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downtoearth Sun 18-Jun-23 08:46:53

Friday morning I found my friend and neighbour dead in bed.
He was only 51,wheelchair bound animal and nature lover,gentle kind man.
We watched out for each other,supported each other,laughed and shared coffee in the communal garden,we went shopping and people watched over a cuppa,even went with another neighbour on a " pub crawl" several times.
He had not had a happy start in life,but didnt hold a grudge,unmaterialistic,he lived for his dog,tobacco,coffee,and his sport on TV.
We knew each others history,and treated each other with respect,it was a purely platonic older woman younger man friendship,we had each others backs.
Today I will be dealing with his breaved parents,I handled his accounts and did his paperwork,complete trust on both sides.
I will miss him so much RIP Jim, a true gent.
Thankyou for letting me share my sadness

Oopsadaisy1 Sun 18-Jun-23 08:48:50

So sorry Downtoearth it’s good that you have such happy memories of your dear friend.
But it was an awful shock for you so please take care of yourself.💐

Poppyred Sun 18-Jun-23 08:49:20

Very sorry downtoearth.

PamelaJ1 Sun 18-Jun-23 08:50:38

You will be feeling totally bereft by the sound of it. I hope you feel better soon and both you and his parents can comfort each other.💐💐

Marydoll Sun 18-Jun-23 08:51:27

How sad for you, downtoearth, but how uplifting to hear of your wonderful friendship. My condolences.💐

Sparklefizz Sun 18-Jun-23 08:53:46

So sorry to read this downtoearth ... what a terrible shock for you. It sounds a lovely friendship and you will miss him. Take care of yourself while you grieve. flowers

Mizuna Sun 18-Jun-23 08:54:14

What an awful shock for you to deal with. How blessed he was to have your friendship.

Riverwalk Sun 18-Jun-23 08:55:11

Poor man, so young, but he had you as a good friend and neighbour to enrich his life.

And what a shock for you sad flowers

Grandmabatty Sun 18-Jun-23 08:55:17

I'm so sorry Downtoearth. It must have been a very big shock to find him. I hope you have people in real life you can talk to.

Sar53 Sun 18-Jun-23 08:58:15

What a lovely friend you were to Jim and how you will miss him.
My sincere condolences to you and to his family.
Look after yourself and take time to grieve.
Best wish to you Downtoearth xxx

V3ra Sun 18-Jun-23 08:59:43

What a wonderful friendship you had downtoearth, lots of happy times to look back on.

Rest in peace Jim.

sodapop Sun 18-Jun-23 09:02:02

That must have been such a shock Downtoearth finding your good friend like that. You will miss his friendship but have many happy memories of the good times you shared.
Take care of yourself as you grieve. thanks

LRavenscroft Sun 18-Jun-23 09:08:26

So sorry to hear of your loss. I am sure he treasured your friendship and it sounds as if he was one of those lovely people you meet in life who leave a warm memory feeling every time you think of them.

Sorchame Sun 18-Jun-23 09:09:33

So sorry downtoearth. flowers

BlueSapphire Sun 18-Jun-23 09:13:02

What a shock for you - so sorry.

Witzend Sun 18-Jun-23 09:13:12

I’m so sorry, downtoearth - what a terrible shock for you.💐

Bella23 Sun 18-Jun-23 09:14:41

Condolences, you've lost a good friend in a shocking way, he would have appreciated your friendship as much as you did his.flowers

M0nica Sun 18-Jun-23 09:16:56

Downtoearth You have written such a wonderful tribute to a true friendship, how you will miss him. My deepest condolences.

cornergran Sun 18-Jun-23 09:17:26

A horrible shock downtoearth. I’m so sorry you’ve lost your friend in this way. Please care for yourself.

25Avalon Sun 18-Jun-23 09:23:25

Yes a terrible shock for you downtoearth but you can be proud to have known and helped such a lovely man who found contentment despite his poor start in life and disability. We can learn so much from such people but don’t we miss them when they are gone. After the grief I am sure you will remember him with fondness. You take care now at this sad time. xx

Pittcity Sun 18-Jun-23 09:25:13

Sending you a big virtual hug 🤗 dte

Doodledog Sun 18-Jun-23 09:25:13

How shocking for you, downtoearth, and how awful to lose someone close to you so suddenly. Small comfort maybe, but as he died in his sleep he probably knew nothing about it, and it’s the way many people would choose to go.

I wish you well in your bereavement and hope the administration and in dealing with his friends and family flowers.

Redhead56 Sun 18-Jun-23 09:25:30

So very sorry about your friend it must have been heartbreaking to find him. He had you in his life and that was a blessing for him someone who loved and cared about him.
I am sure you have wonderful memories that you will treasure forever.
Your friend will always be in your heart as my best friend is he died ten years ago. I still miss him but smile every day when I think of him.
Your friend will always be there in your heart too.💐

kittylester Sun 18-Jun-23 09:29:44

Just sending a big, gentle hug, downtoearth.

LilyoftheValley Sun 18-Jun-23 09:30:08

What a dreadful shock. You appear to have brightened his life a great deal. The church bells are ringing out here and it seems an appropriate time to reach out. My thoughts are with you,