Goodbye to my Annus Horribilis. How was your year, lol!?

Kalu, sending condolences seems trite as there are no words to cover what you're feeling. But I can relate completely to where you are. It is beyond horrible.

Awful.

Awful

Awful. Sadly, all caused by other people's insecurities and unfounded jealousy. 2024 is set to be much the same. I'm just grateful for the few true friends we have and the support they are still giving us.

Nana75, whilst your husband refuses to get counselling, it shouldn't stop you. Anybody who was truly sorry for such an emotional betrayal would not threaten to start emailing again. That is not only hurtful but rather controlling behaviour. That can't be easy for you and getting a neutral outsider's assistance on how to change the dynamics of your relationship so that you do not have to suffer such crushing emotions, can only help.

There are so many heartbreaking posts here.I sincerely hope all who have suffered find some peace and ? happiness in the future.My own suffering in 2023 seems to pale in significance in comparison. My DH decided in order to "cheer himself up"he would start an emotional email affair with someone from his long distant past.The discovery of this crushed me.Especially as he resorted to deceit and lies to cover some of what he was doing.I,m" trying to get over it now "but it isn,t easy.I'm not sure what the future holds as he will not contemplate counselling.The" affair "has finished..,for now.However when we are having a bad day he resorts to threats to restart emailing.Watch this space,as they say!

I feared I had over shared my personal Annus Horribilis and I appreciate the kind heartfelt responses of understanding. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

I’m so very sorry Kalu. 💐

Kalu 💐

My year went along similar lines to Hev61. Although not as bad as Celieanne86. (((hugs))) It was a c**p year.

Kalu - you express things so accurately for many of us. 💐🙏🏽

My past 2 years have been hell, I'm hoping 2024 is my year 🙏

Kalu - my heart goes out to you .
This is not the time for cliches even if the words were there, but

None of the above applies to me now.
All hope has gone, life will not get brighter and there is no light at the end of the tunnel and it won’t be a happy new year.

My DH is now having palliative care at home for terminal cancer. We will do our best to make the most of what time we have left together, it’s the only option left to us now

I am normally an upbeat, always a solution, forever the optimist type of character but this has defeated me during this emotional roller coaster, hellish life. I will go on as I must but I know I will never fully recover.

My husband died from renal failure in October after being unwell for a few months. We didn't know exactly what was wrong until early September. He suffered a great deal during his illness but never complained, always had a smile for me and everyone else. It all seemed to happen so fast and the shock of him going was utterly horrendous. My heart is broken, I miss him so much.

Hev61 I’m so sorry for your loss(es), unfortunately it does not ‘get better’ but you do learn to (mostly) live with your grief. I have attended a group counselling programme run by Cruse and go to a Grief Kind cafe run by volunteers from Sue Ryder in our local John Lewis - it is good to connect with other grieving people and I have found it helps me.

Blimey. I thought we had it bad when my DD called me in tears this morning saying that she and her partner had to move into a hotel for a few days. The house they bought a few months ago is deemed unsafe because the cellar is flooded again. The water is still rising and all the electric cables are in the cellar.

What is so weird only her garden and the next door garden are flooded. Nationwide Building Society, their insurer is brilliant.

What she experienced is very, very distressing but is not a matter of life and death.

I read online that if you experienced a bereavement, it will take at least two years before you began to feel normal again.

English is not first my first language, I am not pedantic about the English language or any languages. I am not offended by LOL in the title, I interpreted it as “If I don’t laugh, I will end up crying.”

my husband Frank died on the 18th December. It was his funeral yesterday. I loved him so much, How am I going to cope wihout him. Does life get any easier without the love of your life.

Thinking of you Dorian. So sorry to hear your news.

Dorian, sending you all condolencies.

My year was horrible.
My husbnd died on thre 18h of December 2023. Ir was his funeral yesterday.
I loved him so much.

Hi I too hate the lol but I find lots of people use it I too have had a dreadful two years actually my son who has learning disabilities had kidney cancer in Jan 2022 thankfully removing the kidney was a success regular scans and bloods for 5yrs I was so angry he already has enough to contend with and then last year his sister was diagnosed with bowel cancer originally she was having a hysterectomy we were so lucky as our GP ordered a FIT test as a precaution so we lost last year with all tests major op thank god she is OK too but today my son is 47 my daughter is going into hospital for gallbladder removal so I'm praying for a healthy new year for us all then my husband receives a letter yesterday he needs a precautionary MRI as his PSA is up two times in a row doo6🙏🙏🤞🤞

Yes, my DH collapsed at work and had an aortic repair just before Christmas. But now recovering fairly well.
But so many have had really bad times and I am grateful for so many things.
Thanks for starting the thread.
Makes me think " How can we help? "

Oh dear, I thought I had had a bad year but readings some of these posts I realise I have a lot to be thankful for
I really hope 2024 will be a better year for you all and for world peace as well.

Our year has been challenging to say the least. In April my husband choked on some curry and was rushed into Intensive Care. The registrar at the hospital told me that he didn’t expect him to survive and if he did he would have a brain injury as he was deprived of oxygen for so long. Against all the odds my husband not only pulled through but made, eventually, a full recovery. In October, I myself almost died and spent 6 weeks in hospital. I have had to learn how to walk again and currently am living in our dining room in a hospital bed as the stairs are an impossibility at the moment. I can only manage a few steps and stand for about 3 minutes maximum. I also have a catheter which is not a great deal of fun. I am 57.

On the 27th December, we had to make the heartbreaking decision to have our dog put to sleep after 10 years of beautiful companionship.

Although this has been bloody challenging, I have had many positives to take from the year. Our family and friends have been wonderfully supportive. We have also had a massive reminder of what’s important in life. Having said that, I am hoping for a substantially easier 2024. Love and prayers to all those who have lost loved ones this year 💐