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Foxygloves Fri 30-Jun-23 21:30:21

I read this recently and thought how appropriate it might be for those of us with health worries, poorly or even fading loved ones -and of course our beloved pets who have no concept of tomorrow, just now, today.

“ We may not have tomorrow, but we do have today, and life is oh so very short. So please- come sit with me now and let us share these precious moments we have together.”

hulahoop Thu 06-Jul-23 15:14:19

After having cancer twice I try and appreciate every day even if it's a routine one.
Miss your posts Urms🌻rafich🌸

Calendargirl Wed 05-Jul-23 07:26:12

A school friend of mine died a couple of days ago. I knew her cancer had returned, but didn’t realise quite how poorly she was.

We weren’t huge friends, but I keep thinking about her and her family.

As I contemplate another day, I realise how I should appreciate our own health, everyday routine life, and all that makes it good.

But we take it all for granted, until something happens to upskittle it all.

Spinnaker Wed 05-Jul-23 07:16:08

I too was another who missed Urmstongran posting - one of the nicest posters on GN, in my opinion. Many years ago when I first joined GN (under another name) Urmstongran was very kind to me and I never forgot it.

Kindest thoughts and virtual hugs dear lady to you and your family at this very tough time for you all flowers

Chocolatelovinggran Wed 05-Jul-23 06:43:20

Sending Urmstongran and rafichgran a virtual hug. I will hold them and theirs in my prayers. Like Gundy, I am enjoying my 70s with the precious gift of time but very aware that this is a privilege.

Gundy Tue 04-Jul-23 15:07:18

I remind myself of this every. single. day.

My work at the hospital (taking care of the families of trauma victims/end of life…now retired) instilled in me how suddenly things can change in a single second, in a flash, not just for the patient, but for entire families.

Keeping that in perspective I’m a person full of gratitude for the life I’ve been given, cherish my family and all my friends, hug my kitty more than she probably wants, look for greatest opportunity for rest and relaxation every chance I get, enjoy my active social sphere. I’d rather travel a bit more. Will have to get passport renewed.

My 70’s is my Happiness Decade!
USA Gundy

winterwhite Tue 04-Jul-23 13:47:46

I didn't know why you'd stopped posting, Urms, though I'd certainly missed you. Life can be very cruel. Warmest wishes.

Kate1949 Tue 04-Jul-23 11:57:34

Life can change in the blink of an eye. Urms flowers

Eirlys Tue 04-Jul-23 11:53:27

I really try to live for/with EACH DAY and not to think of tomorrow. I have apologised, (mentally and out loud), to the Good Lord and to ALL for any stupid comments or actions in the past which possibly hurt or offended them. I appreciate the beauty around me and am grateful for family and friends.

Marydoll Mon 03-Jul-23 22:33:11

Once you receive a devastating diagnosis, it affects your mindset. Every moment becomes precious, to be lived as your last.

Dickens Mon 03-Jul-23 22:15:30

Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life.

Omar Khayyam
(May 1048 – December 1131)

win Mon 03-Jul-23 22:03:35

How hard it is to live in the now. We tend to always be worrying about the future or the past, this quote brings it back to us that there is only NOW the past and future exists only in our minds. Mindfulness is everything and sharing it is priceless.

Wheniwasyourage Mon 03-Jul-23 21:47:34

Dear Urmstongran, I had missed your bad news, having been on holiday, but am so sorry to hear about it. Sending you and your DH and family kindest thoughts and hugs. 🌻

Iam64 Mon 03-Jul-23 20:48:27

Thank you foxygloves for posting the quotation. Sending love and positive vibes to gramarreto and urmston and mr urms.
The consultant who gave my husband the devastating diagnosis, responded to mr i’s question about what he could do to help himself, advised “live your best life, if that includes a large glass of red this evening, enjoy it”.

My lovely husband lived six months after that date. We lived it as well as we could. That desire to enjoy the day has stayed with me. Grief is ever present but I cherish what we had and what I have with family and friends. I try to live well and I’m so aware that life is short and could end any time

grandMattie Mon 03-Jul-23 20:44:45

Urms 🌹🌺🪷

Lovely, and particularly apposite as tomorrow will be 12 months since DH died of cancer after a particularly horrible 4 months.

Urmstongran Mon 03-Jul-23 20:37:08

...and your 'family' on here.

What a lovely thing to say Dickens. It made me fill up just thinking of you all, rooting for us. We sorely need it and prayers too if you have a faith.
There are so many kindly folk on GN. A real community.

Heartfelt thanks. x

travelsafar Mon 03-Jul-23 20:26:28

Sorry pressed to soon, I count myself lucky to have people in my life who truely care about me as I do them.❤️

travelsafar Mon 03-Jul-23 20:24:44

I had three precious moments today. My sister dropped in for coffee, my daughter came round too and I've had two texts from my dearest friend. She texts me every morning and evening to make sure I'm OK and visits at least once a week. I count mys

Curlywhirly Mon 03-Jul-23 20:01:08

Urmstongran thanks

Maxine16 Mon 03-Jul-23 18:47:28

A few years ago I saw a bench dedicated to a young person who had sadly passed away. it just said

"No one knows how the day will end"

It had such a profound effect on me, I often think of it.

hollysteers Mon 03-Jul-23 18:45:14

Thinking of you Urms💐💕

nadateturbe Mon 03-Jul-23 18:23:44

knspol

Wish I'd paid more attention to that quotation when DH was still with me. If only...

💐

Germanshepherdsmum Mon 03-Jul-23 16:54:05

I thought of that poem so often when I was working. Now I’m retired the time to stop and stare, to appreciate each season, is a priceless gift.

springishere Mon 03-Jul-23 15:18:10

Leisure
by
William Henry Davies

What is this life if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.

No time to stand beneath the boughs
And stare as long as sheep or cows.

No time to see, when woods we pass,
Where squirrels hide their nuts in grass.

No time to see, in broad daylight,
Streams full of stars, like skies at night.

No time to turn at Beauty's glance,
And watch her feet, how they can dance.

No time to wait till her mouth can
Enrich that smile her eyes began.

A poor life this if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.

I printed this out for my children, when they were dashing around.

knspol Mon 03-Jul-23 13:54:22

Wish I'd paid more attention to that quotation when DH was still with me. If only...

Milest0ne Mon 03-Jul-23 12:25:30

From a Sanskrit poem
Yesterday is but a memory ,Tomorrow is only a vision
But today well lived makes every day makes every yesterday a memory of happiness and every tomorrow a vision of hope
Look well therefore to this day.