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am i being an old fool

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finns Thu 07-Sep-23 11:29:51

i’ve always wanted to be a midwife/ nurse and come from a family of nurses and paramedics police military etc.

i started training in my 20s but was happily sidetracked by having my own babies and decided not to be a career woman ha ! I did get a degree later and have done lots of fabulous jobs, but the dream of midwife never left me. Now my children are mostly grown up and i thought about going for it - to finally have the time to myself and dedicate myself to my own dreams. I could start the journey by college and renewing old qualifications as a mature student alongside my life experiences of birth and losses and everything in between, but yet again i’ve had a crisis of confidence- am I just being a past it old fool ?, all be it a young 53yr still lively not ready to write myself off lady ? I’d be 58 at qualifying
is it too late ?

Poppyred Thu 07-Sep-23 11:35:09

It’s never too late! I always wanted to be a midwife but life got in the way….and yes I do regret not going for it. Good luck x

Hithere Thu 07-Sep-23 11:37:46

Go for it!

Chocolatelovinggran Thu 07-Sep-23 11:53:20

Think of all the experiences you could bring to your new role- a labouring woman might well be comforted by your obvious maturity. Good luck .

dogsmother Thu 07-Sep-23 11:58:31

Oh go for it!
Midwifery would have been wonderful, another here who didn’t complete nurse training, continued however in an allied healthcare setting.
You have probably got 10 years + post qualification that will include updates so you do have time.

DerbyshireLass Thu 07-Sep-23 12:04:48

Carpe Diem!!!!!

ALT57 Thu 07-Sep-23 12:10:36

Here you go

You are never too old go for it women need you!

sodapop Thu 07-Sep-23 12:12:29

Go for it finns your life experience as well as your training will be invaluable.
Good luck.

eazybee Thu 07-Sep-23 12:14:39

Definitely go for it.
I know a nurse who didn't complete her training, but after other jobs, returned and retrained at least twenty years later, and another nurse who qualified in her twenties, then trained as a teacher but returned to nursing in her late fifties, just in time for the pandemic.
Both thoroughly enjoyed it and are still working.

aggie Thu 07-Sep-23 12:15:35

Go for it ! Wonderful job !

Daddima Thu 07-Sep-23 12:21:14

I would never have successfully breast fed three children had it been left to the young whippersnapper of a sister who was ‘supporting’ me. Next day she was replaced by a much older nurse, who instantly made me feel much more relaxed, and got me off to a flying start.
Another vote for ‘go for it’!

pascal30 Thu 07-Sep-23 12:37:35

definitely go for it.. you bring wisdom and compassion alongside your other numerous skills

grandtanteJE65 Thu 07-Sep-23 12:40:53

It may be too late to find employment when you are qualified, as the cult of the young is still in full blast if you are over 50 and looking for any kind of job.

But don't let that stop you.

The satisfaction of finally qualifying as the midwife you have always wanted to be will be immense, and during your training you may well meet people who will realise that you have valuable experience and be happy to employ you as soon as you qualify.

If not, and you are willing to travel, I doubt that Doctors without Borders, The Red Cross or any other organizations that provides health care where the need is greatest will cavil at your age.

Go for it, and good luck!

AmberSpyglass Thu 07-Sep-23 12:44:09

What about training to be a doula?

nanna8 Thu 07-Sep-23 12:48:25

Yes- go for it and good luck, hope it all pans out for you!

welbeck Thu 07-Sep-23 12:53:03

the nhs is so short staffed, they don't care what age people are.
plenty of jobs vacant.

BlueBelle Thu 07-Sep-23 13:26:43

I got the best career I ever had had aged 53/4 And had 15/16 years working within it

Shelflife Thu 07-Sep-23 13:47:04

You must go for it , women will be lucky to have you!!

Shelmiss Thu 07-Sep-23 13:50:22

I’d say definitely go for it - I’m nearly 61 and am about to start a PhD at university in October. Never too old!

Oasthouse Thu 07-Sep-23 13:53:00

Far be it to rain on any one's parade but I sense that maybe you are looking at this dream through rose tinted glasses.
I am a registered nurse and have worked for the NHS continuously for 42 years.
Working within the NHS is incredibly stressful, short staffed and many other negatives. Will you be prepared for the long shifts and internal rotation, revalidation with the NMC and continual practice development, accountability when things go wrong and lack of support from management?
I work alongside a nurse who gave up her midwifery qualification, I believe she did so because of the amount of social problems she was encountering and lack of support.
Also after 60 your own health will start to suffer from the work load and stress. I am 61 and most of my colleagues are MUCH younger and more inclined towards IT work rather than actual hands on bedside nursing. I find I never have time off when I'm not worrying about an issue or problem at work
I do wish you well if you go for it but would urge you to consider your own health and well being first.

BladeAnnie Thu 07-Sep-23 13:58:04

I qualified as a Mental Health Nurse at the age of 53 and my only regret was I should have done it years ago. Absolutely go for it - wishing you the very best of luck shamrock

finns Thu 07-Sep-23 14:17:18

ladies you are all incredible ! amazing experiences and stories !

Just to touch on a few points generally raised about my experience and ideas ha ! I did start a placement many moons ago on the maternity ward and experienced a live birth ! but left before any c- section experience (never had a section myself) but went on to all of my own births - became a breast feeding peer supporter at the local children’s centre with the new mums (no matter what the feeding choices were) and also went into support female victims of crime with victim support: alongide my own female friends and family and their own experiences as a mum and a birthing partner. I have many friends in the NHS some without degrees who have worked to managerial positions and are in love with the roles and some who have left nursing disillusioned with the current NHS as it stands. i’ve had many salty old stories of how rubbish it all is and how could anyone cope in the current circumstances. But fundamentally if no one wants to support women at their most vulnerable (ie NHS shortages ) what is the answer ? don’t bother at all ?

Nannarose Thu 07-Sep-23 14:29:01

I am a retired midwife & health visitor, and am with those who say 'think carefully'.
I dn't think your age is the slightest barrier to training, but you need to consider:
1. You don't mention funding, and you need to think about it.
2. Midwifery is mostly a physically demanding job.
3. Mental resilience - given your family experience, I think you are better placed than many to cope; and I have found that 'latecomers' to the NHS are sometimes better able to weather the difficulties than those of us whose whole working life has been bound up in it.

I do think that considering being a doula or breastfeeding supporter would be worthwhile, but I do get that it may not give you what you are looking for.
Considerng how long the process takes, I think you could just begin your application, which will, I think help you to make up your mind.

Grandmadinosaur Thu 07-Sep-23 14:59:01

Go for it. You wouldn’t want to look back in a few years time and say I wish I’d done it. Wishing you good luck. You can do it.

crazyH Thu 07-Sep-23 15:12:52

Go for it - you are young enough to realise your dreams. Good luck !