Spending weekend alone

Saggi

You need to find some inner resources ….read and garnish knowledge….volunteer to visit those folk who are REALLY lonely 24/7…. help the less able …. Work for a charity….watch some decent tv( not easy I know) listen to audible books….join U.3.A……decorate a room….decorate somebody else’s who is disabled maybe….dig a garden …plant a garden….pick litter left by uncaring anglers at riverside …. go into schools and listen to the ‘strugglers’ read…….and for goodness sake stop moaning!

Wow. How bloody rude and cruel Saggi

It may be that you are a little depressed. Could you mention it to your doctor. Ignore any negative comments some people can be very self righteous

My husband died thirty five years ago and initially I felt lonely but I kept busy renovating my bungalow and then I joined different groups in the village and travelling abroad alone on holidays and visiting relatives abroad until I was eighty two and had to stop because of arthritis. Since the start of the Covid epidemic I have been housebound and see no one apart from a hour a day when my help comes. I have my iPad, books Tv, Puzzle books, getting my meals, etc. Do not have time to feel lonely!

My second post on this thread, forgot to put, since having a dog I have met so many people. Also my doggie is such great company. I know some people can’t imagine this but really tbey are amazing best friends. If can’t have a dog or afford one, maybe get in touch with a local dog group and offer to dog sit or do walking. That way can pick and chose what dog you have. I’ve had small and large, I now have my first small dog and yes much easier x good luck, I haven’t seen the unhelpful comments on here, but just chose to ignore them, there are lots of good people on here ?

Try the Silverline Helpline, there people there to chat to if you re feeling lonely

I was married for 20 years and have now been on my own for 20 years and frankly it’s lovely, can do what I want when I want and yes I have friends and family but love my own time….. currently knitting

Hi Knittingnovice,
I am getting to this thread rather later than others, and I realize that it’s now Monday and you may well be at work again. I am sorry to hear you felt so lonely. I hope things will improve for you. I can suggest a couple of activities that may perhaps help you. One would be to consider a hobby or activity you can do at home and/or by yourself (possibly even in addition to doing it in a group). The other is journalling: to write down how you feel, your thoughts, your worries, what goes through your mind. Perhaps treat yourself to a nice notebook for this? I find it can really help to offload your concerns onto paper and help you feel freer. All the best!

busybeejay

Can’t believe people putting comments on here that are not supportive.It just makes the situation worse.If you can’t say anything kind then don’t bother saying anything.Barbarax

I’ve noticed an influx of new names on here, not all of them are friendly.

Have you tried joining your local U3A group. They have a wide range of groups all for making friends to stop loneliness. You may discover a new interest

I really don't like the "oh for goodness sake" attitude if some towards loneliness. People don't want to feel that way and when they come on here to talk about it they are just so hoping for some sort of virtual hug and comfort. For some cheery, outgoing people, loneliness is unimaginable - people flock round them. For some of us with more introverted personalities it's not so easy. Please be kind and think if the feelings of others.

BlueBalou

And I. Hate. Sundays too! I always have!

So do I! If I ever take my own life it will be on a Sunday afternoon.

I am not lonely but I am very close to a few who are so desperately lonely for different reasons. My heart goes out to them and I wish that the lonely feeling could go away. Its not an easy one to cure but reading this thread I think would give comfort to someone lonely. Just the amount of responses and support would brighten someone’s mood.

Today is World Mental Health day, maybe some of you could reflect on what that means instead of posting unkind comments on here!

You need to find some inner resources ….read and garnish knowledge….volunteer to visit those folk who are REALLY lonely 24/7…. help the less able …. Work for a charity….watch some decent tv( not easy I know) listen to audible books….join U.3.A……decorate a room….decorate somebody else’s who is disabled maybe….dig a garden …plant a garden….pick litter left by uncaring anglers at riverside …. go into schools and listen to the ‘strugglers’ read…….and for goodness sake stop moaning!

