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Delayed Mother's Day

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notgran Sun 19-Mar-23 10:48:13

Over the years, I have discovered going out for a celebratory meal on Mother's Day and expecting it to be fun doesn't happen. There are many reasons, little children racing around the restaurant unchecked, service not being too good because the restaurant is so busy etc. Having a meal at home means someone has to shop, prepare the meal and tidy up. So now we ignore the getting together bit on the day itself and go for a nice meal in the evening during the week. It works well for us. I have had text and e-mails with lovely messages and am looking forward to our meal out tomorrow.

lixy Sun 19-Mar-23 21:23:05

It was lovely today coming home on the train with lots of people carrying various bunches of flowers and plants. It all seemed very festive.

I was lucky to have an early Mother's Day treat, going to a restaurant last Thursday with DD and her family. It was a lovely evening. We have always avoided eating out on 'special' days.

notgran Mon 20-Mar-23 11:20:26

I'm so glad I posted this. It seems lots of us do Mother's Day things with family, around, but not on Mothering Sunday.

Mouse Mon 20-Mar-23 11:31:06

I had a lovely Mothers Day at my eldest daughters. Her husband organised everything , shopped and cooked. Both my other children were invited too. So as well as being with all my children, I was with all my grandchildren too. SIL cooked a roast beef dinner and set out a cream tea later on. I am so lucky.

IrishDancing Mon 20-Mar-23 11:32:13

Flowers and card from DS on Saturday, visit, present and card from DD yesterday. Visit from DD and DGD today for DD to get her presents etc from DGD! But no, we never go out for lunch on the actual day - far too busy in our preferred restaurants.

jane1956 Mon 20-Mar-23 11:43:35

wasn't it that girls in service were given the day off (3rd Sunday before Easter as already said) they walked home to mum picking flowers on the way

sweetcakes Mon 20-Mar-23 11:46:44

Two of my children visited yesterday with flowers and cards and my other son whose in New York with his wife on holiday
phoned me for a chat which I was chuffed about it's the little things.
But what I do miss is the homemade cards I use to get and the bunch of daffodils when they were little. So much effort when into them cards treasured.

Kate1949 Mon 20-Mar-23 11:51:07

My daughter and son-in-law took me and his mum for a lovely lunch in a very pretty restaurant. My granddaughter couldn't join us she was away but she sent me a card and a text. smile

Tinky17 Mon 20-Mar-23 12:03:02

Both my DDs were staying with me this weekend, as it was the youngest's hen party on Saturday! DH & I offered to take them for Sunday brunch, forgetting it was Mother's day. All we could get was the last breakfast slot at local Premier Inn. Like others we don't normally eat out on the day itself. Yes it was a rather crowded scrummage, but we really didn't care, it was so lovely to have them both with us, which hasn't happened for a long time. Little present & card was very nice but their company was the real treat.

HannahLoisLuke Mon 20-Mar-23 12:23:08

My son and his girlfriend took me out for lunch on Saturday and it was perfect. He had to work on the actual day but for me it was so much nicer not having to wait, possibly endure fretful service and dishes running out.
Yesterday my daughters and I went to my granddaughter’s for dinner, cooked by her lovely husband while we enjoyed time together playing with their gorgeous six month old baby daughter.
All in all a perfect Mother’s Day weekend.

Nannashirlz Mon 20-Mar-23 12:36:13

I’m going for a Mother’s Day meal with one of mine on Saturday and the other next weekend because one as covid and the other working overseas I did receive flowers and chocolates etc yesterday though and texts and video calls. Should have been going for a meal yesterday. But we all went out last year and it was so busy in the restaurant had a splitting headache when got home because we were sat near kids play area and this one girl screamed constantly in temper tantrum and parents ignored her lol

Lookout01 Mon 20-Mar-23 12:39:28

Last year Mother's Day fell on my birthday 27th March and we had a celebration planned and booked, but two of us contracted COVID so had to cancel. This year my birthday is next week, the week after Mothers Day so thinking that celebrating two weeks running is too much, we have a table booked for lunch on Saturday 25th to celebrate my birthday and Mother's Day together. I had some lovely messages and calls from children yesterday and as I work in retail, I did a shift instead! But was happy and looking forward to Saturday 😁

4allweknow Mon 20-Mar-23 13:51:37

I issued a warning to my family not to send cards, gifts fir Mother's Day. Just feel the whole thing is so commercial nowadays and given the cost of living crisis I'd rather any money was used for their famil. Two were actually visiting for the weekend for another event. On Sunday I was presented with a simple bunch of daffodils and had brunch made for me. Perfect gift in my eyes. It's not just costs fir me, they have MILs so it's twice the cost and their own wives all out if family funds.

Notagranyet1234 Mon 20-Mar-23 14:08:39

This Mother's Day marked a year since my lovely mum died so it was a difficult one.
My son bless him forgot to get me a present because I had my big birthday 2 weeks ago and "it crept up on him so quickly!"
I said not to worry, he's a grand lad, and has spent all weekend building my new wardrobes for me, so absolutely no need for anything.
My daughter thoughtfully sent flowers via an online company as she lives at the opposite side of the country. Unfortunately they had clearly seen better days when I opened them, I sent her a thank you and a photo of them arranged as best I could without mentioning they had seen better days.
She saw straight away and was really annoyed having spent a great deal of money on them, My youngest gave me chocolates in a lab flask they're yummy.
The day was really busy moving everything back in to my bedroom after a complete refurb, I found time to cook a roast though.

