I need a hug…

A hug from me

Here's a hug too. I have a situation that causes me pain to discuss. One 'friend' will always bring it up despite knowing I don't want to talk about it.

You confided your problem with a friend and she responded with curiosity and commiseration so you can hardly be surprised if she's a bit hurt by your response.
I have much sympathy for you in the circumstances. Being scammed and feeling abused and foolish afterwards is a natural response, but so was your friend's enquiry as to what had happened, and her tales of similar stories I think was an attempt to be empathetic and relate to your situation by demonstrating she knew (generally) what you were going through. Cutting her off abruptly probably stung and made her feel unappreciated, although she might well understand that you were feeling very raw at the time.
When you feel more composed, give her a call and have a chat. You don't need to go into explicit detail about the circumstances if you don't feel like it, but bear in mind when we ask for a shoulder to cry on, the confidant will be naturally curious and wish to understand your predicament and sometimes the advice they give is not what we particularly want to hear at that moment in time!
Meanwhile have a hug from me - it's a wretched situation to find yourself in. x

Hug from me. I'm sorry you are feeling so upset - just remember IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!! Anyone can be scammed. As flixukay points out, your friend may have had the best of intentions and was just slow at picking up the cues you were giving her. Give her another chance when you feel able.

Thank you for your kind words, ‘Grans’

A BIG (((hug))) from me Secondwind. I'm so sorry you've been scammed, it happens such a lot and those behind this horrible crime are experts at what they do.

I'm sure your friend didn't intend to add to your hurt. It's easy to miss the signs that you're not helping, when you're not face to face.

As Wheniwasyourage has said, it's not your fault so don't beat yourself up over it .

A hug from me too. Some people always have to relate their own stories don’t they?
Have you considered whether it’s possible to get your money back? It often is. 💐

Here's a hug.

She gave you compassion.

A hug from me.

Awful thing to happen.
Big hug from me.

It can happen to anyone of us don’t beat yourself up about it (big hug) from me to you💐

Thank you all for your kind and supportive words.
Regrettably not, *Germanshepherdsmum. I foolishly didn’t heed the warnings from my own bank and the money was taken from the account I paid it into straight away. As any self-respecting scammer would do of course…

Aww secondwind that’s awful I understand how you feel, it will take awhile for you to come to terms with.
I think your friend didn’t know how to be with you, but that she meant well. Try to realise that the fault lies with them and not you.We can all be taken in.

Oh dear, I am sorry Secondwind. I can only hope it wasn’t a huge amount for you. Don’t beat yourself up. I hope the scumbag gets his just desserts - preferably long before reaching the pearly gates. These people are utterly despicable. Have you contacted Action Fraud? There’s always the possibility of fraudsters being caught and proceeds of crime returned to victims, so swallow your pride, know you’re by no means the first and won’t be the last, and give them a ring.
Then chin up and look forwards now. Keep posting here, always friendship and company available.

Big hug x

Oh Secondwind I feel so sorry for you. No wonder you’re feeling wobbly - it’s the shock. Have a great big hug from me. I’ve been told I’m a good hugger. Eventually (and it will take time, I know of what I speak) you will feel less raw and less angry. You need to draw a line in the sand. An old friend at the time wrote a card with a quote that helped me cope. She also sent me a bookmark and wrote on the back of it that ‘there will always be books to read’. That little homily helped me breathe. Strange but it did.

I was almost scammed but realised just in time.They convinced me they were police officers even giving their numbers and a phone to check.It was a complicated story which was “to help the bank to catch the fraudsters”Because it was for £10.000 times two the bank should have checked with me and they didn’t so Nat West had to pay me back.A hard lesson to learn.I am still sore about.

I really appreciate all your kind words and advice - thank you.
Germanshepherdsmum I began the process and opened an account, but got stuck in a loop. I’ve since learned that you can ring them, so I must pick up the threads. Thank you.

Oh, good. You just might help to get these obnoxious people traced, caught and get some money back. It takes time, but a lot of scammers and other fraudsters do get traced and have their assets seized. I wish you the very best of luck.

Big hug from me too. Your friend should have changed the subject imo. But she meant well.

I'm sorry.

I understand, we were scammed, makes me anxious to re-live details.

Hope you feel better soon. (((Hug)))

Secondwind

I really appreciate all your kind words and advice - thank you.
Germanshepherdsmum I began the process and opened an account, but got stuck in a loop. I’ve since learned that you can ring them, so I must pick up the threads. Thank you.

Great you're working on it.

We got all our funds returned after a significant time.

Sending you a massive virtual HUG Secondwind and hope you get something back in the future, bringing this to our attention will make us all aware of these horrible scammers and to take massive care in the future.

Please don't beat yourself up! Big hug from me too.