A perfect evening with yourself

Ahh, personal time - a precious commodity.

If you still have family under your roof you’ll just have to request for that quiet, do not disturb space and hope they will respect that.

If you are alone (due to circumstances) you might be living your perfect quiet life already. (I’ve been divorced for over 20 yrs, always knew I was an independent type so my transition wasn’t traumatic.) I’ve come to realize I’m never “alone” - there’s family, friends, and my pet.

My only piece of advice on planning your respite - go with the moment. If you have an agenda it may not happen.

Relax, breathe, reflect, read, soak, sing, dance, nosh. This is your time.
Cheers!
USA Gundy

DH couldn’t understand why I was more than happy when he went down to our son and DGSs for a few days and left me.

I binged on my Kindle, ate what I wanted had breakfast in bed, trundled down to the shops, had a coffee and read the paper. What’s not to like?

It comes all too soon!
I spend most evenings alone since DH died but I am not a hermit so I make sure there's something sociable to look forward to.

I enjoy a relaxing bath listening to the radio.

My husband has finally had to go into permanent care after I looked after him on my own for 27 years since his stroke …then dementia…now Alzheimer’s . It was non stop noise in our house ( he couldn’t stand quiet!) from 7 am til 1 am next morning! He’s nearly stone deaf so tv was on Vol 43….I now only need Vil in 14….so that’s been my life! I now have extreme tinnitus and cannot bear loud noises …and I mean the sound of cutlery dropping into its drawer!!! So …I’m on my own …permanent…. and it’s silent…. I’ve dumped the tv ….my life is as close to bliss as I can make it.

Saggi You have done wonders for 27 years. Yu deserve all the bliss you can get.

Being with close ones is lovely, but so is spending time on your own. Both DH and I now realise that and try to accommodate each other.
I love to go for a walk by myself, but for an evening it has to be watching what I want on the TV without a prolonged debate, or simply reading a good book on the sofa with just a glass of wine for company: bliss.

On the rare occasion that I have an evening on my own, I turn the TV off and enjoy the silence! (My DH has it on all day and half the night.)
Then I'd love a hot Jacuzzi bath with scented tealights, followed by a hot chocolate with whipped cream and marshmallows in bed with a good detective story to read.

I recommend relaxing in a warm bubbly bath, face mask optional, light some candles, take a book or magazine and either a G&T or glass of wine. Keep topping up the water, relax and enjoy.

My husband is usually out 2 nights a week at choir rehearsals (sometimes 3 and occasionally 4). To me this is perfect as I can do what I want and watch what I want for a couple of hours!

I would enjoy an evening bath (DH doesn't think that baths are for the evening) and a rare steak - eaten without compunction.

I would probably just sleep, though.

gigi05
Your idea sounds right up my street, or at least it would have been in the days when my home was full of noise a busyness.
I've had 11 months on my own since my husband died so can please myself anytime.
What I wouldn't give to have him back.
Thats not going to happen so, onward and upward!
Might just have an indulgent evening just because I can. Hot scented bath, face pack and wine with music too I think. 🍷🛁