Dear Knitting novice.
I am sorry your feeling like this, most people I know feel like that sometimes, then something nice happens or a bit of kindness is given and you feel better. Like Grandmadinosaur, I cannot understand why people can be so unkind with their words. I'm quite sure you know all about groups etc.
Your not on your own. Lots of us feel like that sometimes. Take care

Not sure of your age, or even if it matters, but my Council (and my late Mum's one) has an emergency call system they can install...very cheaply. If you need help be it health, safety or even a plumber you press a button and they call you? Would that make you feel safer? The boxes is installed between your socket and phone, just plugs in...it is manned 24 hours a day. My daughter has one in supported housing too, so I don't think age can be an issue.

Knittingnovice

I'm surprised at some comments although I haven't said much in the post. It's not so much being alone, it's that in an emergency I have nobody to call.

I'm usually OK alone but not this weekend

Perhaps that’s the issue-having no-one to call on. I live on my own and spend a lot of time alone but I have family, friends and several good neighbours I could call on in an emergency. There’s a local social networking forum called Neighbour Next Door which might help you forge contacts in your area.

Hi Knittingnovice
Very courageous to admit you are lonely. There is nothing shameful about it either.
Sending you a big hug.
Xxx

Sad to read your message and understand how it feels to be lonely - it tends to bubble up and then into a panic. You don’t say what your circumstances are - is it just tonight you are on your own? I am 71 and have lived on my own for 30 years after my daughters left for Uni, so I am generally quite content on my own. I do admit to being lonely sometimes, usually something is going on that I want to share. I’m busy during the week with U3A groups and often relish time on my own, catching up with emails to family and friends, watching a film on tv or just having an afternoon snooze on my bed. I tend to treat myself to a nice Saturday evening supper. I have even taken myself off to the cinema! Hope you feel more positive soon.

Romola....I am so sorry to read that. Look on the list of groups on here. I am sure there is one for bereavement. Sending peace and caring x

Is there a chance that you're suffering from mild depression, with the thought of long dark nights making you feel worse. I'de get out and about as much as I could during the day, then you'd feel more like a bit of peace and rest during the evenings. Try not to depend on others to fill your life.

Aveline…how I agree. After all Church is community NOT the building. At our Church it was Harvest Festival yesterday and there was a Harvest lunch afterwards to which everyone was invited. I have done pastoral visits for the lonely, and was pleased that someone in particular attended.
All I would say is unless you have a particular religious affiliation you pick a Church close to home you can walk to.

my problem , and we are all different.. is I get out, amongst friends, have a coffee, laugh , chat etc. and as I leave I feel myself go down,down,down...

then I have to deal with feeling this all alone feeling.

I daydream of my family inviting me to live with or very near them,, I know it won`t happen, wouldn`t work,, but I still daydream.. my dh died 3 years ago, just before the pandemic, I am one that tends to live in "fairyland" as I describe myself.... we are complicated creatures...

I do meditation, not very successfully, I have a butterfly mind! I do very easy, basic Tai Chi, on youtube, I think that helps... and I am learning to share withmy friends, that certainly helps, as I am quite a reserved person, about myself that is... it is good to share.. good to be able to come here and open up.... without criticism! LOL

I've had many weekends alone and sometimes the whole week....having severe anxiety and disability/current health issues prevents me from going out to clubs/societies etc think the OP was maybe just having an off w/end as she says she has hobbies/clubs etc she can get to...

I love being alone. Always have, I never feel lonely, just happy.
I don't do a lot now, but just what I feel like doing. I'm 76 and had a stroke 5 years ago, I'm partly paralysed and struggle with most things. I still drive, so can get out if I feel like it. I have two lovely dogs, that keep me company and I prefer to stay home.
I only venture out with family members and have a lovely time. I guess I'm anti-social. I sympathise with the OP if she can't find happiness in small things around her to break out of her loneliness,

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