Not sure how to deal with this

Have a quiet word with her parents, be gentle with them though and don't make the conversation too ' heavy' .
At 15 she should know better, however there may be issues with her you are unaware of. Tread carefully, be patient , try not to be upset as your GD may well be coping with her own insecurities! I sincerely hope this situation is resolved soon .

Ooh Not talking to your old Nan again today then. Thats a shame. Hope its just a you thing and nothing I have said or done. Okey dokey . Love you. Turn and leave her to it. Trust me I have done this more than once over the years!! I too would chat with the parents. You never know they might need support with her too.

May I ask why it bothers you so much?
She has been like this since the beginning

As you are so conflicted about this, talk to the parent - your son or daughter

She clearly doesn't want to talk to you, forcing it will make it worse

I’m sure it’s not you, it’s tha age I’m afraid.. it’s not cool being with parents let alone Grandparents. My family have to remind our Grandchildren to come and say hello or goodbye. Just let it go even though it hurts. Apparently it’s not like when our Children were brought up, they are being allowed to do their own thing and not to be reprimanded I have been erm reliably informed

You are doing the best thing, act as normal and don’t get drawn in. Every action has a reaction and you need to continue to not react. Difficult as it’s hurtful and can be uncomfortable. Just do your best.

Has she got a blood relative giving you bad press? One of my stepchildren was funny with me for a while and it turned out that every time his Mum got pickled, which was quite a regular occurrence, she would suddenly launch into a diatribe against my husband and me. My stepson's loyalty was torn and it took a while before he realised that I was not the person his mother said I was. It was only when he was grown up, he explained what had happened.

Was she very fond of a grandparent she can no longer see? Perhaps she feels you are trying to replace her, or is scared to care for you in case you are 'taken away' too? No excuse for pure rudeness but she may be scared.

Had to laugh at your comment, hilz! Exactly the technique I adopted with a much younger DGS who behaved in a similar fashion. "Oh no, look out, it's Nanny again with her hugs! Close your eyes and it will soon be over". Did that about three times before DGS had to giggle and now comes willingly to me for a hug. I also agree with those who say have a word (in private) with her parents. If they don't want to discuss it, that's fine. However, it may help them to air some problems with you. Good luck!

My daughter ( in her 40's) and her son ( 28 years old) live with us, neither of them really speak to us, daughter "lives" up in her bedroom, working from home 4 days a week.....grandson just grunts at us when we say good morning etc..... my OH says I shouldn't try to talk to him, but when I see him each morning I always say hello and how have you been, same with daughter, I don't see how I should be as horrible to them as they seem to be to us !!
They both seem to have lost the art of conversation ( unless it's with friends either over the computer or going to the pub to meet friends )
I shall just carry on as I have been doing and plod on regardless.

Magshard20

Your issue is way bigger than 2 adults living with you and not talking to you

of course it is rude of her to turn her back on you in such a pointed way. I wonder if her blood grandparents are in her life?

I’d be tempted to ask I’ve had inadvertently done anything to upset her. If she says no then carry on as you are?. I have a granddaughter the same age and conversing with her is like getting blood out of a store when she was so chatty and loving up to age 14. I’ve put it down to teenage hormones!

You say gd is not a blood relative. This to me implies a divorce and bad feelings. If so she might have heard bad things said about you. I have a minor but similar situation with one of my gds. Best ignore it and leave the waters unstirred.

Well, I think she is very rude and her parents should ask her to show some respect to you Temas.

Hithere

Magshard20

Your issue is way bigger than 2 adults living with you and not talking to you

I totally agree Hithere

Juliet27

Hithere

Magshard20

Your issue is way bigger than 2 adults living with you and not talking to you

I totally agree Hithere

I absolutely couldn't live like that... such a lack of respect and gratitude. It would be either family therapy or them leaving my house!!

Does the 15 year old have other grandparents. If so, perhaps she views you as just another person rather than a GP although ignoring anyone the way she is doing is rude. Approach the parents as they will possibly know why she is behaving the way she is.