I'd forgotten what it's like!!

INot at 18 year olg girls are so messy and inconsiderate. As her Gran you'd be doing her parents and future flat mates etc a favour to tell her to clean up after herself. Time for tough love.

Surely her Mum doesn’t let her get away with this and clean up after her?

Quite agreed, Aveline. Her future house mates won’t take kindly to such selfish and inconsiderate behaviour, whatever she may get away with at home.

Obviously none of you have ever been in a student flat with eight occupants at the end of a term!

NotAGran55

Obviously none of you have ever been in a student flat with eight occupants at the end of a term!

😂😂 Spot on, notagran!

Though, to be fair, sharing with other messy and/or difficult late teenagers does bring home the things their parents and grandparents have tried to teach them about the value of tidiness and order in a shared house.

I had sons - from what I can see from my teenage GS & GD they are as bad as each other!

tanith I'm sure the week will fly by and you'll be sad when she goes

Germanshepherdsmum

Surely her Mum doesn’t let her get away with this and clean up after her?

Perhaps you don't have 4 daughters?

I didn't let anyone "get away" with messiness. I closed their doors. I select my battles carefully, as evidenced by this wedding prep.

When she’s got her own home you can visit and make an unholy mess there, Tanith.

Oh don’t worry she will clear up after herself, I just happened to need the bathroom before she was finished and I’m used to nothing being out of place in my bathroom😂

Baggs

NotAGran55

Obviously none of you have ever been in a student flat with eight occupants at the end of a term!

😂😂 Spot on, notagran!

Absolutely. As norah said select your battles carefully.

SueDonim

When she’s got her own home you can visit and make an unholy mess there, Tanith.

Yes, it's great to see their reactions SueDonim 😲 😁

Why oh why was my DD the last one to leave her student house? We went to pick her up and spent the day helping her clear up everyone else's mess as well as hers.

My teenage DDs used to have a massive tidy up once every so often, the rest of the time I shut their bedroom doors.

I agree she shouldn't be so messy.
I host youngsters from around the world and am usually very impressed with the way they leave the communal areas and strip their beds when they leave.

Things I have told them not to do such as using the tumble drier on a sunny day.

Maybe that is why she wasn’t left home alone whilst her parents were away.

Yes. I did wonder why she had come to stay at 18.

Mine used to drive me mad with hair dye on the towels and mess everywhere, but I missed her so much when she left, and I still do. I'm sure I'd be back to madness within a week if she moved back though

Obviously, I was very lucky with my DD. She is very neat and tidy in fact my house is an affront to her (although I've never left clothes around or left a mess in the bathroom)

If she id that untudy of course you must say something but I think its rather nice she wants to stay with you.

She came to stay mainly because shes gone out, locked up but left windows open a couple of times and Mum was nervous in case she did it again. Besides that she enjoys time at my house we watch old movies together when she’s not working.

NotSpaghetti

Yes. I did wonder why she had come to stay at 18.

I had to stay with my Nan too when I was 18 and my parents went away.
But I was a bit of a handful and some rather dodgy mates

Tanith I think that it’s lovely that you are enjoying some time together

Sorry Tanith, I’m not insinuating that your gd is a ‘bit of a handful with some rather dodgy mates’ too!

Crikey, lighten up everyone. My grandchildren can make as much mess as they like so long as they come to stay.

I taught my children about tidiness, I want to enjoy the company of my grandchildren not become their parents.

FannyCornforth 🤣🤣

A few miserable responses here - I'm sure tanith meant this as a light-hearted thread!