHs brother or his adult children.
She left everything between DH and our 2 adult children. There was a codicil
explaining why.
One of these adult children has just bumped into DH and asked about his share
of MIls money. She had been in a nursing home for the past few years so hardly
any money left.
DH was very quick in saying to this person that as it cost over £4500 per 4 weeks
then if he wants to help top up paying the bills he his welcome to contribute.
Never seen anyone run away so fast.

Would you ask if you were in someone's will and when you were getting a share.

Eloethan Thu 25-Aug-22 16:40:52

They lived 2 miles from the nursing home and hadn't seen her since 2018. How callous - and blindingly cheeky to enquire about their share of the will.

Generally, I think in normal circumstances money should be shared out fairly equally between children - but not in this case.

Pedwards Fri 26-Aug-22 14:48:32

We had similar when my DM died, DB & DSIL who lived closest got the lions share of responsibilities, I tried to help as much as I could from afar (3 hour journey away and me working full time). DB (now deceased) who lived in Australia and never visited, called or helped when either DF or DM were ill or after DF died, but after death of DM and the estate going through probate, he threatened us both with legal action as he thought we were trying to swindle him out of his share. Probate came through shortly after and the estate was split 3 ways as per the will. We didn’t hear from him again, then he died alone a few years later.