Those were the Days! I copied this from a recent Probus mag. ( author unknown) So very true.

Violet you were at school mainly during the 1980s, you are a few years younger than me I believe.
I don’t think that your memories of school (beatings?) tie in with most others on here

Probus is a club for retired professional and business people.

FannyCornforth

Violet you were at school mainly during the 1980s, you are a few years younger than me I believe.
I don’t think that your memories of school (beatings?) tie in with most others on here

To add some context, I’m 51 and my husband is 77.
There is absolutely, totally, utterly no comparison with our experiences of school

I must be one of the lucky one's and would re-live my childhood and teenage years again at a click of a finger. Born in 1954
I only have happy memories of being free and having lovely friends who I would say were all brought up the same with the same values.
We all lived in a village and were free to go out over the fields and countryside. Walked, biked. My best friend and I aged about 7 or 8 years old used to go into town on the bus most Saturdays. Sometimes to the pictures.
Dare parents allow their children to to that these days. No.
We had lovely Christmases. We only got toys at Christmas and birthdays as far as I remember.
My parent's were not well off. Dad worked at the local ironstone pit six and a half days a week. There were 5 of us children.
Of course it was harder for parents in those days. No mod cons. Of course they had their worries but unlike these day's
I can honestly say that my parents never ever loaded their problems on to us to worry about.
Sadly many children are burdened and weighed down with parents telling them they have no money for gas, electric, mortgage, food etc and they don't know what to do. So many children having to be carers. It's not a child's problem in my opinion. Children should be children not mini adults.
Personally I would rather go back in time than face living in this world in the future. I dread to think what's ahead and only glad I won't be here to see it.
I've been lucky.

Huh?

There is no age limit for opinions on any subject

I didn't say I was beaten at school, I was commenting on it...

Being children was not a good thing and anyone who thinks children turned put fine after a good beating obviously didn't turn out fine... they think it is fine to beat children.

No logic there

nanna8

What a bunch of miseries. No sense of humour, glad I don’t live there !

Sense of humour bypass I think.
I enjoyed your list btw.
Particularly the ‘we all knew that we had to accomplish something before we were allowed to be proud of ourselves’
😂

Hitting children will always be about the adult expressing their own poorly controlled anger by causing pain and fear to someone too small to defend themselves.

How many parents have lost their children to estrangement because they thought beating them installed respect for authority and found all they installed was fear?

How many parents have wrung their hands because their child is being physically abused by a partner and they just can't understand why their child equates abuse with love even though that's how they raised them?

How many parents have watched their child sink into addiction or self harm because the child has learned that abuse is love and are abusing themselves or numbing that pain?

How many parents have watched their own child turn into an angry unattached parent who can't bond with their own child and relies on punishment they received yet the grandparent can't stomach seeing that happen to their own grandchild?

There is no "fine" about beating children

Fear is not respect

I have opinions about this all the time and I got off very lightly compared to some older friends

Oreo

nanna8

What a bunch of miseries. No sense of humour, glad I don’t live there !

Sense of humour bypass I think.
I enjoyed your list btw.
Particularly the ‘we all knew that we had to accomplish something before we were allowed to be proud of ourselves’
😂

We are allowed a sense of humour that maybe doesn't chime with yours?

I didn't find it particularly amusing... partly because I'm pretty sure that whoever wrote it was aiming at another one of those look-at-the-snowflakes-today-compared-to-when-we-were-growing-up type of observations.

It could have been funny, but it was too... obvious.

Sigh!

FannyCornforth

Violet you were at school mainly during the 1980s, you are a few years younger than me I believe.
I don’t think that your memories of school (beatings?) tie in with most others on here

I think Violetsky is younger than many Gransnetters' children.

If my children had been beaten at school I'd have been in there like a shot.

I was hit once at school and can still feel the injustice of it. No-one was ever hit at my senior school although it was very strict.
I was never smacked at home either although I do remember once when I was about 16 and unbearably rude to my mother, it came as the most enormous shock.

Bored? No, we played outdoors and it was always sunny from morning to night 🌞

Actually these kind of posts do make me laugh

Just at them, not with them

So completely out of touch

Can't we have nostalgia about the things that were genuinely wonderful, like being able to give a small donation and traipse around a castle all day?

Like when you could actually see the sea bottom and didn't have to wade through oily mud to get to it?

Like when the air was so clear you thought you could see for 100s of miles?

