Nostalgia is not what it used to be -or is it?

nexus63

mawthemerrier, some people don't really have much to look forward to and memories of the past are what makes them smile. i am almost 60, i have lost a husband of 18 years and a partner of 18 years, i will live on my own for the rest of my life, i spend 90% of my life housebound due to illness, i am not sad about my life...it is what it is, i love my old music and remembering dancing with my husband to the song young girl as he was 18 years older than me, laughing with my partner at silly things, but i also look forward to seeing my son and his family and getting phone calls and facetime from other family members. my life is not over...it is just different to how i thought it would be, but sometimes the memories are what keeps you going.

Sincere condolences Nexus .
I too am widowed Paw died 5 years ago, we had been together since meeting in 1966 , marrying in 1970 ( I am quite a lot older than you at 75). I agree many of us have little to look forward to but for me the essential thing is to enjoy or appreciate or at least make the most we can of the present. We all of us have our memories- I don't dismiss them or all the pictures I treasure and I spend many happy moments and hours remembering the good times - those will never come back but there is nothing to be gained (for me) in dwelling too much in that past. My first lippy/film/record/favourite pop song- so what?
The past has played its part in forming the present let's not deny the importance it has in our future. Psychologists tell us it is important not to look too far into the future - that is often depressing, but take what pleasure we can from now and the short term future.

So…. A very current issue for me right here, right now is these pop up video thingies. Why have they suddenly started appearing and what are they going to do about them?
If they are to be a feature of this site then why are the topics so completely irrelevant to most of us and why are they muted.
Soon we will be getting all nostalgic for the way Gransnet usedto be😉

I love a trip down memory lane but I wouldn't want to live there!

It is sometimes good to reminisce and look back at our younger days. I too enjoy these threads and find them fasciniating but each to their own!

Well said Nexus we are all different.

mawthemerrier, some people don't really have much to look forward to and memories of the past are what makes them smile. i am almost 60, i have lost a husband of 18 years and a partner of 18 years, i will live on my own for the rest of my life, i spend 90% of my life housebound due to illness, i am not sad about my life...it is what it is, i love my old music and remembering dancing with my husband to the song young girl as he was 18 years older than me, laughing with my partner at silly things, but i also look forward to seeing my son and his family and getting phone calls and facetime from other family members. my life is not over...it is just different to how i thought it would be, but sometimes the memories are what keeps you going.

If we do away with all the threads some people aren't interested in...

What's left?

The forum is here for all of us and caters for all of us. That's a good thing

Its simple really...look at the thread title...or the opening post....then don't bother reading it if its something that doesn't interest you....😊

Your first film at the cinema

Where you met your first love/DH

That reminded me of a song by The Drifters - "Kissin' in the Back Row of the Movies"

Cue for a thread - well, did you?

(Sorry, MawtheMerrier )

I just see them as pleasant chatty threads, I am looking forward to retiring and making plans sometime this year, does not mean that I dont remember some things from the past and smile.
I also think the forums are for everyone, I do not like gardening,or baking threads either so I avoid them. I love house and home, and I find Black Dog kind, helpful and non judgemental.
Just ignore threads you are not interested in, or start a looking forward one maybe.

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that is lovely Lexisgranny

Years before they closed I bought a shopping bag from Past Times. The design, both sides was books on shelves and for all these years it has served my as my library book bag. We have seen library assistants come and go, but the bag is still going strong, I even sewed inside a little pocket to hold our library cards. One assistant asked me how many books it had held over the years, I couldn’t even hazard a guess, but just getting that bag out makes me think of all the books that have given me pleasure since I bought it.

I think of them as liberty bodice threads and hide them. But that's just me. Like the games threads, they are popular and gentle and there is a place for that here.

I love talking about the past,the 70s music was my favourite and life seemed to be very happy.
One of my grandsons loves hearing about what my life was like and what i got up to etc.
I remember my first day at school as if it was yesterday,i hung onto my mothers dress like crazy.

I like the nostalgia. Without it all would be forgotten. I love ancestry and all the historical things too but then I studied history for many years so I guess it is part of my makeup. I am not lonely and I have many friends but you can’t beat a dip into the past. I am particularly fascinated by World War 2 because of family members who were involved in the airforce and in some cases, killed. Lest we forget.

they used tosell really nice jewellery

I do enjoy an occasional dip into Past Times

I used to like that shop, Urmstongran 😃

In fact, when I was having a clear out yesterday, I found a Past Times mug in the cupboard, in the style of Clarice Cliff. (If only it was a real Clarice Cliff.)

Jaxjacky

It’s also worth bearing in mind that phishers and hackers love all this nostalgic wandering as often people use favourite words as passwords and GN is public.

Absolutely
There are regular warnings on FB about those threads which ask about your first pet, primary school, street etc.

MerylStreep

Have you seen the price of eggs in Tesco’s 😂

there were NO eggs in our nearest Sainsburys, none at all!

The older we are the further back we remember. Haven't you heard teenage girls giggling over things from their childhood, all of 10-12 years ago. It is just the same. 10 year's to them is the same as 60 plus years to us.

Anyway, remembering things from long ago is not nostalgia. Nostalgia is: a sentimental longing or wistful affection for a period in the past. To be nostalgic in all the threads you name MawtheMerrier, we wouldn't just have to remember the first day at school, the first film we saw, etc etc , but look at those events through rose-tinted specs and see them as happy days with no clouds.

You only need to read these threads to see that the one thing missing from them is 'nostalgia'

Riverwalk

Interesting Maw - I feel the same way, just as I do when posters say they listen to radio stations that play 60s/70s music.

Not that I don't reminisce about past times or enjoy the odd old record here and there, but for some reason I get a feeling of 'dread' with too much nostalgia.

But 60s/70s music was so much better generally!

It's not nostalgia, it's a preference.

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It’s just a Gransnet phase, one memory thread sparks another. I’m looking forward to a proliferation of Gardening threads at some point - roll on Spring.