Tracking On Phones.

FannyCornforth

Thank you DaisyAnne. As I said, I don’t know anything about tracking, that’s why I asked.

I was thinking of putting on Air tag on my dog, but it’s not advised.

If anyone has any advice on that sort of thing, I’d appreciate it 😊

I have Tile tags on my phone, house keys, church keys and purse after I left my phone in a shop on holiday. Not cheap, but have saved my sanity on more than one occasion.

Tracking adult children, unless they have special needs makes me uncomfortable, feels a bit like stalking.
Mt husbands tracks me, at my suggestion, when I am out on my own, as I am physically vulnerable

FannyCornforth

Thank you DaisyAnne. As I said, I don’t know anything about tracking, that’s why I asked.

I was thinking of putting on Air tag on my dog, but it’s not advised.

If anyone has any advice on that sort of thing, I’d appreciate it 😊

Can't you put air tags on keys, etc. Fanny? Do you know why it would be inadvisable for dogs? It sounds like a good idea.

I wouldn’t dream if tracking my AC or my husband, and I definitely do not want to be tracked myself.

Our AC do track the two young teenage GC to check they are home from school/arrived at school.

No doubt if I get absent minded (as opposed to my normal scatterbrained self) they will suggest turning on the app on my iPhone.

We have tracking apps and find them invaluable. I was a passenger in a friend's car when we had an accident deep in the countryside. DH could see exactly where we were and came to find us. I don't understand why people don't like them, unless they have something to hide!

It sounds good as someone else has said the other way around, I wouldn't mind if I was tracked by the DDs. Though I think I would get some strong words if I tracked them all the time, just as I would have given my mother if she had tracked me.
My MIL managed it without telephones 40/30 years ago with a series of spies and people taking her around. She split a member of the family and their fiancee up by sitting outside pubs waiting to see who they came out with.
I was supposed to have an elderly gentleman friend who was actually a relation she did not know giving me lifts from evening classes. I know what it is like to have someone constantly checking on you.
I wouldn't mind it on DH when he goes wandering in the fells but I presume it only works where there is a telephone signal.

I honestly don't see the problem with using it to see when to put the kettle on, when to open the gates, when to put dinner in the oven, when it is safe to message someone if you can see they are not driving. As a family we trust each other to use the app to help keep us safe and to communicate when location is important.
What is the problem with that?

My daughter tracks her three kids. The eldest is eighteen. It's such an ingrained habit (along with checking her Ring cameras and tracking the dog) I can see her having trouble stopping! I wonder if she tracks her husband, too?

I would just say no. The last thing I want is people knowing where I am. Couldnt think of anything worse. Fine as long as everyone agrees as long as no coercion. And I suppose as long as people dont act hurt when people say no.

My friend also does this to her 3 as well, her eldest is 40.

If a family all trust each other and use it sensibly then it is a good thing.
It only takes one to decide to be "Big Brother", like my MIL would have and it all breaks down. It depends on the people who are in the group and their attitude towards each other.
As I said it would be brilliant when DH goes off wandering, he always leaves a list of where he is, phones a couple of times and when he gets back to the car where there usually is coverage, gives an approximation of when he will be home and I can start the supper. My DDs live hundreds of miles away so it would not help at all.

Dickens

Calendargirl

Did your friend say why she and her DH were doing this?

No, I think it has just carried on from the children being younger.

My friend is the nicest person and a lovely, caring mum. She is always at their beck and call.

It just strikes me as odd that you would check whereabouts your adult children are at any particular time. Nothing like this was around when mine were growing up, so it is alien to me.

But as long as those concerned are aware and not troubled by it, fine.

I wouldn't want to track my sons or grandchildren - all adults now. It would feel like spying.
But when I am a little older and become more vague, then I think it's a good idea to track me.

Mamie

We have tracking apps and find them invaluable. I was a passenger in a friend's car when we had an accident deep in the countryside. DH could see exactly where we were and came to find us. I don't understand why people don't like them, unless they have something to hide!

