Doodledog
The chances are they wouldn't know, Doodle. If you and I were in a group, I would refer to you as Doodle, whether I talked directly to you or was referring to you when talking to others (eg 'Would you pass this to Doodle, please?'). It would only be if you left the room that I would use a pronoun, as in 'Doodle has gone to the loo - does she take sugar in her coffee?' If I said 'does 'kittenself' (or would it be 'kittenthey'?) like sugar in her coffee, you would be no wiser. It seems to me incredibly self-obsessed to want to control the way people refer to you when you aren't there.
It is also disrespectful of others who may wish to keep their gender preferences to themselves when people insist that everyone should declare a pronoun. People may have one identity at work and another at home, particularly if 'home' is abroad in an intolerant society. Forcing the issue can make life very difficult in those circumstances, and I wish it would stop.
A very clear breakdown of the problems I have with it all too. Like you, I don’t understand the obsession with controlling how you are referred to in your absence. As for compelling everyone to declare a pronoun, I think rather than displaying tolerance, it actually demonstrates intolerance of a different kind, encourages virtue signalling, and is another example of the minority trying to control the majority.
