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vampirequeen Fri 27-Oct-23 18:46:03

This week I've been attending a Crown Court trial in the public gallery. To say my eyes have been opened in several ways is a total understatement.

Firstly I was stunned by the level of security. I expected a bag search and metal detector but I got confused about the drink I had in my bag. I thought the man had asked me to throw it away so I said, 'No, problem. Where's the bin?' This created some concern and the man repeated himself. He didn't want me to throw it away. He wanted to see me drink from the bottle. Apparently it's to make sure that the bottle doesn't contain acid. All courts share news of what incidents have occurred then they all set protections in place.

They patrol the public areas all the time and have CCTV. They also have to be careful that fire hoses can't be used as weapons, either to strangle or hit with.

All cutlery in the cafe is really soft wood that bends when you use it. This is to stop them being used as stabbing weapons.

We got chatting to a family who seemed very pleasant and, to be honest, they remained very pleasant with us. It turns out they're incredibly violent and well known in the Court.

One of the security guards told me that I was the most innocent person in the ways of the world that he had ever met.

The case I was at was very unpleasant as it involved a sexual offence against a child. We went because we had reported this person to the police in 2017. The police took us seriously but they passed it on to Social Services who dismissed as liars. They said that DH was being a vindictive man who was trying to cause trouble and told him that if he continued with his allegations they (social services) would make sure that he never saw his children again. He couldn't take that risk so he let it go and we watched helplessly but the man seemed to stop (although we thought that he probably hadn't.) Our hands were tied. We'd given over all the evidence that we had and it had not only been dismissed but had come with a threat. Sadly this had given the person the opportunity to continue to offend. Fortunately, this time, the case was taken seriously and the creature was found guilty by every member of the jury.

What has opened my eyes about this? It's how many people in the family still refuse to believe that he has done anything wrong. They say that it was all a mistake or a miscarriage of justice. We were in the court room. We heard the evidence and know what he did. They weren't there. They just want to brush it under the carpet and forget it happened. We've argued that this man potentially poses a threat to the children of the family, in the hope that they would at least be concerned about their own but no one seems to want to know. Apparently we're just being nasty. So we've told them that if anything else ever happens then it's on their heads.

We thought that once he'd been found guilty, people would see that we were right but sadly we're still the bad guys.

Germanshepherdsmum Fri 27-Oct-23 19:31:08

It’s not untypical. People refuse to accept the obvious and blame everyone but the person found guilty.

specki4eyes Fri 27-Oct-23 19:35:04

I was chatting with a friend who, like me, has lived in rural France for many years. We were having a 'shock horror' conversation about the lawlessness we hear about on the British news reports. (Yes there is violence everywhere but it seems off the scale in UK now). My friend's sister is a UK teacher in what could be described as a once sleepy, country town. She relates horror stories of feral youngsters who are beyond being disciplined by the teachers for their anarchic behaviour because the teachers are fearful of repercussions from the kids' parents.
The OP's story illustrates this attitude but on another, more frightening level. It is behaviour learned from feckless parenting and flows out into life beyond.

Oreo Fri 27-Oct-23 19:42:51

You must feel so angry and let down by SS, and tbh so was the child he had offended against and any other child that he was then free to assault.
You did the right thing, never forget that.

Oreo Fri 27-Oct-23 19:44:27

specki4eyes

I was chatting with a friend who, like me, has lived in rural France for many years. We were having a 'shock horror' conversation about the lawlessness we hear about on the British news reports. (Yes there is violence everywhere but it seems off the scale in UK now). My friend's sister is a UK teacher in what could be described as a once sleepy, country town. She relates horror stories of feral youngsters who are beyond being disciplined by the teachers for their anarchic behaviour because the teachers are fearful of repercussions from the kids' parents.
The OP's story illustrates this attitude but on another, more frightening level. It is behaviour learned from feckless parenting and flows out into life beyond.

Oh there will be similar stories in most European countries, but maybe it’s swept more under the carpet there or under reported generally.

pascal30 Fri 27-Oct-23 20:57:30

You definitely did the right thing Vampirequeen, you are very courageous.. hold your head high,, we need more people like you,,

BlueBelle Fri 27-Oct-23 21:01:58

Totally agree Oreo they don’t have Daily mail and The Sun over in mainland Europe do they ? So so much to answer for

Iam64 Fri 27-Oct-23 21:20:55

Thanks vampirequeen for what you and mr v tried todo for these children.
Thanks also for posting about your experience of the court abd the way the convicted man’s family continue to deny any offences.
The evidence must have been very strong for conviction to occur. Horrible to think of

Jaxjacky Fri 27-Oct-23 22:08:34

Crime rate in Europe 2023 specki4eyes
1Catania, Italy64.6
2Marseille, France64.4
3Birmingham, United Kingdom63.1
4Coventry, United Kingdom63.1
5Charleroi, Belgium62.8
6Naples, Italy62.6
7Montpellier, France61.6
8Liege, Belgium59.4
9Grenoble, France58.7
10Nantes

Jaxjacky Fri 27-Oct-23 22:14:21

Sadly I’m not surprised vampirequeen there is a cult of denial, across the whole range of society, ‘my son/daughter/husband et al, has done xx for charity, a good role model etc, etc’
What you have done is admirable, difficult and thank goodness in this instance the perpetrator was penalised.

