Being called a 'Guy'

I don't mind "guys" but "girls" is just patronizing and twee.

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Germanshepherdsmum

I don’t mind ‘guys’ but can’t stand women being called, or calling themselves, ‘girls’.

Or even worse GSM ' girlies' makes me cringe.

When she was well over 80 dh’s old aunt still referred to her bridge-playing cronies of much the same age as ‘the girls’. 😂

I hate being told not to worry about things as there are other more important things going on.
Today I have given some thought to whose bin was blowing down the street and whether the Tesco man would cope in this weather.

I prefer in a restaurant being asked if we are ready to order. No need for "guys, girls or folks"which some may not like.
In other situations surely you plural is enough.

I am neither sort of guy. Not a man and certainly not intended for the top of a bonfire. My DiL always refers to DH and myself as guys. Hate t .

I hate it as well, and don't get me started on 'can I get'!! Of course you can get but I'm behind the coffee machine & it's my job to get!!

Galaxy

I hate being told not to worry about things as there are other more important things going on.
Today I have given some thought to whose bin was blowing down the street and whether the Tesco man would cope in this weather.

I hate being told not to worry about things as there are other more important things going on.

It raises my hackles a tad, too.

The minutiae of millions of people's lives is made up of trivialities whilst devastating events are taking place all over the globe. What should we do - live life on a razor's edge focusing only on those events and never talking about anything but them?

No one can or does live like that.

And why the assumption that chatting about trivialities prevents you from caring about, or noticing, the more serious things that are happening? You only have to look at the threads on N&P to see that is not the case.

I think the reason it irritates me so much is because I flippin' well know there are more important things to worry about - even in my own relatively comfortable life, there are more important things to worry about, but I'm just spontaneously responding to an interesting observation, not campaigning on it!

When you live or work in the USA you get used to being called "Guys" or "Girls". Groups of women often refer to themselves as girls. Cringeworthy yes, but thats the culture.

Thye can call me anything they want, as long as I get good service from a cheerful staff member.

So long as people are not intentionally being rude they can call me whatever they like. I prefer to believe that in general people are trying to be helpful and pleasant (even if they sometimes go about it in the wrong way for me) and usually they are. The expression I hate above all in 'Hun' - I don't know why anyone outside of the USA would want to use it - but I accept it with a smile when I have to.

It doesn’t bother me,I m so used to it,guys is gender neutral now. Seems quite friendly and normal to my ear

I like it, sounds friendly to.me.. much prefer it to Ladies

I am with you (again) on these ^minor irritations Dickens... 🙄

We can hold more than one thought in our heads at once!

(From your spaghetti friend)

BlueBelle

It doesn’t bother me,I m so used to it,guys is gender neutral now. Seems quite friendly and normal to my ear

If "guys" is now gender neutral, why isn't it "gals"?

Equally (or even more) horrible - but why??

Oh yes, and Ma'am drives me bonkers!

Its fine i think....it gets used where I work all the time and we are a team of around 50 women

Guys is fine for me, it includes everyone.

It makes me cringe when women refer to themselves as girls.

Of course there are more important things to worry about, but I still don’t like it. Especially when it’s a couple or a mixed sex group of obviously over 60s.

I’ve just realised that I’ve never heard it in the pub where I regularly have lunch with 2 ex colleagues - male and female. And yet the waiting staff are nearly always the sort of perky young things who so often seem to think it’s de rigeur nowadays.

As long as it's said in a friendly and cheerful manner I honestly don't mind what I'm called.

I know someone who hailed her staff each morning as 'hi guys' which didn't go down too well at all.

I’m not keen on guys, but don’t mind girls or even gals at all.
Even better, I was served yesterday by someone who said “Bye lovely”

It made me laugh when my 4 year old GC, when we were looking after her for the last day before she started school said “ I’ve finished with you guys now”. That put us in our place!

I use "guys"

Words change meaning after time

A guy is a man, guys are a group of people of whatever gender

Urmstongran

I don’t mind it at all. Sounds cheery and friendly to me whenever it’s been used and I always feel warmly included by it.
😊

Me too.