Dating

Am I wasting my time getting any more involved?

I suppose it matters if you want a friend or more?

What do you consider a "waste of time"?

My brother, 67, single for years, newly retired, moved to us, whilst he looked for a suitable home. Not because he had no cash, he's as Croesus. We wanted him nearby, simple.

However, he wanted a relationship and met a sweet woman within weeks. He moved in with her, at her asking. I don't think either of them are wasting time, they're growing a friendship.

Thank you everyone - I think I’m going to go with my gut instinct on this one! I’m disappointed but I am really looking for commitment and someone who had their own home would be better also for a number of reasons.

Yes same day! Sundays! The thing is some years ago I was seeing another man who told me he had a female lodger, who later turned out to be his girlfriend! I thought something like that couldn’t happen again but I can’t shake off this concern! I think maybe go with my instincts

Going Dutch wouldn’t worry me, but I do find it strange that as 60 year old man is lodging for 15 years, it would be a red flag to me, so personally I wouldn’t pursue it

Would have loved to see his face BlueBelle

Well we don’t know only you can make the judgement as to whether he’s worth it or not BUT may I tell you a story

I was in a long term relationship we had lived together in my house for 8 years then I got wind that he was seeing someone else to cut a long story short I contacted the woman and she was as surprised as me he had told her he was in lodgings and the landlady who wasn’t that nice wouldn’t let him have any visitors !!!Thankfully she believed who I actually was and we went together to his place of work
Talk about woman power we didn’t even have to say anything Have you ever seen a rabbit caught in the headlights

To be honest he doesn't sound like a good bet, but if you just want a friend to go out and about with, fine. He might be looking for a "woman of substance" who has a house he can move into. Be very careful.

A 60 year old man who says he has a good job (do you know what he does?) but has been lodging in someone else’s (whose ? A relative or friend’s?) house for 15 years and lives frugally. I agree, it is strange and I would want to know why he chose this lifestyle. And is there a reason why he only sees you once a week? Is it always the same day and time? Does he have commitments he hasn’t told you about?

Going Dutch is ok but I wonder why he chooses to live as a lodger. Having nothing to show for his working life is what I think is unusual.
If you like him just see him as you are now unless you want some commitment.

Going Dutch is fine, why should one person pay?

Maybe he doesn’t like living alone so prefers to be a lodger.
Treat this as someone to go out and have a good time with, not everyone will lead to a relationship.