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biglouis Tue 03-Jan-23 13:22:50

There was recently a thread on MN where posters expressed the view that using sh**t and f**k were ridiculous and there was nothing wrong with the actual words.

Probably most of us use swear words in moments of stress or anger, including stubbed toes and banged elbows. However I was brought up to believe that people who expressed themselves mostly by swearing showed a poor vocabulary and lack of intelligence.

Mostly I steer clear of people who are constantly effing and blinding. My father worked on the Liverpool docks as a young man and I never once heard him use the F word.

Witzend Thu 05-Jan-23 15:43:17

I once said, ‘Balls!’ at the family dining table. I was only about 11 and had heard a girl at school say it - no idea that it was rude.

My father said firmly, ‘That is not a word to use in mixed company’.
I still had no idea why ‘balls’ - netball, tennis, etc. could be a Bad Word! It was a few years before I found out.

Which reminds me, a young nephew once remarked to my sister that the dog was licking his balls again.

Sister told him that the correct word was ‘testicles’.
Some days later nephew asked, ‘What was that word again, Mum? The one that means willyballs?’ 😂

Oreo Thu 05-Jan-23 15:53:14

Witzend 😂
I can imagine the horrified silence at your innocent remark.

Chestnut Thu 05-Jan-23 15:53:51

Witzend Thank you for returning the thread to swearing and making us laugh in the process 😂😂😂

Yammy Thu 05-Jan-23 16:22:55

A friend had two older brothers who set her up usually with swear words. There was a knock at our door and her mum asked if my friend could stay for a couple of hours until her dad cooled down.
"They had set her up to say'Pass me the sugar you baldy-headed old bugger". Her dad just walked out into the garden not knowing who to be cross with. We all had such a laugh then his wife went home. She watched what she said after that but often asked what words meants.

Katie59 Thu 05-Jan-23 17:05:59

We all cuss when something goes wrong or when we hurt ourselves but there is no place for swearing in normal conversation.
None of my family do, nor partners family, nor my work colleagues, I am highly unlikely to associate with anyone who swears gratuitously.

Passthechocolates Thu 05-Jan-23 17:22:04

I really don’t like it when people use the F word in normal conversation, it really grates, but I suppose it’s a generation thing, its definitely not a word that I would use or that I ever heard my parents say.
My two sons were not allowed to swear in conversation at home although I’ve no doubt that they did in front of their friends. Now they’re older they still don’t, I think it’s a mark of respect.
I was shocked when I first looked on Mumsnet and saw how much they use the F word and the C word, what sort of language will their children grow up using, I think it’s awful.
I quite a trendy Nanny and have a great relationship with my children and grandchildren but swearing is a definite no for me I just think it’s not nice at all and they all respect that.

Yammy Thu 05-Jan-23 17:46:49

volver

I only post on the threads where I have something to say.

I tend not to make the kinds of posts that say "ohh, you're so right xxx! I definitely agree with you!" Doesn't make for good discussion, I find.

I posted positively about Happy Valley recently, I think...

"I only post on ones where I have something to say......"
which is nearly every post and most of your posts are critical. You have posted positively on so few posts that you can remember them and admit it.

VioletSky Thu 05-Jan-23 17:51:49

Yammy of you have a personal problem with someone, why not discuss with them in PM?

To other readers this just looks like an unnecessary personal attack

volver Thu 05-Jan-23 17:53:24

I don't want PMs from certain people. I will block.

VioletSky Thu 05-Jan-23 17:55:24

Blocking would be a definitive response

So tired of all the personal stuff on threads lately

Chestnut Thu 05-Jan-23 18:01:45

Let's get back to swearing! 🤭
After all, that is what the thread is about.

Romola Thu 05-Jan-23 18:02:15

A brainy German boy I knew was staying with an Anglican vicar's family for some months to learn English.
One day at lunch he enquired of the vicar "Is Kant well-known in Britain?" Well of course he pronounced it in the German way and the children could hardly contain themselves. But the vicar, without losing a beat, and glaring at his children, merely responded: "You are referring to the 18th-century philosopher of the enlightenment."
(Brainy German boy did become a distinguished professor.)

Chestnut Thu 05-Jan-23 18:07:42

biglouis It was the time when Philby and Maclean had defected and the news was full of it. One day while watching TV I casually remarked to my mother that they had f****d off to Russia.
Another wonderful story! Thanks for a good laugh. 😂

VioletSky Thu 05-Jan-23 18:12:43

When it comes to swearing , this is onething I really truly do not understand?

I don't see the difference between typing fuck and typing f**k

Isn't it realistically the exact same thing?

Why do we do that?

JaneJudge Thu 05-Jan-23 18:28:10

I know right? grin

Chestnut Thu 05-Jan-23 18:49:32

For the same reason we talk about 'the F word' instead of saying it out loud. We are ladies.

VioletSky Thu 05-Jan-23 18:57:44

I guess I'm not a lady

Kryptonite Thu 05-Jan-23 19:04:46

Miriam Margolis is one to be wary of. She can be hilarious but spoiled the episode of Australia the other night with her foul mouth. Not suitable for my mum after all. 😒

Yammy Thu 05-Jan-23 19:10:25

volver

I don't want PMs from certain people. I will block.

You've got your answer violet Sky.

VioletSky Thu 05-Jan-23 19:12:23

Shh

JaneJudge Thu 05-Jan-23 19:13:43

the funniest thing about this thread is the silent nigel slater video but I don't know if everyone else can see it grin

Yammy Thu 05-Jan-23 19:19:51

VioletSky

Yammy of you have a personal problem with someone, why not discuss with them in PM?

To other readers this just looks like an unnecessary personal attack

Do you mean yourself violet sky and what most people would consider uncouth language that you see nothing wrong in saying or writing? I can tell you in a PM what I think about your language if you want me to.What would you think if you had a child or grandchild who repeated it at school or somewhere else public?
It might look like a personal attack I consider it retaliation for nearly every stream being spoiled by a certain person's vitriolic comments that have gone on for years.

Yammy Thu 05-Jan-23 19:22:46

No, I haven't got Nigel Slater I've got Tips for getting your kids creative. With their language maybe?

Witzend Thu 05-Jan-23 19:22:53

I suppose I was very badly brung up, re swearing. We frequently heard it in our house, from my father anyway, though never the F or the C word. And he was considered posh by many people, going by his voice, anyway.

Bloody and bugger were more or less everyday language, and we regularly used to hear loud, rolling, alliterative curses, when e.g. he was unable to find something in the cupboard under the stairs. ‘Crap and corruption! Shit and seduction!’ etc.

My mother would pretend to tut-tut, saying, ‘Really, John!’* but she’d be laughing underneath. She put it down to 6 years of WW2 in the RN - I never once heard either of his parents say anything stronger than ‘Blast!’

*Not his real name.

JaneJudge Thu 05-Jan-23 19:25:48

Yammy

No, I haven't got Nigel Slater I've got Tips for getting your kids creative. With their language maybe?

why are we all getting different adverts? I've got him folding his arms and talking but I can't him as I'm on mute I've also had an unfortunate ear accident today blush