What would you do?

Is the affair with your husband 😵‍💫

Certainly not! What if he talked to his best friend - and on it would go.

I used to tell my husband most things, but by doing that his opinion of your friend will alter. Do hope your friends husband finds out though.

Not with mine!

Iam64

Is the affair with your husband 😵‍💫

Noooooo not with my husband.

No, no, no! If you tell him it becomes gossip.

No, it would be breaking her confidence, she wouldn’t forgive you if you did that.

Why would you ? I can’t think of any reason that you would share.

No. If a friend tells me something in confidence I respect it, and I'm not joined at the hip to my husband.

Don’t tell a soul. She is your friend and may very soon be in need of a compassionate one.

I can keep a confidence, if asked to.
If the friend didn’t ask for me to do so, I’d tell my husband.
Then we’d keep it between us and watch from the sidelines.
But then he’d feel bad for the husband of the friend. So it’s messy.
Oh heck. Not sure really what I’d do ...
Probably sleep on it and say nowt.
Then watch and wait.
Ask the friend what part of her disclosure was just dumping her shit on me?
Then again, maybe I wouldn’t know her husband?
Would I care if I didn’t know him?
Would I still want her as my friend?
I think I’d have a few sleepless nights.

Nope, wouldn't share that one.

no, I wouldn't either

Ofcourse I’m prejudiced. Having been cheated on, I know the damage an affair can cause. So I will try to dissuade her from continuing the relationship…
But, that’s not what you asked me. So, to answer your question, I would tell my husband. I am not a good keeper-of-secrets😂

This is listed on mumsnet this evening??

No, telling him would achieve nothing and the friend would have probably told about the affair in confidence.

When you tell someone a secret it is no longer a secret it is gossip.

But what about the one with the secret?
If she can’t keep her own secret why would she expect someone else to keep it for her?
I’m off to me bed to ponder this one.

I was in this situation, I kept my friends secret, but when it all came out, my husband was pretty annoyed because he and her husband were good friends.
Still think I did the right thing, but as we were a foursome who did a lot together, it was awkward.

Why would you want to share it with your husband?

Urmstongran

But what about the one with the secret?
If she can’t keep her own secret why would she expect someone else to keep it for her?
I’m off to me bed to ponder this one.

Because she needed someone to talk to and trusted her friend? I would need to ponder that one for less than a second, really.

Exactly the same post on Mumsnet at 19.33 today.

Skomer

Exactly the same post on Mumsnet at 19.33 today.

Does that matter? The OP might just want to get as many responses as possible. A lot of people post on both MN and on here.

No. But I hope my friends wouldn’t put me in that position.

Well, I must be odd because I would tell my husband. I would be concerned for my friend so would share that.