This has to be my last word you will be relieved to know.
Lady Susan Hussey was crass, patronising, tactless, rude and showed her lack of education or indeed preparation for the evening.
You do not touch people’s hair . (Remember Princess Margaret brushing Peter Townsend’s lapel?)
If you don’t get an answer because the question was unwelcome, or one you don’t understand, you move swiftly on (as in, “Really, tell me about your organisation/work”)
You might realise that you cannot blanket assume “Jamaican” because somebody came over on the Windrush, and in any case “How fascinating- what brought them to London “ might be more tactful.
But all of these have been ignored in the outcry against SH, although to me, they are damning enough in themselves for a former Lady in Waiting and indicate time to retire, and be put out to pasture.
But racist? No.
However, these days the heinous crime is Racism.