Bijou Mon 20-Mar-23 14:21:48

When I was young it was Mothering Sunday and itwas a day when we took Mum a bunch of primroses picked from the hedge row. No cards etc.

kwest Mon 20-Mar-23 14:37:45

I had a lovely time this Mother's Day. My daughter and granddaughter drove up from the West Country and brought a wonderful home cooked lunch with them and a hug bunch of flowers and a half bottle of champagne. It was so lovely to have them here. My son popped in on Saturday afternoon as he was working all weekend, He brought champagne, chocolates and flowers and some cakes from Costa to have with coffee while he was here. the most amazing bit was as we were eating a late lunch he arrived unexpectedly and so I had both my children round my table for lunch and also my gorgeous granddaughter and of course my husband who sent me a card saying, I know you are not my mother but I just wanted to thank you for bringing our children up so well. It was all really lovely and I feel so lucky to have such a lovely family.

Callistemon21 Mon 20-Mar-23 14:43:47


Has Mother’s Day being earlier this year confused any other family members living abroad? Had a message from my son saying ‘oh no, my personal assistant didn’t tell me it’s Mother’s Day’, His PA being his wife of course!!
My daughter, also in Australia said she’d only just realised it was today. Wonder why earlier this year.

Mothering Sunday is always the fourth Sunday in Lent.

Yes, this. It's a Christian celebration to honour the Virgin Mary and a chance for people to go home to their mother church.

Mother's Day is something made up by Hallmark Cards and is an American celebration and is in May, the same in Australia.

If your children live overseas they may not have realised. Perhaps you'll have a surprise in May 🙂

winterwhite Mon 20-Mar-23 14:50:02

Agree, Bijou, tho in my family it had to be violets 🤷‍♀️. When you think, ‘mothering’ usually means something different now so maybe not surprising that the name has changed.

Btw, is mine the only family left that has simnel cake on Mothering Sunday rather than Easter?

Lizzie44 Mon 20-Mar-23 14:55:44

Hate the way the Mother's Day (among other Days) has become so commercialised. I was out shopping on Saturday afternoon and was struck by the number of fathers and young children coming out of the shops laden with flowers and chocolates. In one family a very young boy was carrying an enormous box of chocolates and his sister was carrying a bouquet of flowers. They didn't even look nice. Apart from the obvious expense I would have thought that a simple bunch of daffodils (£1 from Sainsburys) and a home-made card would have been more acceptable. Better still if you have spring flowers in your garden and can pick those. It really is the thought that counts.

Callistemon21 Mon 20-Mar-23 14:58:15


Agree, Bijou, tho in my family it had to be violets 🤷‍♀️. When you think, ‘mothering’ usually means something different now so maybe not surprising that the name has changed.

Btw, is mine the only family left that has simnel cake on Mothering Sunday rather than Easter?

I'm the only one who likes marzipan and even I couldn't eat a whole one sad

Mollygo Mon 20-Mar-23 15:29:40

Just back from lunch out, courtesy of DD who lives near us.
Fairly peaceful restaurant with lovely views so more enjoyable than previous visits on the day.

Grandma70s Mon 20-Mar-23 17:25:18


When I was young it was Mothering Sunday and itwas a day when we took Mum a bunch of primroses picked from the hedge row. No cards etc.

How lovely. Of course, we’re not supposed to pick wild flowers now, but it was quite acceptable then.

My mother didn’t want us to celebrate the commercial “Mother’s Day”. She said, quite reasonably, that we should be nice to her every day.

MawtheMerrier Mon 20-Mar-23 18:04:59

I spent Mothers Day/Mothering Sunday helping out D1 , (SIL being away,) who had to cope with three children needing to be in different places on Sunday.
She took DGD to her gymnastics competition in Stoke at 7 (2 hrs away), a friend took GS2 to football in Leicester at 8 (1 hour away) and I took GS1 to rugby, fortunately only 15 minutes away and stayed to watch, walking their dog at the same time, for two hours on a rather chilly and damp morning!
I then stayed with GS1 until everybody else got home in the course of the afternoon.
Mothering Sunday works both ways!

Gundy Mon 20-Mar-23 18:22:37

Mother’s Day is always the 2nd Sunday in May, across the pond. Father’s Day is the 3rd Sunday in June. It never changes.

And, especially for Mother’s Day, it’s the worst day to go out for a lovely meal - go either before or after. Enjoy the good service, food and prices in a leisurely manner.

I hope all of you had a splendid day! 🌷🌼
USA Gundy

MawtheMerrier Mon 20-Mar-23 18:35:54

In the church (RC as well as Anglican) Mothering Sunday is also known as Mid-Lent or Refreshment Sunday, a chance to have a breather before continuing your Lenten fast.
You were expected to go to your “mother church” ie where you were baptised or your cathedral

During the 16th century, people used to return on the 4th Sunday in Lent for a service to their ‘mother church’ - the main church or cathedral of the area. This was either the church where you were baptised, or the local parish church or more often the nearest cathedral. Anyone who did this was commonly said to have gone "a-mothering", although whether this term preceded the observance of Mothering Sunday is unclear.
In later times, ‘Mothering Sunday’ became a day when domestic servants were given a day off to visit their mother church, usually with their own mothers and other family members. It was often the only time that whole families could gather together, since on other days they were prevented by conflicting working hours, and servants were not given free days on other occasions.
Children and young people who were given a day off on that date so they could visit their families would pick wild flowers along the way to place in the church or give to their mothers. Eventually, the religious tradition evolved into the Mothering Sunday secular tradition of giving gifts to mothers

Gwenisgreat1 Mon 20-Mar-23 20:45:01

My DD1 enjoys cooking so we all (DH, DD2, DGS and her MIL) all pile over top her house for super grub and super company.