I was a cabbage hater for much of the early part of my life. That's because it was always brutally boiled, whether at home, at my Nanna's or at school. Nanna always compounded the problem by serving something like tapioca or sago for dessert. School was even worse because some dinner ladies made you eat it all up before you could have pudding, or made you stay behind and clean the table if you didn't. It made me sick more than once.
I could eat pickled red cabbage. That was fine, in fact I liked that. But my cabbage epiphany came when I was doing some IT contracting for BP Finance – when you're BP and you want somebody to look after the money you don't just ask a bank to do it, you buy a small bank of your own for the purpose. That allowed me to use the free (yes, I know) corporate canteen in Finsbury Circus HQ, which was actually very good. One day there was a tray of what I took to be pickled red cabbage and I put a big dollop on my plate. But when I tasted it, it wasn't pickled. It was also very good. It had some firmness about it, and it didn't have that awful boiled cabbage smell and taste. Just a bit fresh-vegetabley with a touch of nutmeg but not so much it was overwhelming. This cabbage should win awards!
So then I started buying cabbages, shredding them fine, showing them the steam from the kettle, just enough to take the crunch away but still staying firm to the bite, and a wee bit of grated nutmeg. Yum, I couldn' get enough!
These days I'm lazier in the kitchen most of the time. For my winter veg I get big jars of sauerkraut from a Polish grocer – it's called kapusta kiszona there and comes plain or with a choice of additives – and just put a big dollop on the plate with the rest of the meal.
It's a sin to cook carrots, they are so much nicer raw, at least decent varieties are. Parsnips should only be roasted. I only discovered parsnips in adulthood, we never had them at home. I think this was a parental backlash against the wartime surfeit of boiled parsnips everywhere. But I love roasted parsnips, they are the best reason I know for having a roast dinner.