Lodger problem

Same here sounds like our grandson who lives with us 🤣🤣 but it’s easier to tell them to clean up than it is with a lodger!

I suspect he gets moved on a lot! On the other hand, did he expect you would do the cleaning and clothes washing? Has he come straight from his parental home where he wasn’t expected to do anything?

You can give him a weeks notice, no need to give a reason and perhaps for your next lodger be very clear what you expect re cleanliness.

Just a thought, is he depressed? Has he come out of a long term relationship and doesnt know what to do now?

I’ve had several lodgers over the years, and the best one, in many ways (!) was someone who was obsessionally tidy and even had everything organised by height and width in the kitchen larder. I was living with my boyfriend, now husband, in his house at the time and never worried about my flat at all while the tidy one was there.

And from now on, if anyone stays with us for a while, from a few days to a few months, I say that we have a cleaner and she will clean their room at least once a week and change the bedding. I factor the cost of her wages into their lodging rate, if we are charging anything.

I hope it goes well. 🌷🌷🌷.

PS I had my managers son staying for a while, terrible mistake! I was away for several weeks and came back to a mouse infestation who were all gorging on the many pizza remains which were in the empty pizza boxes all over the flat. We found one dead mouse who looked like he had died from obesity!

He (the lodger, not the mouse!) was asked to leave by the end of the month, I gave him the period rent free so that he could go to AirBnB which worked very well. His mother wasn’t surprised and in fact apologised for his behaviour. 🙄✅

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We had lodgers for a few years after the kids left home, some were good, some were “unsuitable”.

One very smart young man looked ideal, when he moved in he said he was a Jehovas Witness, fine no problem there.
4 months later he was growing Cannabis in the en-suite.

Another announced he was a police inspector, he thought it was OK to use as a love nest for his very loud lady friend who you could hear 3 rooms away.

You just can’t tell.

Talk to him and explain how he is creating a health hazard. Give him time to make amends nut if he doesn't then terminate. He may be neurodiverse - it's harder for some people who are ND to prioritise.