Mads sorry to hear you are so recently bereaved and hope that what follows is some comfort to you.
I find it interesting that there are such divergent views on here .
We probably should have given more thought to it before DH died but he didn't want to discuss death at all so we didn't. Anyway if we had planned for it and weren't able to have what we had planned that would have been disappointing.
So covid came along and when he died it was all facemasks and no get togethers.
We had an
illegal wake for the immediate family and one close friend back at the house with an Indian takeaway and plenty of nice drinks.
The weather had been atrocious with thunder snow the night before the funeral. The following day our DS flew home to NZ where he had to quarantine for a fortnight in a hotel.
When his own father died a couple of weeks later, another very small funeral with no gathering. So sad.
When his mother died in May we were able to have a "proper" funeral at last and burial with a really lovely gathering back at the house and garden.
We made dishes and cakes from her own recipes and arranged flowers from her own garden with her gt grandchildren helping. It was a special time.
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