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downtoearth Sun 18-Jun-23 08:46:53

Friday morning I found my friend and neighbour dead in bed.
He was only 51,wheelchair bound animal and nature lover,gentle kind man.
We watched out for each other,supported each other,laughed and shared coffee in the communal garden,we went shopping and people watched over a cuppa,even went with another neighbour on a " pub crawl" several times.
He had not had a happy start in life,but didnt hold a grudge,unmaterialistic,he lived for his dog,tobacco,coffee,and his sport on TV.
We knew each others history,and treated each other with respect,it was a purely platonic older woman younger man friendship,we had each others backs.
Today I will be dealing with his breaved parents,I handled his accounts and did his paperwork,complete trust on both sides.
I will miss him so much RIP Jim, a true gent.
Thankyou for letting me share my sadness

Kate1949 Sun 18-Jun-23 09:46:08

How dreadful. I'm so sorry.

Jalyn Sun 18-Jun-23 09:49:13

So sorry for you. What a shock it must have been for you. My condolences and best wishes

Germanshepherdsmum Sun 18-Jun-23 09:52:50

I’m so very sorry. A terrible shock for you and a very great loss of a dear and special friend. Your description of him is a great tribute to both of you. May he rest in peace and may you find comfort in knowing how much you enriched his life with your friendship, and he yours.💐

Mollygo Sun 18-Jun-23 09:53:23

Sorry to hear that downtoearth. Such a shock for you finding him, and the loss of a friend is a double blow. Sending hugs.

Callistemon21 Sun 18-Jun-23 09:55:43

A terrible shock for you downtoearth and you are going to miss him very much.

You will always be able to remember that you have been a true friend to him

May he rest in peace.

toscalily Sun 18-Jun-23 10:06:50

I am so sorry for your loss. As you have told us, your friendship enriched both your lives, let this give you some comfort in these dark days. My condolences. flowers

BlueBelle Sun 18-Jun-23 10:15:10

That’s so sad, but in time what pleasant memories you will have
you are going to miss him so much, isn’t it lovely to have a friendship with no strings attached What a blessing you have had one Jim sounds a lovely man

lixy Sun 18-Jun-23 10:17:52

As you say, a horrible shock for you.
The warmth of your friendship shines through your words and I hope you will find solace in remembering your shared laughter.
I'll be thinking of you today - a very tricky one for all of you.

Shinamae Sun 18-Jun-23 10:18:08

So sorry for your loss, but sounds like you were a wonderful friend to him and made his life richer….💐💐

Freya5 Sun 18-Jun-23 10:23:26

So sorry to hear this. Must have been an awful shock for you, and hope you have someone for support.

tickingbird Sun 18-Jun-23 10:27:48

So sorry for the loss of your friend. You are obviously shocked and bereft. Take comfort from the fact you were such a good friend and support to Jim. Sending very best wishes flowers

crazyH Sun 18-Jun-23 10:30:22

So sorry for your loss - both of you were lucky to have each other in your lives 🌺

downtoearth Sun 18-Jun-23 10:37:06

Thankyou all for your very kind words,I will indeed miss him with as well as his very down to earth humour ,every day,as drove into the communall garden,dog by his side,he always smelt the kettle going on a pure friendship indeed.

Germanshepherdsmum Sun 18-Jun-23 10:43:59

You and he have both been blessed downtoearth. Few people have such good fortune as to have such a wonderful friendship.

annsixty Sun 18-Jun-23 10:58:45

Condolences to both you and your friend’s family Downtoearth you will miss him and his company and friendship.
I expect his dog is also bereft and I hope a loving owner is found for him. X

Baggs Sun 18-Jun-23 11:00:02

Condolences, downtoearth flowers

henetha Sun 18-Jun-23 11:01:53

How sad, and such a shock. You were a wonderful friend and neighbour. May he rest in peace.

Smileless2012 Sun 18-Jun-23 12:15:27

That must have been very upsetting downtoearth, I'm so sorry you've lost a good friend flowers.

Jaxjacky Sun 18-Jun-23 12:44:02

How very sad downtoearth you will miss him, but remember him fondly and treasure the times shared.
💐

Greyduster Sun 18-Jun-23 12:47:36

I’m so sorry, Downtoearth, that must have been truly awful for you. You each had a true friend in the other and enriched each other’s lives. That is all any of us can ask - that we enrich the lives of others. Be kind to yourself💐.

ParlorGames Sun 18-Jun-23 12:50:34

How dreadful and heartbreaking for you to have found him. You sound like you had a really lovely friendship and hopefully, in the fullness of time, you will take comfort from those wonderful memories.
Sending gentle thoughts to you flowers

merlotgran Sun 18-Jun-23 12:56:33

So sorry, downtoearth. You would have been a wonderful friend to Jim.
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Wendy46 Sun 18-Jun-23 13:00:18

So sorry to hear of this. Thinking of you and your friend.

downtoearth Sun 18-Jun-23 13:16:44

Annsixty Jim had a beautiful just 2year old fox red Lab,I went with him to choose her,fortunately I was able to ask the family that still have her mum and sister if they could help,they arranged for her to be kept in the family circle, she will live on a farm and be well loved once more,it was the last thing I could do for him to make sure his beloved girl was looked after.

SueDonim Sun 18-Jun-23 13:17:57

I’m so sorry, downtoearth what an awful shock and loss. flowers