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Not replying to texts

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AussieGran59 Fri 30-Dec-22 00:12:44

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Cabbie21 Fri 30-Dec-22 11:52:01

I have told my teenage grandchildren that if they need me urgently eg in an emergency or to change an arrangement, they must ring my landline.
I am not glued to my phone so may miss a text, and usually my phone is still switched off (from choir practice or sleep time) so I don’t hear it.
Otherwise we just respond to texts when we can, with the exception of the eldest grandchild, now an adult, who is plain rude and never responds. Definitely never says thank you.

Coolgran65 Fri 30-Dec-22 12:56:13

I prefer to send a message via WhatsApp or Messenger as I can see when it has been seen.

1summer Fri 30-Dec-22 13:04:30

My daughter rarely replies to my texts, she always says she is busy with work childcare etc so I don’t stress about it. But whenever she texts me for childcare, take in parcels, buy something from shops etc I am expected to reply immediately.

Kim19 Fri 30-Dec-22 16:24:43

Yes, I confess to finding a lack of response very disappointing.

Summerlove Fri 30-Dec-22 16:29:09

Like mobile phones - texting is for the owners convenience.

I’ll respond when I get around to it. Same as phone calls and emails. None of us exist simply to give into others whims/ reply immediately.

Skydancer Fri 30-Dec-22 16:31:41

I asked my GS the other day why he hadn't replied to a text from me. He said texts appear at the top of his phone and he means to reply but sometimes forgets. I think the young people get such a lot of texts and other messages that this explains it.

AGAA4 Fri 30-Dec-22 16:35:32

I like texts as a way of keeping up with friends and family. I usually get a reply the same day apart from one friend who never replies and only communicates by phone.

littleflo Sat 31-Dec-22 10:23:33

I don’t agree with those who say it only takes a minute. The interruptions of a train of thought can be very annoying. You have stop to read it and then reply, then try to go back to what you were doing..

I think text should not be for general chat, especially as you say you see her often.

Witzend Sat 31-Dec-22 10:32:03

One dd - the one almost permanently glued to her phone - will respond almost immediately to any text, WhatsApp or email. And will almost always answer her phone, except when she texts instead - ‘I’m in a (zoom) meeting’.

The other will usually take a day or two to reply to anything, and her phone is often off. No problems with the relationship - dds are just very different.