I’ve just read several days messages, so much happening, good and bad. Please know I do think about you all.
Not much positive here, please bear with me while I share what’s making me miserable. Good to get it out of my head
Our friend across the country has contracted covid in hospital, quite poorly initially she seems to be recovering, Sadly she had already been deemed to have lost capacity to decide on her future living situation. Her daughter has now been told very clinically Social Services will decide where her Mum goes on discharge from hospital, family preferences not taken into account .
There is no LPA, I’m so sad, also very embarrassed to admit cross that my friend wouldn’t make one when she was well. As you can imagine her daughter is distraught. Many tearful phone calls. I have no direct experience to advise her, researching the Mental Capacity Act I could at least send links to sections which indicate her views should be taken into account. Also signposted her to advice agencies. It’s left me feeling very upset and afraid for the future.
Today I heard long-standing friends too far away in Wales for me to help are both very ill. One cannot be left alone, his wife has to have emergency surgery next week. She was told today a respite space for her husband could only happen if booked a month in advance. She didn’t know a month ago! There could be help for a few days from her husbands daughter who lives 250 miles away, not enough. They are both very afraid. Tough, resilient people who have weathered many a health storm this has floored both of them. There will of course be an answer, there has to be, just not today.
Underlying this a legal issue has arisen about our lovely development. Ask me how much we all regret offering to be Directors of the Residents Company? As with the nature of older age existing Directors became frail or to be frank died. All residents are members, 8 years ago four of us agreed to be named Directors to protect the validity of the Company
For 37 years Directors have had to do nothing other than agree a nil financial return, the company is dormant. This issue has arisen out of the blue, there is external help but a very tight timescale. I’ve been reading reams of stuff to try to understand. We’re getting there but it is both exhausting and stressful. A manager and friend from long ago would have described it as a growth experience. I’d be telling her enough with growing!
That does all sound doom and gloom doesn’t it? My apologies, I hope it’s been OK to share with you all.
It’s not all been bad. We’ve been to the sea front a couple of times, to a shopping centre and had some enjoyable coffee and cake. There has to be cake
and possibly the odd glass of wine
. The family are well, all that matter really.
Sleep would be good now. Please understand if I’m not about much, life is taking over. Hope you are all resting. TOYA.