Mothers at home matter

MissAdventure

The option to stay home is almost eradicated, apart from, I'd imagine, if a partner earned enough to keep you.

Too true MissA.

Norah

Luckygirl3 It is a matter of choice, but both choices need to be supported. At the moment help is available to buy child care, but no help is available to offset loss of earnings/pension rights. That does not make logical sense.

Staying home with children is a matter of choice, end of. However, I don't understand why anyone making that choice could expect an offset for loss of earnings/pension? That's part of the choice. Or was for us.

Exactly my point.

Norah I had no advantages. I worked and managed without any formal childcare at all.

M0nica

Norah I had no advantages. I worked and managed without any formal childcare at all.

Nor did we have any of the advantages I listed. I suspect, today, many of the things I see as advantages are readily available to many.

Our location was and is not near anything.

There was no formal childcare, no family childcare near or available.

No part time or flexible hours in my husband's main job.

Now hours are self directed and we don't need childcare.

Like much in life, wait awhile and it all works out.

Norah There was no formal childcare, no family childcare near or available. No part time or flexible hours in my husband's main job.

This was me in the late 1970s. DH had a job that took him away frequently, with little notice and for indefinite periods of time, especially in the summer months. He was frequently in some of the less salubrious parts of the world - and of course no mobile phones or internet. My life was akin to being a single mother. But I managed and worked part-time.

Thank you Chardy

My son has been a house husband for the past 2 years since they had a baby. He works part-time. He loves it

My son has been a house husband for the last two years since their daughter was born. He loves it.

Just catching up on this thread - some very interesting points made. I’ve seen a lot of stuff recently about this organisation in the media (Mothers At Home Matter) - what a fantastic voice for mums/parents wanting choice. If only more mums knew about it, they’d hopefully feel more supported.
They’ve got a conference coming up tomorrow apparently - might be worth looking into —> www.mothersathomematter.com/events/conference22