Like when sweets were 2 for half a penny or you could buy a quater of sweets and feel like you won the lottery?

You know, all the things that were actually genuinely not harmful in any way to mental and physical health?

What vomit-inducing nonsense. I cringed so hard I think I strained something.

I'm 48 and old enough to be grandmother by quite a way

Is that OK? Or is there an initiation I'm missing? Like a blue rinse?

Callistemon
id have been in there like a shot
My mother did. Last year of junior school the teacher hit me so hard round the head my glasses went flying.
At lunchtime some of the kids went home for lunch. One of them told my mum what had happened.
We were all in class after lunch break and in charged my mum.
She grabbed him by the shirt and whacked him hard round the head.
He was moved to another school where he hit a child so hard he went to prison for assault.
I was just grateful my dad was at sea because he would have taken him apart 😱

😁

Still younger than my DC!
If she'd been smacked at school I'd have been furious.

I'm longing to dye my hair purple Violet but it refuses to go grey.

It is sad that so many of you have bad memories of childhood. I must have been very lucky. We were not rich but always had good food, fruit and veg from the garden and allotment, with meat rarely. We had no processed food apart from sausages and all was cooked beautifully by my mother. Loads of friends of all ages in our street where we played safely getting plenty of exercise. Our school was staffed in the main by teachers who were interested and interesting. We all attended the nearest school a fifteen minute walk away.so no angst about ‘getting
a place’. The 11+ did mean that half the kids did not get such a good deal and also we had rationing. Girls and boys remained unconscious of their looks. My grand daughter has so many worries about her looks, weight and friendships she is often unhappy.
All in all it is swings and roundabouts. My upbringing was far healthier than that of many young people today but I do know I was lucky. However my parents did not expect further education to be necessary for a girl.

Ah well

We have to keep gransnet current and appeal to younger grans right? Otherwise it's all doomed to 1 games thread and and 1 everlasting argument about Harry and Megan

VioletSky

Ah well

We have to keep gransnet current and appeal to younger grans right? Otherwise it's all doomed to 1 games thread and and 1 everlasting argument about Harry and Megan

So completely out of touch
Who - all of us except you?

We have to keep gransnet current and appeal to younger grans right?
No, we have to appeal to all.

It's a chat thread and one of those daft "Those were the days" anecdotes that appear from time to time that we know aren't necessarily true.

MerylStreep

Callistemon
id have been in there like a shot
My mother did. Last year of junior school the teacher hit me so hard round the head my glasses went flying.
At lunchtime some of the kids went home for lunch. One of them told my mum what had happened.
We were all in class after lunch break and in charged my mum.
She grabbed him by the shirt and whacked him hard round the head.
He was moved to another school where he hit a child so hard he went to prison for assault.
I was just grateful my dad was at sea because he would have taken him apart 😱

Did you watch DNA Journey with Johnny Vegas, MerylStreep?

One of his ancestors was hit so hard across the head by a teacher that he lost 60% of his hearing 😲

The case was taken to court by the brave parents (Johnny's Gt-Grandparents and it was the 1930s) they won the case and a precedent was set but it took until 1987 until corporal punishment in schools was abolished by law

Why put words into my mouth and twist my meaning and just quote bits thus leaving out the context callistermon?

What do you get out of it?

VioletSky

Ah well

We have to keep gransnet current and appeal to younger grans right? Otherwise it's all doomed to 1 games thread and and 1 everlasting argument about Harry and Megan

Sorry, what part of it didn't I understand?

VioletSky

I'm 48 and old enough to be grandmother by quite a way

Is that OK? Or is there an initiation I'm missing? Like a blue rinse?

This bit?

Callistemon
No, I didn’t. My teacher had a sadist sidekick who took pleasure rapping down the back of the head with his knuckle if you were sent out of the class and told to face the wall.
My teacher used the cane and the slipper. The sick bastard had names for them and made you say thank you if he used them on you.

Absolutely no idea what you are talking about

Is it some sort of hazing?

Did I pass?

I feel really sorry for the lady who started this “lighthearted” thread. It was high jacked early on by the ‘oh no it wasn’t’ group. I grew up in the 40s and 50s. College in the sixties. I know all aspects of life then and with my own children and grandchildren, life as it is now. Rough and smooth all the way.40s, 50s, 60s etc up till now. I prefer to dwell on the good bits.