I don't understand why people don't like them, unless they have something to hide!

That's an unfortunate assumption to make about people.

My late ex was - because of his own insecurities - a very controlling person. When I left the house he wanted to know exactly where I intended to go, which friends I might be visiting and how long I might be out. He was not concerned about my welfare, he simply could not cope with my independence, it threatened him - this is not at all unusual with insecure individuals.

I had absolutely nothing to hide, and I'm glad that at the time, mobile phones were only at the stage where they resembled a house-brick.

Everyone deserves a little privacy in their lives if they want it. It doesn't mean they are being devious or secretive.

Sometimes I 'hide' the fact that I want to drive a different way home, the view along the way is lovely. You see this is what I mean when i say people cant be hurt when people say no.

I find this type of behaviour so controlling if it involves adults in control of their faculties. Obviously to use short term, when out with someone you need to stay in touch with or when expecting someone who is in danger of losing their way sounds normal but to track other adults constantly sounds like stalking to me. I would never do it or allow it.

“Find my” works both ways so the family members that I track can also see where I am.
My adult children, 49&50, & two of my gds, 24 & 11, are all happy and none of us has abused the knowledge.

Omg this is so weird! I’ve got three sons and wouldn’t dream of this! We have cameras on our house and eldest son can see us in the garden or if our cars are on the drive but they were his old cameras so I don’t mind. Feels nice to be safe.

The "Find my" app was brilliant when my sister was widowed and living on her own. It gave her piece of mind that I could see where she was, and she could see me too. When she got a new guy he was aghast that we could see where each other was and she quickly came off the app. Needless to say, when she's out and about without him he calls her mobile to check whereabouts she is!
I can also see where my GDs are which is great for when they're coming home from school. It also gives them peace of mind that they can see we're at home awaiting their arrival.

My sister tracks her husband and adult children, she often looks at her phone then says things like, Sally is in tesco, thats odd she went shopping yesterday or Steve is at KFC so I wont be cooking for him tonight.

I used to look after her cats when she was away but stopped after the time I was in the house and her voice came over Alexa saying hello, I had not realised the screen was connected to her phone and alerted her that I was there, or it could have been the doorbell. She has an Alexa in every room so can ‘drop in’ to that room and listen to conversations. I have nothing to hide but do not like this constant unnecessary surveillance.

So creepy!

If all parties involved know about it and are in complete agreement about it, that's fine. It's when it starts to become more intrusive and controlling that it could easily become a problem. I wouldn't dream of 'tracking' my adult children, but I admit it could be useful for my husband when he walks the dog. He's often away for a good few hours, walking through woodland and countryside where he's unlikely to ever see another human, so sometimes I do worry what would happen if he had an accident or took ill in the middle of nowhere.

It really is the software that "tracks".

If someone sits and ""tracks" you, they already have a problem and you have a problem with them - with or without an app

Obviously if you are concerned that people are abusing it, you just turn it off.
My DH had a job that involved multiple trips around the world, before the days of mobile phones. It would have been a huge relief to know that he was safely at his destination and when we could expect him home.

Marydoll

FannyCornforth

Thank you DaisyAnne. As I said, I don’t know anything about tracking, that’s why I asked.

I was thinking of putting on Air tag on my dog, but it’s not advised.

If anyone has any advice on that sort of thing, I’d appreciate it 😊

I have Tile tags on my phone, house keys, church keys and purse after I left my phone in a shop on holiday. Not cheap, but have saved my sanity on more than one occasion.

Tracking adult children, unless they have special needs makes me uncomfortable, feels a bit like stalking.
Mt husbands tracks me, at my suggestion, when I am out on my own, as I am physically vulnerable

I have just learned, looking up "Tile tags", that you can get smart stickers to go on you surf board! Who knew

DaisyAnneReturns, I know exactly where my surfboard is - it's lived in the shed for 25 years!