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What would you say if your husband told you to stop squawking?

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LRavenscroft Tue 29-Nov-22 13:11:36

This is a phrase my paternal family used a lot. They were East Enders. My mother and I found it incredibly rude but 50 years ago it seemed to be used a lot in our family as part of a superiority campaign. I am really sorry that it has been used again as it is degrading, offensive and quite honestly archaic. Please find a way to retaliate and put him in his place. Good luck.

Smileless2012 Tue 29-Nov-22 11:08:23

I'd tell him I'll stop squawking when he stops being an a... hole.

Theexwife Tue 29-Nov-22 10:59:04

It wouldn’t bother me, its a fair word to use if somebody is going on in a certain way during a disagreement.

Maybe ask him not to use that expression instead of telling him.

Redhead56 Tue 29-Nov-22 10:54:52

If is was my husband he would have sore ears and a headache for the rest of the day. I would be out getting retail therapy and loving every minute.

GrauntyHelen Tue 29-Nov-22 10:45:37

I would have said "hello my husband has just dropped dead can you come and uplift the corpse ! "

biglouis Tue 29-Nov-22 10:43:24

I an remember having a difference of opinion with a male colleague when I was a research assistant at uni and he used a similar expression, plus a couple of others. They were the kinds of expressions he would not have used to a man. I gave him an opportunity to apologise or be reported for "sexist terminology" and he laughed. He ended up being made to attend an awareness course so he kept his distance from me after that.

All too often men will attempt to excuse themselves by saying:

Its just banter
Its just a joke

and so on.

henetha Tue 29-Nov-22 10:39:23

Buy him a cockatiel for Christmas. Or a large bad-tempered parrot. He will get plenty of squawking then. grin

paddyann54 Tue 29-Nov-22 10:36:44

Its only a word ,ignore it .I dont let stuff like that bother me.Life is too short .If you cant ignore it LAUGH at it .

Yammy Tue 29-Nov-22 10:35:48

I would have told him ladies don't squawk and not spoken to him for a few hours. In our house that would be really frustrating for"Where's me". my Rohan man.
Or got him after DD had left and told him that he did it again you would accuse him of something similar in front of her and see how he felt. I get accused of using a teacher's voice,but he uses his persuasive 'Calming the patient voice" when he wants a favour and I point it out.

Elegran Tue 29-Nov-22 10:34:44

Snap, eazybee roastchicken

eazybee Tue 29-Nov-22 10:31:21

Laid an egg on his head.

pascal30 Tue 29-Nov-22 10:22:41

totally unacceptable...

GrannyGravy13 Tue 29-Nov-22 10:11:38

I would have probably told him he was being rude and disrespectful and then gone shopping with the credit card that he pays 🛍️🛍️🛍️

Elegran Tue 29-Nov-22 10:10:21

I'd have done a chicken-laying-an-egg impersonation right in his ear, very loud, and then said. "That was squawking. If that is what you don't want me to do, I am very happy to stop it, but if I am just pointing out that you are wrong, in a normal voice, I shall keep on doing it."

Nannylovesshopping Tue 29-Nov-22 10:06:26

I would have said, don’t be so bloody rude! then gone out for
the day and spoilt my self with a very expensive present.

Sparklefizz Tue 29-Nov-22 10:04:00

You're right! It is "plain rude and disrespectful".

25Avalon Tue 29-Nov-22 10:02:35

OK I am good and mad and sad at the moment. Dd rang about a query she had with dh. He claimed I was the one who raised it and it wasn’t him. Then when I protested said ‘stop squawking’ and didn’t like I disagreed in front of dd. This isn’t the first time he has used this horrible expression although I have told him not to. I think he does it primarily to deflect attention away from what I have said especially if I am right! He has phobic issues inculcated by his mother when he was very young so is used to trying to manipulate people but I find this just plain rude and disrespectful.