Spending weekend alone

I am unsure what to say without appearing to be rude. The last person I spoke with was a till girl a few days ago. I retired in 2002 and although I do meet different friends for coffee or a meal, not a lot else happens here. How are you going to cope when you retire?

Are there any local groups you can join? Perhaps check your library, or volunteering, dog walking, litter picking, you’d meet other people and have a chat.

Are there any GN meetups near you? If not why not start one yourself? I have met some really nice people and some are now good friends.

Many people feel as you do. Can you not join some groups and make friends with others who share your interests? This might lead to additional meet ups.

Yes I'm a member of groups. I saw people this morning. But my hobbies aren't on this evening nor tomorrow so I'll be alone.

I m afraid I can’t actually believe this you’re alone tonight and tomorrow and you re lonely, many of us on here are alone 24/7 and we just get on with it
Please !!

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Perhaps you could suggest and organise seeing people from these groups at some other point during the weekend.

Sometimes you can be in a crowd and still feel lonely. I keep myself busy with hobbies and crafts the TV is good company in the background. I found myself sitting in Costa with a cuppa on Thursday eve watching the world go by. By far the best company are my 2 little dogs. I had an old friend at the other end of the village who had a cat the pair were devoted to each other. She found a cat much easier to look after I remember sitting reading to her when she was ill a couple of week before she passed away the cat rarely left her side. Maybe a pet would be the answer? Your not on your own having these feelings you can always msg for a chat on here. Sending love.

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I'm on my own a lot. All ,I can suggest is find things to do that absorb you and you won't feel lonely. Read, do puzzles, watch a film or go for a walk.

How about starting a thread on here about your hobbies and interests and having a chat with like minded people?
Even if I’m not interested in a particular topic for myself it is always good to learn new stuff from enthusiastic folk.

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Thank you. I'm not very good with words but I'm pretty isolated for various reasons. I go to groups where I chat to people but feel lonely sometimes there but I keep on going.

I've joined the gym too, but no guarantee I'll make friends but it's keeping busy.

I'm surprised at some comments although I haven't said much in the post. It's not so much being alone, it's that in an emergency I have nobody to call.

I'm usually OK alone but not this weekend

Has this feeling just started to get worse recently? I reckon as the nights draw in and the season changes our instincts can make us want to herd together more. Just my (probably daft) theory.
When I get that rather anxious, isolated feeling and nobody is around I phone a friend or take myself off to find a corner in the local pub.

I agree there's a stigma around admitting you're lonely, and people tend to ask, in disbelief, how this is possible, when there are so many clubs to join and volunteer schemes, etc. But I think when loneliness strikes, whether you're physically alone or not, it's hard to shake off and you need some self-care and empathy from others. So I just want to say I understand; I've been lonely too.
In my experience, sometimes you need just one true friend to not feel alone, and they can be hard to find.

Many years ago after my divorce I found that at weekends I didn’t speak to anyone from when I left work on Friday till I went back to work on Monday morning. One weekend I phoned 1471 on the Saturday night and there was a missed call. When I realised that it was me phoning my landline to see if it was working I got so upset I phoned Samaritans and said I’m not suicidal at all but just wanted to hear someone’s voice. The loneliness was overwhelming and I was too embarrassed to reach out to anyone I knew for help. My home had a lonely feel to it. And I’m someone that has always enjoyed my own company. There’s always someone on here Knittingnovice if you want to chat, and some of us are night owls x

is there a wetherspoons near you.
i went to one once, to meet a group, but couldn't face it, so i gatecrashed another table where there were interesting friendly people.
and i don't drink alcohol; they told me about the re-fillable coffee. not sure if that's still available.
but the chance to meet people is.
still remember them, from pre-pandemic.
what have you got to lose. give it a go.

Too many people can't function on their own, but rely on others to provide them what they need.
There is no need for anyone to complain of being lonely. There is just too much going on. Get out there and join in instead of expecting people to come knocking on your door.

Tomorrow is Sunday. Most churches irrespective of denomination have a nice community. Could you just go to one and see how you get on? You may not be religious but might like the feeling of fellowship.

Can I ask Mapleleaf what is meant by the comment of 'another one' please?

What happened to being kind? All the replies “words fail me”
Nobody really knows how people feel and what’s going on in there lives. If they are lonely they are lonely and unkind words don’t help.

Knittingnovice, I think 'lonely' is a state of mind - rather than actually being alone. I felt very lonely when married to my first husband (the wrong man) yet I'm happy all on my own now. I do like to see people but for short periods only, ideally just a few hours. I have a relative staying - and just can't wait for them to leave!