toddlers dress for wedding

We bought white linen dresses with simple embroidery from Vertbaudet last year.

Monsoon is good for pretty dresses that can be worn afterwards. Reasonably priced.

maybe better is someone else takes the role.
it can hardly be her choice or willing agreement if she has never met them.
and being so young cannot really envisage it.
why is this being imposed on her.
what if she refuses plain dress.
too much pressure for no necessity.

I’d let her help choose a dress now that she’s happy with and can wear often before the day so it’s familiar.

Isn't this for her parents to take care of?

That's a good idea Jaxjacky.

Isn’t this rather an ordeal for a small child who has never met any of the people involved? Do they just want her there looking cute rather than thinking about what’s best for her?

Germanshepherdsmum

Isn’t this rather an ordeal for a small child who has never met any of the people involved? Do they just want her there looking cute rather than thinking about what’s best for her?

Indeed, I wondered same.

Our children were never young flower girls for the reasons you list - but I'm/we're often found to be strange.

My daughter was just over 2 when my sister got married.
Instead of being included in the bridal party she had a new outfit, presented my sister with a lucky horseshoe after the ceremony, and posed for a photo.
That was quite enough involvement for her!

Perhaps it’s not really the dress, it’s that she doesn’t want to do this at all but doesn’t know how to say that?

The message is clear, the poor mite doesn't want to do it. The parents should politely decline the flower girl role on behalf of their daughter. If the bride and groom are unhappy about it then they should grow up.!

I would stick a flower in her hair and leave it at that. 🌼

A two or three year old having a tantrum because they don't want to do or wear something is a sight to behold!
I'm sure the bride would want to avoid a Thunderous Threes meltdown in the middle of the ceremony so let her choose her own pretty dress and, if she doesn't want to be flower girl, so be it.

I hope they can get a refund on the dress.

The OP did say ‘so she could join in if she wants to’ so its not as though it’s obligatory

Yes she did say that didn't she.

Could be that the child does not want to wear a DRESS of any sort. Lot of youngs ters of that age decide they do not like dresses.

There were a couple of lovely ones in JoJo Maman Bébé; they did hae pretty sprigs of flowers on though, which would be fine for a flower girl.

Boden, John Lewis,
Joules - Peruvian dress, white with flowers

Smileless2012

Yes she did say that didn't she.

Please don't allow actually post cloud judgement.

to cloud

Honestly, I can type coherently. Looks not, but I can.

Thankyou for all your input. perhaps I worded badly. she is a very high spirited little girl and nobody would dream of making her do anything she was not happy with. Our side of the family is very small so they were trying to include us. If she wants to join in she will. I really was looking for ideas on a little dress she would be comfortable in for the day.

I thought this was a very sweet dress (and in the sale):
www.jojomamanbebe.co.uk/style/st335627/d18217#d18217.

But you could let her choose one herself, my nearly 3 year old DGD is very insistent on what she wants and likes to be included in the selection.

I would find 3 and only let her choose from those.

Oh! I am sucked into that website now!

Look at this one with little mice on:
www.jojomamanbebe.co.uk/style/st524643/189666#189666

My friend has this same issue, her daughter left the house in t shirt, leggings a tutu and wellies

She did decide she wanted the dress on later so maybe just keep her flowergirl dress available lol

Other than that, let her choose something herself is the best way

Oh I don't miss that stage lol

Oh, I remember when 3 year old DD was bridesmaid to her cousin in her homemade dress, she was so happy 😀

However, if she hadn't wanted to wear it, she would have dug her heels in!