I'm not blowing my own trumpet here but...

Kate1949

I have a friend like that kitty. 72, slim, beautiful hair etc. She knows how to wear a scarf if you know what I mean.

I know what you mean about scarves. My scarf tying leaves a lot to be desired (no patience). A friend of the young Princess Diana said she could tie a scarf round her neck and jazz up her whole outfit.

I remember being pleased, on using my 60 pass for the first time and the ticket collector at the train station said:
‘What are you doing with your mother’s pass?”😁

LauraNorderr

Oh no, wait a minute, the other way around

🤣🤣 no LauraNorderr I’m sure your first version was correct.

Hear, hear Kate1949 a compliment gracefully accepted.

Surely, it's good to be recognised for all sorts of things.

I am quite a decent cook and love it when someone compliments me on my food. Similarly, I love my volunteering and I love it even more when a Carer gives me a hug and thanks me for being there.

I loved it when teachers at my children's school said they loved it when another one of our children was coming to their class.

And, if someone thinks I look nice, I love that too.

And, I'm sure the same sort of things happen to Kate

And, I am jealous that it didn't happen to me!

I didn't need validation but it was a nice compliment. Where's the harm? I've had to fight all my life to look halfway decent and I'll take a compliment when offered. I didn't go home and think 'Blimey you're gorgeous'. Far from it. My self esteem has always been very low. It gave me a boost. I'm not one of those daft women who would run off with a Tunisian waiter, believing all they said. He seemed a nice young man who made someone's day.

Not 🤢 eyed MerylStreep. I prefer to be judged by others for what I do and am rather than just for my looks. I certainly don't need validation for my looks from random men.

Thank you both. Obviously now that I'm 74, it's all gone downhill.

Oh no, wait a minute, the other way around

I was told that I have the body and grace of a gazelle and the memory of an elephant.

Good for you Kate and all the other ladies who take pride in looking good.

I am 72 and I can still turn head and I love it!!! Why not.

I am a widow, I am not looking for a lover or to replace my husband. I've had a few offers since my husband died but so far I have graciously declined. Lol. I have white hair and people often refer to me as a silver fox.

Last year I went to a concert and a handsome guy in his 40s. Paid me attention, asking me to dance, flirting with me. Perhaps he should have gone to Specsavers or maybe he was wearing beer goggles or maybe he just has a thing for older women. Who cares, he was nice, respectful and good fun. I wasn't interested in taking things further although he made it obvious that he was quite keen. I just had a nice evening.

A couple of years ago I went on a cruise and I had two suitors......again I didn't choose either of them.

I'm a fussy madam. 😂🤣.

This morning I went shopping, no make up because in the summer my skin looks ok without it. I was freshly showered, hair washed and styled and wore a nice maxi dress (no tights needed with a long dress so was nice and cool). I looked nice and felt good, and again I got lots of smiles and good mornings from both men and women of all ages.

There's no need to be invisible just because you are older. And you don't need to look like mutton dressed as lamb.

We can look stylish at any age and it doesn't have to break the bank. My maxi dress today was £2 from a charity shop. 😂

Kate1949

I'm not sure he was being patronising. That's assuming that in my 50s I looked like an old lady. I think I looked pretty good actually.

Good come back Kate! .... If you think you look pretty good then I am sure you do

I'm not sure he was being patronising. That's assuming that in my 50s I looked like an old lady. I think I looked pretty good actually.

Aveline

Oh dear. Well as long as you were happy. I'd have given him a long cold stare. Can't bear patronising men.

A touch of the 🤢 eyed monster in your statement.

On a holiday tour a couple of years ago,
2 ladies told me they called me the ‘effortlessly glamorous’ one. That was before they knew my name. Ha ha! but what a compliment! Husband still teases me about it. Makes me smile- guess they wouldn’t think that if they saw me in my usual gardening gear.

Oh dear. Well as long as you were happy. I'd have given him a long cold stare. Can't bear patronising men.

Well I floated home kitty. He was gorgeous.

There is a woman who lives in our neighbourhood, a retired teacher, that I always admired for her appearance. Not necessarily a beauty, she has a certain grace about her. She has nice posture, lovely smile and always tidy looking.

A younger co-worker had her as a teacher, and one day said I reminded him of her. I was flattered by the comparison to such a lovely woman.

Smarmy bugger then. Patronising *!

Kate, he doesn't sound weird or a creep. That sounds lovely!

Creep

When I was in my 50s, I was waiting for the bus after work. A very handsome young man (around 35) came towards me and said 'Hello'. I sort of mumbled hello back. He said 'May I say how lovely you look?' I said 'Erm thank you'. He replied 'Not at all. Credit where credit's due. Have you got someone waiting for you at home?' I said 'Yes'. He said 'Well he's a very lucky man'.
When I told my husband, he said 'Weirdo'.

People actually asked how old you were? Only old people would be asked their age. Pretty patronising responses.

I participated in a Pilates sample lesson taught by a friend during a summer festival in a nearby park last year. When it ended, 3 teenage girls came up to me and said “When we are older( or was it “old”?) we want to look just like you!”

A young woman in her 20s tapped me on the shoulder as we were standing in a bus queue a few months later and said something similar. This time, I did hear it correctly and she did say “older”! I am 73.

Since I've retired I just don't care how I look. Not having to worry about squeezing into the correct clothes and shoes etc and plastering my face with expensive gunk has led to me looking much younger! Let yourselves go ladies!

Many years ago I was the only person in the lift at work. A guy got in and complimented me on my appearance and lovely perfume. As he got out he said 'thank you for a lovely start to my day'
I've never forgotten it, what a good feeling it gave me.
Now I am retired, I shower, wash and blow dry my hair every morning. I wear makeup and nice clothes because it makes ME feel better.
I did it all throughout lockdown too.