MayBee70 Fri 27-Oct-23 22:38:03

Jaxjacky

Crime rate in Europe 2023 specki4eyes
1Catania, Italy64.6
2Marseille, France64.4
3Birmingham, United Kingdom63.1
4Coventry, United Kingdom63.1
5Charleroi, Belgium62.8
6Naples, Italy62.6
7Montpellier, France61.6
8Liege, Belgium59.4
9Grenoble, France58.7
10Nantes

Crikey. Birmingham worse than Naples. I remember, when we used to travel round Europe; when we went through Naples it was a case of lock the car doors and drive through as quickly as possible. And, if you get stuck in a traffic jam hope that no one steals your car tyres while you’re not moving! As for the other points, I know of a family in which something that someone in the family did is completely brushed under the carpet; it’s as if they’re all in denial. As for teaching I’m so glad my daughter left the profession. Abuse from parents on a regular basis and fear of being stabbed.

fancythat Sat 28-Oct-23 11:34:04

I used to read some lighthearted books written by policemen.
They opened my eyes.

As to court cases, I once visited a few as an observer[went with someone who wasnt sure if she wanted to enter the legal profession or not].
What I found the most profound was, the legal people all knew each other. Obvious really. I just hadnt thought about it.
So cases almost appeared to be sorted out between the legal people, no matter which side they were defending or prosecuting. Felt like the person being accused was almost an irrelevance.

Iam64 Sat 28-Oct-23 11:36:25

Are you suggesting there’s no law in the way cases are settled, fancy that? Lawyers take the next case, whether they’re defending or prosecuting makes no difference to the way they work

Germanshepherdsmum Sat 28-Oct-23 12:13:36

That’s utter nonsense fancythat. Of course a lot of lawyers know each other and are friendly outside the courtroom. They show one another professional respect. They don’t ‘sort out cases between themselves’. That really is a scurrilous slur on the profession. You see lawyers chatting and think they’re stitching up the accused? Think again. Each has a duty of care to their client.

dogsmother Sat 28-Oct-23 12:23:43

Vampire 💐 to you for standing and speaking up.
Lawyers advocate the truth, they are professionals and bound to act as such. So FancyThat. I don’t believe for a moment there is any corruption of pre sorting out between themselves.

Theexwife Sat 28-Oct-23 12:24:51

fancythat Of course they are likely to know each other and could well be friends, they all want to do their jobs well and have a reputation to uphold so do not make deals that would be detrimental to their clients.

There a two brothers who are barristers in our family, they get on very well but are competitive when it comes to their professional reputations.

vampirequeen Sat 28-Oct-23 13:00:28

I didn't see any evidence of fixing. I saw barristers talking and chatting but they're only like any other people who work in the same environment. Footballers and other sportsmen are friends with each other. It doesn't mean that they're fixing matches or races.

Once in court they did the best they could for their clients whether as prosecutor or defender. The jury made the decision as to guilt.

fancythat Sat 28-Oct-23 13:47:37

I must have come across wrong.

I didnt mean fixing.

I meant, that the accused is barely consulted in the courtroom.

The cases I saw, the judge checks something with 1 barrister, asks another about law number whatever in a law book, or named case a v b from 1976 or something.
The accused barely gets looked at or consulted during proceedings.

Nodded occasionally and that was about it.

welbeck Sat 28-Oct-23 13:51:07

the accused is rarely well versed in legal procedure, the rules of evidence etc.
how could he she be consulted in the court.

fancythat Sat 28-Oct-23 14:06:40

well that is what i mean really.

it was above their heads.

Luckygirl3 Sat 28-Oct-23 14:06:58

Attending court is quite an eye-opener - I used to take groups of students into court to see how it all worked.

Well done vampire for exposing these wrongs.

fancythat Sat 28-Oct-23 14:07:36

fancythat

well that is what i mean really.

it was above their heads.

they look like bit players in their own sentencing.

TwiceAsNice Sat 28-Oct-23 14:08:26

I don’t know anything about court room lawyers but I worked in child protection for 14 years. In my experience social workers are either excellent and go the extra mile or are horrendously incompetent. There didn’t seem to be anything in between

Germanshepherdsmum Sat 28-Oct-23 14:12:12

The parties see their lawyer for consultations outside the courtroom. They sometimes pass notes to their lawyer during the case, on a point the prosecution has raised or which has come out of a witness’s evidence. The accused gives evidence unless they have declined to do so - being asked questions isn’t being ignored is it? It is however singularly unlikely that the lawyers will need the input of their clients on a point of law. I don’t know what input you expect non-lawyers to have during a trial.

fancythat Sat 28-Oct-23 15:29:59

I expect them to speak at least!

In one I saw, the man was in a box at the back.
I didnt see the beginning of the trial.
I think the man may have nodded once and that was it. He may have been asked 1 question?
Maybe he had declined to give evidence?
It all seemed a fait acompli.
He got no note.