What would you say if your husband told you to stop squawking?

Ali08 something between a squint and a gawk? That reminds me of a cod definition of a mistress - "A mistress falls somewhere between a mister and a mattress".

What a horrid word, do you squark. , if so that would be annoying, if not I would tell him to shut up and leave him to it and take yourself off somewhere nice and get a meal. He obviously thinks he’s amusing.

Elegran

You may mean gawking, not squawking, Ali08 Squawking is the noise that anxious chickens make.

Oh, ok. Thank you, Elegran.
But I'm sure I've heard people say, "Let's have a squawk" as in 'let me see'. Maybe they got it wrong, too! Lol

GrannyGravy13

I would have probably told him he was being rude and disrespectful and then gone shopping with the credit card that he pays 🛍️🛍️🛍️

As I read this an advert opened up below it for 'Rooster credit cards'. Do roosters squawk?
Is that just coincidence? Made me laugh anyway. Completely off topic! Sorry folks!

Oh how very rude. This happened to me a couple of years ago when my husband tried to shut me up. I said in a joking voice “Did you just tell me to be quiet? You’re feeling brave today? “ etc. I took the Mickey out of him. We all fell about laughing, which defused the situation. It never happened again. Bottom line. Turn him into a joke.

Witzend

I’m quite good at doing a chicken-cluck, so I think I’d do one of those every time he spoke to me - for a day, at least.
And ‘forget’ that he’s there for dinner - cook just for me. And cluck at him if he has the temerity to say anything.,

Yes this. Then when he opens his mouth to complain he has no dinner tell him to stop skwalking.
Then chuck him a handful of corn 🤣

ExaltedWombat

WERE you squawking?

Seriously???

I’m quite good at doing a chicken-cluck, so I think I’d do one of those every time he spoke to me - for a day, at least.
And ‘forget’ that he’s there for dinner - cook just for me. And cluck at him if he has the temerity to say anything.,

Context is everything. It is not what you say, it is the way that you say it.

I feel sorry for men these days they darent even open their mouths half the time without being accused of something.
Lighten up … and stop looking for trouble.

Oh, the poor menz... it's all so unfair to them - they can't even have a bit of fun insulting you these days...

kevincharley

Wow! I've just read some of the comments and I'm amazed at the strength of feeling in some. Life's too short to get your knickers in such a twist over something so minor.

... "minor" to you.

Most people understand - men and women - when they are being deliberately provoked by a word that the person using it knows they don't like.

I've done it myself in the past when I wanted to goad someone. And I knew what I was doing - I suspect the OP's husband did, too. Because she already told him she didn't like him using that expression.

Fortunately I don’t live full time with my rude dismissive husband: I moved to the south coast and he visits every few weeks. Why didn’t I divorce him? I decided I would never be poor again and negotiated an excellent monthly allowance. We put on a brave face for the sake of our children.

I think there are different reactions on here because we don’t know the relationship of the OP and her husband. My DH and I have a very jokey relationship and if this comment was made to me it would be in a ‘funny’ way, with a smile. The way the OP described it, it sounded rude, and as if it was a common occurrence, even though unwelcome.

kevincharley

Wow! I've just read some of the comments and I'm amazed at the strength of feeling in some. Life's too short to get your knickers in such a twist over something so minor.

Absolutely!

Nasty.

Yes it's a passing comment, but if Avalon has repeatedly told him that she doesn't like it, shouldn't he try and stop it.

djgmpg

It’s an oppressive and belittling comment. If you don’t find a way to deflect this sort of behaviour I suggest it’ll get worse. It’s one of the ways men (like your husband) attempt to keep women in their place. Or the place they would like them to be! Don’t accept it.

What are you on about, for goodness sake it’s a passing comment. I feel sorry for men these days they darent even open their mouths half the time without being accused of something.
Lighten up … and stop looking for trouble.

Daddima

paddyann54

Its only a word ,ignore it .I dont let stuff like that bother me.Life is too short .If you cant ignore it LAUGH at it .

This. I don’t know how I would survive life if I took things like this to heart.

Same here, I certainly wouldn’t be storming off in a huff spending loads of money, that’s likely to cause a bigger argument.
Just lighten up, laugh it off and tell him not to be so cheeky!

Wow! I've just read some of the comments and I'm amazed at the strength of feeling in some. Life's too short to get your knickers in such a twist over something so minor.

If it had been my husband I would've laughed but I'm guessing you're husband wasn't trying for humour. That being the case I'd have ignored it.

ExaltedWombat

WERE you squawking?

What?!?!

WERE you squawking?

It’s an oppressive and belittling comment. If you don’t find a way to deflect this sort of behaviour I suggest it’ll get worse. It’s one of the ways men (like your husband) attempt to keep women in their place. Or the place they would like them to be! Don’t accept it.

It depends on how you feel about it, the way it was said and how it fits in your bigger picture. If it upsets you that's what matters. If he knows it upsets you there's no excuse. If you say similar, or worse to him then it's tit for tat! Have a stock response for next time, because it will happen again. Is that what his father used to say to his mother? Such behaviour is often learnt. Say to him ENOUGH and walk away. Spend the night away from him. He needs training. I'm training my husband but he's a work in progress. We've only been together 41 years.

Next time tell him to stop breathing.
Misogynistic pig.

Alternatively whenever he prattles on,use the same term on him. Nothing like giving people a taste of their own medicine. See how much he likes it when the shoe is on the other foot.