Child care

I cant find the thread in mumsnet

Could anybody send it to me, please?

I think it also depends on the child. My eldest was very shy and happier at home and only went to play school, as it was then, twice a week. Youngest by comparison was quick to learn, very forward looking and needed to be stretched more and went four times a week and loved it.

Galaxy

And it's ok to be anxious, I was really anxious, and reading MN was very helpful.

I think most of us are anxious with a first child.

Mine went to playgroup or part-time nursery which was attached to the primary school from the age of 3 and loved it. But it was just 2.5 hours per day.

And it's ok to be anxious, I was really anxious, and reading MN was very helpful.

My DD’s friend decided to stay at home until her children started primary school partly because she had 1 child followed closely by an unplanned set of twins and couldn’t afford childcare. She coped well but found that all the mums she knew went back to work which made it hard for her to find people to socialise with. Things have changed so much over the years. I was a SAHM but sent mine to a nursery from 2 and a half for 2 mornings a week just for the experience of a different environment and to prepare them for school.

I've just had a quick look at the thread but haven't read it all. The few answers I've read seem quite supportive and reassuring and the Mum asking the question does seem to have a very high level of anxiety.
From what she says, her child might benefit from spending some time at a nursery or with a grandparent so that she does not end up becoming as anxious as the mother.

I am afraid that Ops description of the thread is not at all how I see it. There were a range of different opinions mostly supportive.

Of course her child wont be deprived how ridiculous. Maybe some of those responding are envious that this particular mum is able to be a stay at home mum for longer than they were able.

Goodness! How pendulum swings.

It must be the norm now, whereas when mine were young, going back to work or study before the youngest child started school was very unusual.

No-one should be made to fee guilty for their choices.

I agree. I was disturbed to heart that so many women were saying that not sending a child to nursery was bad parenting.

No, her child will not be deprived by not going to nursery.

A while ago there seemed to be a group of mothers who were quite vociferous in supporting those who decided, and could afford to, stay at home to look after their own children.
Have they been silenced?

Staying at home doesn't mean staying behind closed doors and not interacting with other people and small children.
Mine were hardly deprived of social contact when they were young.

Those years are precious and it's sad that mothers are made to feel guilty if they want to share them with their own children, even if it means putting their ambitions on hold for a short while.