Feeling anxious about husband being misunderstood in the world now controlled by the wokeness police,!!

I was born with a name and i expect people to use it
Darling is a term of endearment, reserved for close relationships, not strangers

Would a man say darling to another guy?
No, it is reserved for women

As a person, i expect the same respect a person witn a penis has, not being called darllng based on my ovaries

Chauvinistic attitude at best

Today, I shook hands with the mechanic who came to pick up my car, to take it to the garage. Nothing wrong with that I suppose, but I felt silly 😂

Hithere

Your rights cannot infringe mine, empathy or not

Being called "darling" is very much a nono

Maybe it's a no no to you. But it's possibly a yes yes to others. Or a really don't mind which is probably the majority.

So whose rights are to be respected?

Wyllow3

Perhaps just a little word with the other person "my husband has had a stroke" when possible. It's very hard for you.

I don't think its related to woke-ness. Unfortunately people who have had strokes - or the beginnings of dementia - have always possibly come out with phrases that may not be appropriate, or said in a less than appropriate way, and of course its not obvious to the person on the receiving end they are a stroke sufferer.

Is DH aware of this sankev? Is it something you can talk about or all too painful for him to raise it with him (I mean as regards you saying something).

I agree with Wyllow3. Nothing to do with woke -whatever that is. As a retired nurse I have been on the "other person" end of this and when you know the medical history of the person or can realise why they are saying something maybe inappropriate then it is easy to brush it off, go along with the conversation in a jokey fashion. If you are not aware of the situation then a brief acknowledgement to the person concerned is probably appropriate e.g. (sorry he has ..........) from yourself.

I agree with anna7. The whole world seems to take offence at everything now.

Perhaps just a little word with the other person "my husband has had a stroke" when possible. It's very hard for you

Yes, most kind people would be understanding of some who has had a stroke, got dementia or not full mental capacity to know what might be considered inappropriate.

Unfortunately, there are always those who have no understanding of the problems some people have to live with and only think of their own right to take offence.

I hope a gentle word occasionally might help him to remember, sankev, but you might need to be ready to explain quietly.

I don't understand how anyone could be offended by an elderly, frail gentleman calling someone darling.

Callistemon21

^Even those who have had a stroke or may have dementia or other problems^ ?

That was a question, not a statement, btw.

But it needs the person at the receiving end to know this.

Perhaps just a little word with the other person "my husband has had a stroke" when possible. It's very hard for you.

I don't think its related to woke-ness. Unfortunately people who have had strokes - or the beginnings of dementia - have always possibly come out with phrases that may not be appropriate, or said in a less than appropriate way, and of course its not obvious to the person on the receiving end they are a stroke sufferer.

Is DH aware of this sankev? Is it something you can talk about or all too painful for him to raise it with him (I mean as regards you saying something).

OP

you are doing the right thing by readdressing his behaviour as needed - it is not unfair for him

Your rights cannot infringe mine, empathy or not

Being called "darling" is very much a nono

Even those who have had a stroke or may have dementia or other problems ?

That was a question, not a statement, btw.

The world changes and we all need to adapt

Even those who have had a stroke or may have dementia or other problems.

The world needs to have some more empathy.

Honest question: does your husband have any issues reading body language to sense when he is being inappropriate?

The world changes and we all need to adapt - nothing "woke" about it